It isn't in our nature to accept what we are, we want to improve ourselves. Every moment you stay the same, not trying to better yourself in anyway, is a sign you've stopped living abit. Just because you happen to have attributes which makes you a wuss, doesn't mean you have to accept it. From the moment you're born, there is many factors that shapes the person you become, and these factors are usually random in that way that you can't control it. As soon as you realize this, and you don't change, then you'll live your life downhill from there. Things won't be better with time neither, most likely a person like that will live a life where depression is a huge part of it. So I'd rather be a tool for abit, then being blind for a life time. Props to your friend for trying to improve aswell.