Dominus
Master Don Juan
I'm sure many of us have seen the movie Office Space. I've seen it several times, though I've always missed the first half hour or so, until today. This movie got me thinking about acting like you don't care abut stuff (and especially women). I've now devised a theory that seems to fit.
To sum the movie up, a guy who's completely stressed out with work and life, not to mention his dominant girlfriend, goes to a hypnotherapist who puts him into a trance wherein he stops worrying and loses his inhibitions. The therapist, however, has a heart attack before he can bring him out of the trance. The rest of the movie is about the hilarious results of his non chalant attitude (he unscrews the wall of his cubical so he can have a view, goes fishing during work hours and guts the fish in his cubical, etc.).
Now, I'm sure most of us have tried to act like we don't care about girls, to try to get their interest. Obviously, this rarely works. Why? Well, there is no lack of men who act uninterested or just don't make their move. Homosexuals, guys who have no nerve, and other guys trying to act uninterested. So, assuming that she knows anything about the subject (and women usually do), she'll either assume that you don't find her sexually attractive, you're a complete wuss, or you're just someone with no experience with how to treat a woman.
Yet we see stuff here about not caring. Somethings amiss here. Well, thats where Office Space comes in. As I mentioned, the protaganist has a girlfriend that's, quite frankly, a *****. He begins the movie always worrying about offending her, and bending to her will. After gettting hypnotized, he completely blows everthing off the next day, work, her, and just sleeps in. She calls and starts reaming him out. He, not caring, just hangs up. She calls again, leaving a message about how nobody hangs up on her, how they're through, and she's been cheating on him. He, meanwhile, is taking a nice nap.
Soon after, he goes to a resturant where the waitress he's had a crush on works (the chick who plays Rachel on Friends). He simply goes up to her and asks her out to lunch. He does it very calmly and you can tell that he's in complete control and isn't worrying about what she'll say. She, of course, accepts, and they meet at a resturant across the street. When he mentions that he doesn't want to work anymore, she asks him what he wants to do. He simply says that he wants to take her out to dinner, then he wants to take her back to his place so they can watch kung fu movies. She, of course, agrees (ok, she loves kung fu movies).
What did I learn from this? The whole idea about not caring? Its more detailed and involved.
First, you need to project a sense that you don't care about much in general. I'm not saying that you should be a total slacker, but that you should have a non chalant kind of confidence. That you know that things are under control and there's no point worrying about them.
Second, you need to tell yourself that you don't really care about girls. I'm not saying that you shouldn't care at all, just that you need to tell yourself not to care solely about them. There are more important things in the world.
Last, you need to tell yourself, again, that you can't worry about success. If you worry, you delay, you hesitate. And, as the saying goes "Hesitation is like masturbation. In the end, you're only screwing yourself." (BTW, who's quote is that?) So, if you hesitate, you never find out if you would have succeeded in the first place.
Now, all of this probably sounds familiar, and thats because it is. There are plenty of articles on each of the three points I listed. However, you all know the feeling you get when, after having read something here and having put some thought into it, it suddenly clicks. You understand what its about. Well, Office Space did that for me for these particular aspects of DJism. I hope this has helped someone and that I've provoked some thought.
Adieu
To sum the movie up, a guy who's completely stressed out with work and life, not to mention his dominant girlfriend, goes to a hypnotherapist who puts him into a trance wherein he stops worrying and loses his inhibitions. The therapist, however, has a heart attack before he can bring him out of the trance. The rest of the movie is about the hilarious results of his non chalant attitude (he unscrews the wall of his cubical so he can have a view, goes fishing during work hours and guts the fish in his cubical, etc.).
Now, I'm sure most of us have tried to act like we don't care about girls, to try to get their interest. Obviously, this rarely works. Why? Well, there is no lack of men who act uninterested or just don't make their move. Homosexuals, guys who have no nerve, and other guys trying to act uninterested. So, assuming that she knows anything about the subject (and women usually do), she'll either assume that you don't find her sexually attractive, you're a complete wuss, or you're just someone with no experience with how to treat a woman.
Yet we see stuff here about not caring. Somethings amiss here. Well, thats where Office Space comes in. As I mentioned, the protaganist has a girlfriend that's, quite frankly, a *****. He begins the movie always worrying about offending her, and bending to her will. After gettting hypnotized, he completely blows everthing off the next day, work, her, and just sleeps in. She calls and starts reaming him out. He, not caring, just hangs up. She calls again, leaving a message about how nobody hangs up on her, how they're through, and she's been cheating on him. He, meanwhile, is taking a nice nap.
Soon after, he goes to a resturant where the waitress he's had a crush on works (the chick who plays Rachel on Friends). He simply goes up to her and asks her out to lunch. He does it very calmly and you can tell that he's in complete control and isn't worrying about what she'll say. She, of course, accepts, and they meet at a resturant across the street. When he mentions that he doesn't want to work anymore, she asks him what he wants to do. He simply says that he wants to take her out to dinner, then he wants to take her back to his place so they can watch kung fu movies. She, of course, agrees (ok, she loves kung fu movies).
What did I learn from this? The whole idea about not caring? Its more detailed and involved.
First, you need to project a sense that you don't care about much in general. I'm not saying that you should be a total slacker, but that you should have a non chalant kind of confidence. That you know that things are under control and there's no point worrying about them.
Second, you need to tell yourself that you don't really care about girls. I'm not saying that you shouldn't care at all, just that you need to tell yourself not to care solely about them. There are more important things in the world.
Last, you need to tell yourself, again, that you can't worry about success. If you worry, you delay, you hesitate. And, as the saying goes "Hesitation is like masturbation. In the end, you're only screwing yourself." (BTW, who's quote is that?) So, if you hesitate, you never find out if you would have succeeded in the first place.
Now, all of this probably sounds familiar, and thats because it is. There are plenty of articles on each of the three points I listed. However, you all know the feeling you get when, after having read something here and having put some thought into it, it suddenly clicks. You understand what its about. Well, Office Space did that for me for these particular aspects of DJism. I hope this has helped someone and that I've provoked some thought.
Adieu
I stayed up till 3am the night before my SATs, never studied one iota, and I got a 1420. Heh, I love bragging.