Not quite a virgin but close

[DuckFan]

After reading posts by Stavrogin & others in the "Need help just meeting women" I thought I would introduce myself.

I am 28 years old and slept with two women. No kids & never married. In high school I was way to shy to go out on dates or attend parties. From 18-21 I actually went to a few parties but a girl would have to come on very strong in order for me to do any sexual stuff with her. I missed a lot of chances to do stuff with women because I was to shy, nice etc. From 21-26 I dated one girl and had sex etc. I found I wasn't ready for marriage & kids yet so we parted ways. I have sleep with one girl since then but really didn't want to go in public with her much. She was fat. More than 20 pounds. She would do some sexual things that my first would never do so it wasn't bad. Haven't gone on a date in almost a year I guess.

I am really shy & nice. I was an only child & have almost no family left these days. I am used to being alone & like it to a certain extent. I don't go anywhere anymore unless I have to. The close guys friends I have had in the past moved and/or gotten married. I still kept in contact with them but I have no guy friends to have a beer with and watch a sports game. Really doesn't bother me much though. I don't have a college education and don't make much money. I have been up and down with my weight throughout my life. I am actually doing well in this area now. Making great strides. I posted in the workout area.

The three main things I want in the next couple of years is 1. to have good health and get into tip top shape. 2. Figure out a career plan & hopefully make more money. I need to do these things even if I never have a women again anyways. 3. I really want to date a lot and never go though a weekend without sex again unless I choose so.

I know I have to work on myself a bit until I can really start dating. If I had one booty call chick right now though it would take a lot of the pressure off. My sex drive has gone way up since I have been losing weight and it's driving me nuts.

I have been trying to just be more outgoing and try to talk to women I come into contact with everyday. Doesn't happen as much as I would like right now. Hopefully I can work up to number/e-mail close and then asking a chick for a date after talking to her for a little bit. These will take a while to build up to though.

Well that is some info about myself, I like this forum because it for us over 25guys. I started to listen to a certain radio show host at the beginning of this year and that has helped with some things and also for me to seek out some guidance and support/advice from others.

 

[ElChoclo]

So your message in condensed form is that you are too nice and shy, that you have eaten 2 pieces of woman meat in 28 years, are fighting obesity and want a career, money and regular sex.

Well I suppose some of that isn't asking too much, but it seems to be a very familiar story. Some of these stories seem as believable as letters to the Editor in porno magazines. They are trite.

As for item 3 in your goal list. There are many things worse than involuntarily going without sex for a weekend. Think carefully about this shopping list mentality.

 

[DuckFan]

Maybe you could explain to me what you are talking about. The story is me.

I want my health, which I have now, just working on getting fit. I want a career that i enjoy and to make more money than I do now. I don't want money to show off with new cars, house etc. I want to stock away as much as possible for retirement and be completely debt free. I want to be dating on the weekends and to start to have a little bit of a social life. What else should I want right now?

 

[flexion_]

Our previous poster is essentially saying get some porn for the moment.

Sounds like you have some reasonable goals. Whats holding you back for the last 28 years? - thats a rhetorical question that only you know the answer too.

Figure it out and start making the changes you need to achieve your goals.

 

[ElChoclo]

Look Mr Duck, there are plenty of men who have sex every weekend and have money put away for retirement who are downright miserable, for a variety of reasons. Some of them are even fit. But is that it? Just what are you planning to do when you do retire? You don't want to have a car or house for show? What is wrong with some show.

Mature men are gourmets, they don't get their recipes from the easy home cook meals section of women's magazines. You are looking for a recipe for a dull, dull life.

 

[DuckFan]

Everyone has a different idea of what makes them happy. That may change from year to year and person to person. There is nothing wrong with show. For me I would rather have a paid for house, 7 figure retirement fund & not have to get up in the morning if I don't want to. That's just me and a goal that I came to realize I wanted to go after. I wish I would have thought about that in high school, that's for sure.

I would happy if I had those 3 things I said before. If I got that then maybe I would want something else then. Those are such huge goals for me that I am not going to worry about much else right now.

I may have a dull life but I want to change that some and everyone is going to want different things. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[Colossus]

Stop ragging on this guy. Just because his desires dont necessarily fit your mold doesnt make him dull. Now I remember why I stopped coming here.

DuckFan, your desires are perfectly normal for a guy in your situation. Better late than never, right? Not many guys get laid every weekend. Those who do are either in relationships, or they are rolling the dice for a miserable outcome by banging someone new every week. The getting laid thing takes time, if you want it to be worthwhile.

Start thinking about where you would like to be in 5 years. No one ever got rich by thinking short-term, and no one ever got in really great shape by thinking short-term either. Think about what you are good at, what you are willing to do, and what you have the means to pursue.

Talk to lots of women. Dont worry about getting laid all the time. Just talk and build rapport, and soon you'll find one who digs you.