Hi guys,
I've been thinking about this one for a while now so I was hoping to get some input from the mature men around here and get some advice.
I've been dating with the same girl for a year now, she's smart, funny, takes great care of me and the sex is great... Physically I'd say she's a 7. So far everything’s been good and our relationship so far has been without any red flags. I could easily say she's been the best girl I've dated so far. Our relationship just kinda happened, we both were single and we kept hooking up and going out/spending time together because we were having a great time, next thing I know we've been going out for a year.
She's probably my best friend. The problem is, I'm not in love with her nor have I ever been. Don't get me wrong I love her, but it's more like a friend wise love. If she'd be cut out of my life I'd miss her, but I'd get over it pretty fast too and that's what troubles me a bit. I've had girlfriends that I loved, but they carried a lot of baggage and were crap girlfriends. Now I have probably my best girlfriend so far and I'm not in love with her. I thought that by now feelings of love would have come, spending enough time with the perfect girl would make me fall for her, but it just doesn't happen.
Sometimes I wonder if I'd spend the rest of my life with her, would I be happy? And then I'd compare with the other girlfriends I'd had before. The ones I loved but with the baggage for sure would have ended up in me being unhappy. If your girlfriend is your best friend, then I assume life would be nice... But sometimes, I wonder if something is missing.......
I often hear that the feelings of love pass by, but they come back once and a while and that the most important thing is being friends. Compatibility and friendship is certainly not our problem, but would the lack of love become a problem? What if I ever fall for another woman?
I've been thinking about this one for a while now so I was hoping to get some input from the mature men around here and get some advice.
I've been dating with the same girl for a year now, she's smart, funny, takes great care of me and the sex is great... Physically I'd say she's a 7. So far everything’s been good and our relationship so far has been without any red flags. I could easily say she's been the best girl I've dated so far. Our relationship just kinda happened, we both were single and we kept hooking up and going out/spending time together because we were having a great time, next thing I know we've been going out for a year.
She's probably my best friend. The problem is, I'm not in love with her nor have I ever been. Don't get me wrong I love her, but it's more like a friend wise love. If she'd be cut out of my life I'd miss her, but I'd get over it pretty fast too and that's what troubles me a bit. I've had girlfriends that I loved, but they carried a lot of baggage and were crap girlfriends. Now I have probably my best girlfriend so far and I'm not in love with her. I thought that by now feelings of love would have come, spending enough time with the perfect girl would make me fall for her, but it just doesn't happen.
Sometimes I wonder if I'd spend the rest of my life with her, would I be happy? And then I'd compare with the other girlfriends I'd had before. The ones I loved but with the baggage for sure would have ended up in me being unhappy. If your girlfriend is your best friend, then I assume life would be nice... But sometimes, I wonder if something is missing.......
I often hear that the feelings of love pass by, but they come back once and a while and that the most important thing is being friends. Compatibility and friendship is certainly not our problem, but would the lack of love become a problem? What if I ever fall for another woman?
