ok, dont do THIS! ( help me ive gone too far )

[theonedude]

ok, everyone.

first of all, o man,

ok, heres the deal, i was talking to my girl tonight and it was going good untill i started making jokes aobut her, and because i had a monotone voice for some reason, some of the jokes came off as me sounding like an *******,

and then before that i was cracking jokes at her.
she said she was drawing on her hand,
and then i said, " yea because it makes you that much hotter."
and i soudned like the biggest jerk ever
then she said that her mom needed to call someone so she had to go.

then i realized what i had did and puked.

i dont know what to do.
i think im gonna call tomorrow and just say that im really sorry.

i want to keep her, but i dont think that she will because i've only been calling her once a week for the last month, and we only talked for 15 mins each time.

ok, someone help me i need to think of something to say to her tomorrow.

what im planning on is just saying that last night i was trying to be funny, but i really did sound like an *******, and that im sorry.

but i dont want to sound too AFC.

obviously im over-thinking, and getting way too worked up, but please, i need any help i can get with this.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

Just go to her tomorrow, explain to her calmly that you usually aren't like that, something was on your mind at the time. Say you are sorry ONCE and ONLY ONCE. You'll be fine.

 

[theonedude]

ok, im thinking that maybe i should just ask after i apologise n say that i sense somethin is wrong n that we need to talk about it and then ask if she wants to continue dating.

(i feel me getting more AFC by the minute

 

[theonedude]

does everyone agree with ShizamDaMan??

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by theonedude
does everyone agree with ShizamDaMan??

Yes. But I have a question: you said you only call her once a week for 15 minutes, but do you actaully SEE her during the week? Aside from school/work? As in "dates."

 

[theonedude]

no, and thats whats worryign me too.

ok, i asked n she was busy, i ask her about every other week.
dude, i feel like **** right now.

 

[theonedude]

ok, i would really like more opinions, i know im souding like an *******, but i feel like if i screw this up, im gonna be a jerk, and if i go too far, ill be an AFC, basically, i have to do this right, or else ive failed on what ive put several months into.

that would be me not being an AFC or jerk any more, and becoming something better.

please! anybody!

 

[Eternal]

Calm down dude, you're starting to sound like a model that got a nail broken...If you tried asking her out every week and she was busy, then you should have dropped it and moved on anyway. Why spend months talking to one girl who is always busy when there are hundreds, no, thousands out there that are better. I say this: apologize once to her then go out there and get more girls numbers and get them on dates.

 

[Da Game]

Listen to crazykid. He's right. Consider this a learning experience, apologize once to the girl, and move along with whatever. I've had times where I thought I was being a complete @sshole, I apologized the next day and the girl said "huh? You weren't that bad..." and it just made me look weak. So now I never apologize unless I make her cry.

You're just worrying too much.

 

[lilprincess_16]

 

[semag]

Anyone notice that when a girl comes on here, they all have the same vibe coming from their posts??

Just an observation, not meant to offend anyone

 

[Da Game]

Originally posted by semag
Anyone notice that when a girl comes on here, they all have the same vibe coming from their posts??

Just an observation, not meant to offend anyone

Yeah... The "tell your feelings" thing is pretty popular.

Not ripping - we like girls here. Right?

 

[theonedude]

well, i feel kinda retarded because last night, i called her and said sorry. then she said sorry for what? and then i guess she wasn't even pissed. AHH!! i am really confused and feel really stupid right now, so now i need to go and read the bible or something in order not to overdo a situation like this any more.

it was kinda bad tho cuz then she said, " thank you for being concerned i guess, i dont really know what to say"
then i said," anything that doesnt make me feel retarded will do"

o well, thats what H.S, is for, i'll be ready by college hopefully.

P.S. thanks for all the help tho, christ i feel dumb

 

[lilprincess_16]

 

[Smooth as Anything]

Originally posted by lilprincess_16
maybe she just had a major case of pms or she really did have to go becuz her mom DID need the phone? lol

guys dont get me wrong...girls r just as scared of rejections as you, but trust me telling someone, no matter girl or boy, straight out that you like them works a lot easier and faster then messing around trying to depict signs and what not, plus u get the yes or the no and then that the beginning or end of it

sry if i gave out a *bad vibe* just trying to give the truth...

I hate to say this, but uhhh....

Don't giveout advice, thank you.

With all due respect, I've come on my own to learn that any word a women says in a game presented agaisnt her will be bias to the point where it will be dysfunctional.

It's not how you say it, it's what you say -- and do not cater to AFCs.

"Girls are just as scared of being rejected as men" (something to that degree)....

I know for a fact that any established DJ on this board has no fear of rejection. Approach, perhaps, but rejection -- no.

If a girl rejects you in the manner of an excuse, let her make the first move. What she did was disrespectful, and to try and gain her back is to make an act of deserpation. If you screwup, you either next her -- or let her come to you.

If he had merely not anylzed the situation beyond the possibility of what she said being a lie... There would be no problem.

Let the men take care of it, I've seen women give out advice before. As I, myself, have said before:

"Girls do not want to love you, you must make them love you."

 

[lilprincess_16]

 

[aBAzLLnA]

couple things:

1) dont buy her a teddy bear. whatever you do, dont buy it for the reason of apologizing...but if u do, find a damn cheap one, dont waste money

2) you completely overreacted, and overanalyzed like everything! K.I.S.S = keep it simple stupid. you said something that wasnt even remotely insulting...i hope u realize that.

3) you should really get a date and SEE her, enough of this phone ****

lilprincess_16

what you have said on this thread is complete garbage. who the hell said that males have to do everything? and we arent afraid of women that would

"knock u down w/ a *****y insult..."
ill give ur two cents back, i dont want it

~ivan

 

[Smooth as Anything]

Originally posted by lilprincess_16
give me a break...

guys are just as afraid of being rejected...

Get out of here, you don't get it.

i've heard that before the *i dont want to go talk to her because i cant approach her*

Right.

its more or less the actions she will give you that stops you from approaching her...w/o fear of rejection you would approach anyone you like because you know they will welcome you...but unfornately thats life for ya...

No it isn't. It's the fear of confrontation, despite the situation. Get out of here, you don't get it.

dont try to over exult yourself in your attempt to justify that your aren't afraid the woman of your dreams will knock u down w/ a *****y insult...

I don't have a woman of my dreams, and I never will. I wouldn't be afraid of an insult, cuz im a ****y sonuva***** and know she would gravel for me.

but as you say,
"Girls do not want to love you, you must make them love you."

one word...
bull****...

You don't get it... I hate to say this to a girl but uh, read the bible.

personally im not male so i dont know the secret of your gender...


Then why are you giving advice?

but that quote is insulting to women, you make it seem like men have to do everything in a relationship...and "girls do not want to love you"? please there are couples out there where its vice versa...

That's not what I said at all.

but another guy said they were sick of doing everything in a relationship so thus contradiction rules again...

Huh?

im giving out my advice, you dont have to take it

They don't know not to trust your advice.

oh and an *excuse* isn't always a lie, ill admit that i dont know as much about males as you, but you definitely misinterpret women or you've have been hitting all the *****es...

An excuse isn't always a lie, however playing it off like it was while at the same time not being open about your observation will prove to give a man his best results.

~my 2 cents~ [/B]

Hey, these aren't pennies! They're well crafted circles of testosterone you have CLEARLY stolen from men!

 

[lilprincess_16]

 

[Ronny_Neumonic II]

hmmmmmmm she just edited her post


anyways, we know that smooth doesn't speak for EVERY single male with what he is saying in this thread, but he IS speaking for every member of this FORUM.

Can't you see there is no other women on this board? why? Cause they aren't wanted. Get the hint