Off Nights

[In10se]

Been gaming for about 6-8 months now and steadily improving...makeouts are a regular thing and pulls are coming easier to me as well...overall good news

Now tonight I was excited about going to this spot w/ some friends...I've been there 5 times before and had at least 1 makeout if not more...was expecting to stay right on that streak...its an 18 and up place (I'm 22)...very hot girls and good house music.

I don't know what it was, but I got turned down steadily throughout the night, at first I didn't let it affect me, but eventually I started losing energy and dying down. I danced with a few girls briefly, but that was it...how the **** can girls just sense when I'm in the zone? They rarely turn me down to dance/and sometimes turn down makeouts, but when I'm feeling like high energy (guess you could say I got my mojo) its like they know it right away...its not something I can fake apparently.

 

[r0cky]

Never expect anything from your environment because you'll often be dissappointed. Only have expectationS on YOURSELF.

 

[In10se]

Yea that's a fair comment, but I'm more interested in knowing how girls seem to know my state of mind, are they picking up on subcommunications? Comparing nights when girls seem to just naturally be attracted to me with a night like last night where I couldn't even manage a makeout. It seems like I missing a piece of the puzzle.

 

[Mike32ct]

Women definitely can sense your energy/confidence level.

I'm not sure of the exact mechanism how it works. But there is some evidence to suggest that women can intuitively read facial expressions. Remember how your mom/mum could just look at you and know something is wrong?

Also understand that there is a feedback mechanism. Maybe you went into the club with good energy, but you encountered several women that weren't attracted to your type. Then your confidence started to slip, and it showed in your face and body language. Then you become somewhat less attractive to women. You can then get caught in a downward spiral.

That's totally normal and common in the game. This is why some guys end up in losing streaks or dry spells.

The good news is it's probably not that serious. It just sounds like you had an off night, ie the girls you met weren't right for you.

The other good news is that since you've gotten makeouts recently, there should be no problem with your looks, which is very important.

Also don't get too ****y at any given venue. We've all had places that we SWORE you could hook up at EVERY night. You're sure the place is sooo good that you can't miss. But the crowd changes slightly ever week. So sometimes you will strike out there, through no fault of your own. Just keep trying, or if it persists, try a different venue. For now, I would stay with that place for a while. One off night doesn't mean anything.

So dust yourself off, forget that night ever happened, and get back out there.