ok you guys are right

[wherealltheladyz]

You know almost every tips you guys give are spot on. For instance, there is this high school friend of mine that we use to be together. Then I went to college, and she was just working. About 7 years pass then we got reconnected. I was acting all needy at first wanting to see her right away when she first give me her number. She didn't want to meet up. However, I tried the texting stuff. I would text her asking what she is doing so i could go see her. She reply with oh cool. I told myself no big problem. I didn't respond, and then she just msg me again asking why whats up what you want to do. I also notice another time where I told her I want to see her, and that I got some drinks and we could talk. SHe didn't reply, two days later she call me at night around 1 asking could she come over.
What I notice was that I treated her like anyone else the second time around. I didn't make myself available. When she calls, I told her I was about to sleep cause I got school which is true. I guess women respect that.

Now to this other girl that I actually like. When I first got her number, I waited 7 days till I text her. I also didn't act all needy, and I was able to take her out on 2 dates. However, now I'm beginning to act all needy. I would text her asking her random stuff when I know I should do it in person instead cause I have classes with her. She would always reply to my text, sometimes in less then a minute. Then after my rampage of texting, I think i **** thigns up. SHe didn't reply to my text, so I didn't bother to text her. I almost went Mr. Nice Guy, and was about to text her apologizing for texting her all this stuff. Lucky I didn't. What is the best way to stop thinking about her. Is there anyway to rekindle things with this girl, or did I mess it up for good?

I also notice that my other failures is when I get to emotionally attach to these girls. I should just treat them as anyone else. I'm just going to erase this girl number and see how it goes.

 

[seethehoop]

Don't erase her number. Personally I would never erase a number of a girl I know, if you meet in a bar and she doesn't respond then yeah delete. This is someone you have classes with and know so don't delete her. Best thing is back off a little, I'm not saying nc but give her some space this will show you ain't needy. Don't text her for awhile she will notice. In the meantime get out of you own headspace. Enjoy a hobby or set yourself a goal to improve yourself, workout etc. I always feel like I have a clear head after a big cardio session.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

First: read my article, "Texting is KILLING your chances with her."

Texting is for wimps. It also makes you look too available. In between dates you shouldn't be going all chatty Cathy with her anyway - how is she supposed to fantasize about you and build you up in her mind when you're cutting her thoughts about you short with a text every 2 seconds?

You have to think of things from her perspective. A girl doesn't want a guy who appears to be obsessing over her. Those kinds of dudes creep her out. You texting her all the time makes you look like that guy.

Plus, now she has documented evidence of you acting all AFC on her. No bueno. At least with a phone call there would be no physical proof around of you sounding wimpy (unless she recorded the call, which rarely happens).

At this point the odds are it's a lost 'cause. BUT, keep the number, stop texting her, wait a few days, then CALL her and ask her out again. Either she'll say "yes" or give you 1000 other reasons why she can't go, i.e. "no."

And if she does agree to meet up, DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR ANYTHING. Just act like your texting spree didn't happen and show her a good time.