Nut job ex contacted me on POF

Willard

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 4, 2011
Messages
260
Reaction score
12
I was seeing her about 5 years ago, for 3 months, smoking hot body, great sex, totally wacked, she would tell me she didn't want to see me every other week then change her mind a few hours later, i stopped taking her seriously after a few weeks, but she would come to my place every week for sex.

She came back to my place 8 months after I stopped seeing her, I was in the middle of banging her and she stopped me and said this isn't love this is just sex, got dressed and left, i didn't say a word. She texted the next day to try it again the next week. I blew her off instead, she texted a few days later and said I saw you at the store so I know your ok.

She messaged me last week on POF, I didn't recognize her at first, she kept saying I looked familiar. I'm about 25 lb's lighter but I have lot's of very clear pics.

Once I realized who she is, I figured I would just play with her a little. Tonight i told her my name gave her my number and she wants to get together, She's been texting me tonight.

What do I do? I wouldn't mind banging her a few times as a FWB, she looks even better than before, but can I pull this off, she must recognize me right? WTF?
 

El Payaso

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 16, 2014
Messages
3,637
Reaction score
2,638
"I saw you at the store so I know your ok."

Sounds like she was stalking you. What a nutjob indeed.
 

Masculinity

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 6, 2009
Messages
1,911
Reaction score
544
Age
35
Willard said:
Your right, she just has such a hot body, I have other options, I've been doing well on Tinder. I think I'll let this one go.
Good call ^

You never know when a condom can break. If it brakes with crazy girl and she gets pregnant, that will be your path into a miserable life.
 

mangotot

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 24, 2014
Messages
1,113
Reaction score
22
Its been 5 years she may have become a better person in that time. But if I was the girl I would not have contacted you. The past is the past. She is only making contact because she don't have any better offers.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

PeasantPlayer

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 20, 2013
Messages
3,112
Reaction score
956
Something similar happened to me, but it wasnt an ex. Pretty much went out with some friends. One of my boys brought a female along that he knew, claims they never messed around. It was 4 of us that night, went bar hopping and grabbed some brews, then this chick they brought along started chatting with me and later on in the night was grinding on me when I was sitting down, I didnt mind but I also wasn't eager as I didnt want to seem desperate, I was playing it cool. She kept staring at me the whole night to, like super deeply kind of creeped me out. The night ended or whatever thought I would probably not see the girl again and waaalaaaa she find me on POF. And I don't even use my real name on POF. She was messaging me I messaged back, grabbed her number....figured why not. Few days later met up with my boy and started talking, told her she contacted me of POF, and he was like really she said you contacted her first and you weren't her type....I was laughing so hard inside, I deleted her number women are strange
 

mangotot

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 24, 2014
Messages
1,113
Reaction score
22
Masculinity said:
Good call ^

You never know when a condom can break. If it brakes with crazy girl and she gets pregnant, that will be your path into a miserable life.
Come on bro. Yeah don't contact her but taking the view the condom is going to break and she is going to get pregnant Is a bit extreme.
 

Willard

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 4, 2011
Messages
260
Reaction score
12
Masculinity said:
Good call ^

You never know when a condom can break. If it brakes with crazy girl and she gets pregnant, that will be your path into a miserable life.
I wasn't using protection with her, I assumed she was on the pill or something, she texted me telling she was pregnant one time, I knew she wasn't so I said that's wonderful, She asked if I was upset, I said no. Then she never brought it up again.

I forgot about the non stop texting she used to do, this is some of her texts from Wednesday:

her-Are you romantic and a good kisser?? Have ask.. Those are very important details to me..

me-Yes, I am both.

her-We're adults here and I want to know you really know how you are as a man and as a person.. :).


me-You will!

her-Good! :). Have to ask.. Do you have fetishes? I'm sorry for asking but many people have them.. Is not a crime though..

me-I don't, do you?

her-No, I don't

her-Ah great! :). When was your last relationship? If I may ask

me-The last serious one was a year ago, the last casual one was a couple of months ago, what about you.

her=Last serious one was almost 3 years ago.. No casual no nothing. I wanted time for me relationships and dating are not an easy thing.


her-And specially how I want the man to be.. So we'll see now how it goes with you .... how you are ect..

me-Ok, sounds good.


her-Indeed! Must see how the person is.. He must be attractive good soul and have a great communication between us about anything and everything.. How it should be

her-I want a great man and also a great lover.. Someone I can enjoy movies dining out have drinks laugh ect.. The Combo. Lol!

me-Sounds good, I have to hit the hay, it was nice chatting with you. I'll talk to you soon. Good night

her-Indeed! Me too hun! Nice chatting with you as well. Text me in the morning. I feel you are that man ..... Good night!

I blew her off all day yesterday, surprisingly she didn't text me.
 

Tenacity

Banned
Joined
Jun 23, 2014
Messages
3,926
Reaction score
2,194
Chicks that are "crazy" or full of "drama" or "wishy-washy" are NOT ones you need to entertain under the excuse of "they provide good sex."

These are the types of chicks that can really fvck your life up. They can have jealous boyfriends (that you didn't know about) threatening to kick your a.ss, they can make up false allegations against you (remember how she got up and left during sex out of the blue), as others mentioned if you get her pregnant she would make your life miserable. She might even openly flirt with guys while you two are out and about, causing those guys to come up to her while you are standing there, causing again.....MORE DRAMA.

Sane women are ENOUGH of a damn headache due to their feminist nature. Please don't combine this feminist nature with INSANITY, that's like bullshyt taken up to the highest meter.

Life is too short, just deal with sane women, trust me...they are enough of a headache.

When a chick is wishy washy, drama filled, or displays any amount of crazy attributes....STAY away from her.
 

Masculinity

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 6, 2009
Messages
1,911
Reaction score
544
Age
35
Willard said:
I wasn't using protection with her, I assumed she was on the pill or something, she texted me telling she was pregnant one time, I knew she wasn't so I said that's wonderful, She asked if I was upset, I said no. Then she never brought it up again.

I forgot about the non stop texting she used to do, this is some of her texts from Wednesday:

her-Are you romantic and a good kisser?? Have ask.. Those are very important details to me..

me-Yes, I am both.

her-We're adults here and I want to know you really know how you are as a man and as a person.. :).


me-You will!

her-Good! :). Have to ask.. Do you have fetishes? I'm sorry for asking but many people have them.. Is not a crime though..

me-I don't, do you?

her-No, I don't

her-Ah great! :). When was your last relationship? If I may ask

me-The last serious one was a year ago, the last casual one was a couple of months ago, what about you.

her=Last serious one was almost 3 years ago.. No casual no nothing. I wanted time for me relationships and dating are not an easy thing.


her-And specially how I want the man to be.. So we'll see now how it goes with you .... how you are ect..

me-Ok, sounds good.


her-Indeed! Must see how the person is.. He must be attractive good soul and have a great communication between us about anything and everything.. How it should be

her-I want a great man and also a great lover.. Someone I can enjoy movies dining out have drinks laugh ect.. The Combo. Lol!

me-Sounds good, I have to hit the hay, it was nice chatting with you. I'll talk to you soon. Good night

her-Indeed! Me too hun! Nice chatting with you as well. Text me in the morning. I feel you are that man ..... Good night!

I blew her off all day yesterday, surprisingly she didn't text me.
It's very clear that she's flaunting her sexuality in an attempt to make you a complacent puppy, which has probably worked well for her with most men in the past. Specifically, notice how she's calling you "hun" and then telling you to text her, demonstrating that she sees herself as the prize and you as the pursuer. She is putting up a show in which she is intentionally making it obvious that she's qualifying you to see whether you are "good enough" to be with her.

What I would do: Play her game against her by hinting that you are the prize and the selector in this interaction. I see some complacent behavior in your responses so far. I would bring out ****y and funny and tease her playfully. She's obviously interested in you. However, she's testing you to see how much BS you're willing to take before you put your foot down. I would say, "If you're so curious about me, ask me out somewhere already. It would have to be a fancy place, though, because I only like good sushi (or whatever it is you like to eat) ;)."

Keep us updated on this and if you see her, please remember to wrap up your wiener.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Top