Not pushing to screw a woman on a 1st date, benefical or not for a LTR?

[tomwesten27]

I have 5 Tinder (online dating app) girls lined up for this upcoming week and next.

I am 29 and all these girls are 22-26 years old.

I understand that we like to caterogize women on dating apps to be damaged, crazy etc but literally every single female I know, or have met in my city has Tinder, so I use the app. I have gotten a lot of lays off of it but…I have more recently being looking for a LTR.

I feel that I play my game pretty well. Not a pro, but not a novice either.

So if I am looking for a LTR…should I tone down my aggressive lets slam on the first date attitude? Or continue with what I have been doing?

I just feel that every single female I have taken out on a date over the past year I approach with a aggressive confident attitude and I get a lay out of it..but I don't want just lays…I want a relationship

What do you guys think? I need help setting my mind right.

 

[ImprovingJuan]

if you are looking for a LTR and not a ONS, i guess you could wait till the third date to know her better, to check if she's LTR material and let it escalate to sex from there.

 

[devilkingx2]

it depends

do you only get lays because you never call them again afterwards or because it just fizzles out

also, tinder might be to blame, it's mostly for hooking up(or so I hear)

 

[Rainman4707]

I just go with the flow man...if I'm out with a girl who I like & think I would see again then I'm not so much thinking about the lay as im also looking for a relationship. I just have a good time with her.

 

[gravityeyelids]

First off, i've been on Tinder for a while now. Expect 4 if not ALL 5 of them to flake. It's ridiculous the flake rate.

Second off... idk how many tinder girls you've met up with. but they ALMOST NEVER look as good as their pics.

Third...I've learned that, for the most part, any girl that is willing to meet up with a guy off tinder...id generally not dating quality anyways.

I realize i'm kind of a **** and didn't answer your original question. So i'll answer it: In general it's a good idea to escalate whenever possible. Other members may disagree, but if a girl is open to banging you on the very first date (yes, i'm aware that we're all super suave DJ's that drop panties B-) ), then i would be very very hesitant to consider her as a potential LTR girl.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Oh this is a good question almost as good as the chicken & the egg

Its a DJ’s prerogative to get the panties to one side on the first date its his biggest challenge of course

BUT if you can do it that easily then of course so have others and more importantly so CAN others

On the flip side of this if she makes you wait too long how do you know she isn’t playing games !?!

I guess you have to take all of this into account when assessing her potential for a ltr

Its a personal decision you have to make based on your life experiences

Personally i will know by the end of the first date wether or not i would wa
nt to rip her clothes off and fvck her like it was my last day on earth if i didn’t get that feeling then it would just be a pump and dump anyways

Best advice i can offer at the moment because im not in the market for an LTR

 

[Tictac]

Escalation is a good idea, even if you are working for something longer term.

Most women find being desired among the most intoxicating thing there is.