OFFICIAL: Online Dating (OLD) Thread

[Roober]

This may be too much info., but this is now the second time this has happened recently...

Don't want to create a new thread, because frankly it is a bit embarassing. This was my third date with a girl from OLD, cute peruvian... Went to a wine bar, had a couple drinks, tons of kino, kissing, etc... and she said "let's go back to my place"... GREAT! We get back to her place and make out pretty heavily, no problems so far. We get to the bedroom, and.... I... umm.... couldn't...perform? if you catch my drift... We did a bunch of other foreplay, and kept trying... I could get almost there, then it would go away again... We made out and messed around butt nekkid for about 2 hours and no go...

My thoughts..
-Had a stiff drink at her place, and 3 glasses of wine before that... maybe the cause?
-I kept thinking of my main plate (i know i know, this is bad), but not sure that was it...
-I am super tired, sleeping 3-4 hours a night, haven't been sleeping well lately...
-Had a 2 hour marathon with main plate the previous night

Anywho, she texted this morning and was like "I had a lot of fun, don't worry about it" and is still responsive and chatty. When it first happened, we would stop or make out for a bit, then she would climb on top of me again and we would go at it. She asked things like... "Is it me?" "Is everything ok?" "Did I do something?" Another thing that was weird...

Two questions...
1. she asked me.. "are you the type that needs to feel a bond with someone to be intimate?" I sort of avoided the question...
2. How does one recover?

 

[xstang77]

This may be too much info., but this is now the second time this has happened recently...

Don't want to create a new thread, because frankly it is a bit embarassing. This was my third date with a girl from OLD, cute peruvian... Went to a wine bar, had a couple drinks, tons of kino, kissing, etc... and she said "let's go back to my place"... GREAT! We get back to her place and make out pretty heavily, no problems so far. We get to the bedroom, and.... I... umm.... couldn't...perform? if you catch my drift... We did a bunch of other foreplay, and kept trying... I could get almost there, then it would go away again... We made out and messed around butt nekkid for about 2 hours and no go...

My thoughts..
-Had a stiff drink at her place, and 3 glasses of wine before that... maybe the cause?
-I kept thinking of my main plate (i know i know, this is bad), but not sure that was it...
-I am super tired, sleeping 3-4 hours a night, haven't been sleeping well lately...
-Had a 2 hour marathon with main plate the previous night

Anywho, she texted this morning and was like "I had a lot of fun, don't worry about it" and is still responsive and chatty. When it first happened, we would stop or make out for a bit, then she would climb on top of me again and we would go at it. She asked things like... "Is it me?" "Is everything ok?" "Did I do something?" Another thing that was weird...

Two questions...
1. she asked me.. "are you the type that needs to feel a bond with someone to be intimate?" I sort of avoided the question...
2. How does one recover?

I'd withhold from sex for atleast 2 days before you try again and keep it under 2 beers, the fact that she was asking if it was something SHE did is a very good sign of high interest.

 

[xstang77]

I've tried pretty much all kinds of approaches including all the ones quoted here from older threads about not wanting to be pen pals etc. I use the same one that scored me the hottest chick to date. "Hey I'm xstang, how's it going? Text me sometime ***_***_****" its a direct respectable approach and helps hook submissive girls as they'll text. I'm not saying this is the best approach I've had maybe 10 texts from girls using it but I don't think there's some magical line that really works,if everything aligns and she's interested then you work your magic otherwise old sucks in general lol.

 

[AttackFormation]

This may be too much info., but this is now the second time this has happened recently...

Don't want to create a new thread, because frankly it is a bit embarassing. This was my third date with a girl from OLD, cute peruvian... Went to a wine bar, had a couple drinks, tons of kino, kissing, etc... and she said "let's go back to my place"... GREAT! We get back to her place and make out pretty heavily, no problems so far. We get to the bedroom, and.... I... umm.... couldn't...perform? if you catch my drift... We did a bunch of other foreplay, and kept trying... I could get almost there, then it would go away again... We made out and messed around butt nekkid for about 2 hours and no go...

My thoughts..
-Had a stiff drink at her place, and 3 glasses of wine before that... maybe the cause?
-I kept thinking of my main plate (i know i know, this is bad), but not sure that was it...
-I am super tired, sleeping 3-4 hours a night, haven't been sleeping well lately...
-Had a 2 hour marathon with main plate the previous night

Anywho, she texted this morning and was like "I had a lot of fun, don't worry about it" and is still responsive and chatty. When it first happened, we would stop or make out for a bit, then she would climb on top of me again and we would go at it. She asked things like... "Is it me?" "Is everything ok?" "Did I do something?" Another thing that was weird...

Two questions...
1. she asked me.. "are you the type that needs to feel a bond with someone to be intimate?" I sort of avoided the question...
2. How does one recover?

How to fix performance

1. Stop wanking and don't wank for at least a week before having sex again, jacking off to porn kills your real erections
2. Don't try to perform without prior sleep, if you can't sleep fix the issue or accept that you can't fvck
3. Lay off the alcohol

 

[ChangePages]

POF or OKC?

I also have a date on saturday from a girl from POF. This is my first date with a stranger ever. I'm extremely socially awkward so I feel like I'm going to **** this up. What should I do?

 

[xstang77]

POF or OKC?

I also have a date on saturday from a girl from POF. This is my first date with a stranger ever. I'm extremely socially awkward so I feel like I'm going to **** this up. What should I do?

Don't plan your weekend Around it and make it a second thought. Online girls are extremely flakey. As far as the date goes if it happens don't worry about it she'll be ten times more nervous then you, just look your best,keep your cool and screen her good when you talk. Remember she's qualifying for you,your the prize.

 

[ubercat]

For performance get on daily pomegranate juice. The stuff s bloody magic

 

[Roober]

POF or OKC?

I also have a date on saturday from a girl from POF. This is my first date with a stranger ever. I'm extremely socially awkward so I feel like I'm going to **** this up. What should I do?

Just relax, be yourself...

1. Good eye contact
2. Light kino if you are comfortable - keep it to hands and arms, and escalate based on response
3. Smile!
4. Just have fun with it. Treat her like your little sister

 

[Glassguy]

POF or OKC?

I also have a date on saturday from a girl from POF. This is my first date with a stranger ever. I'm extremely socially awkward so I feel like I'm going to **** this up. What should I do?

1.) Be yourself. Focus on being upbeat/positive but dont oversell yourself. Chicks can spot a phony dude from a mile away.
2.) Be a gentleman. Open doors, etc. Treat the waitress etc nice.
3.) You are there to qualify HER. Not the other way around. You should be talking enough to keep the conversation going. You should be the one asking the questions. She should be doing 75% of the talking.
Her: I like ______.
You: Thats interesting....tell me about that.
The idea is to keep her talking. Chicks love to talk. Pay attention to what she says. Chicks will tell you everything you need to know if you just listen. Dont turn it into an interview...she will tell you what you want to hear as long as you just keep the convo going.
4.) If things are going well, give her a hug at the end. If her face is facing yours at the hug, she wants kissed. Kiss her and escalate.

Make sure that you are not thirsty. Sell your good qualities and appear to be a very busy guy with options.

The more first dates you go on, the better you will be on them.

 

[Roober]

How to fix performance

1. Stop wanking and don't wank for at least a week before having sex again, jacking off to porn kills your real erections
2. Don't try to perform without prior sleep, if you can't sleep fix the issue or accept that you can't fvck
3. Lay off the alcohol

I don't wank, like at all... I am thinking it was sleep and alcohol. My concern was the main plate as she did pop in my head... I suppose I am just still not used to the idea of banging multiple women...

 

[TheImpatientFuturist]

Recently i tried the Espi approach of proposing a date with specific time, day and place. However 2 out of 3 girls didn't even reply to this after some small talk with some lines mentioned here. Is this approach maybe too direct, maybe it's better to ask "which days are you free next week" or a variation of this?

As of recently, I've had far better results in asking when the girl is free. I'm avoiding getting ghosted this way, which has been a major problem for me with the other approach. Whenever I say "Thursday night at Restaurant X at 8 PM," that's when I get the ghosts. I have three dates over the next three days, all confirmed because I asked when they were available. I highly doubt these girls will flake, and just confirmed with my date tonight. In the case I'm really busy that week, I'll go straight for the only day/time I'm available as I believe you have to strike while the iron is hot.

 

[Juanto]

Is Bumble equally useless?

 

[TheImpatientFuturist]

Is Bumble equally useless?

I've had absolutely no luck with it, but in my searches it shows up as the #1 dating app. I've had lots of luck elsewhere so I'm not sure, but I'd love to hear from others.

 

[Marcosuve]

I used dating sites when I turned 18 and talked to some guys but never went out with anyone.

 

[Juanto]

I used dating sites when I turned 18 and talked to some guys but never went out with anyone.

wasnt asking about grindr though

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Is Bumble equally useless?

Bumble and Hinge I have had great success with

 

[Marcosuve]

I used dating sites when I turned 18 and talked to some guys but never went out with anyone. I read this blog www.happymatches.com/blog/hook-up/gay-hookup

Seems interesting.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

We must be really hard up reviving 5 year old threads.

 

[Lookatu]

We must be really hard up reviving 5 year old threads.

Actually, I don't think it would hurt if we could sticky an ultimate OLD Master Thread post that gets edited frequently as it's always changing. Things that worked 5 years ago maybe different today.

One idea I had was to make bullet points on the first post of the thread that keeps getting edited to include new bullet points. These bullet points would be linked to the actual post if someone wanted further details on it.

I know it's hard for some members to read pages and pages of stuff.

It would be nice if someone maintained the high level bullet points on the first post so that members can get a quick overview of it.

Just an idea...