Not much difference between men and women.

rhcp83

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I don't think there is much difference between men and women. I've had plenty of less-than-ideal male "friends" that weren't really friends or people I could count on.

- One guy I talked to for years, knew how much I wanted a girlfriend. So I met one 3 years ago, very attractive (7/8 range to the guys on this site probably) and a nice person. So my friend meets her and is flirting with her blatantly right in front of me, and adds her on myspace, only reason I found out is because she was creeped out by it and told me (he knows I didn't have myspace and on facebook would have seen that he added her.) So I confront him about it, he's like "I don't want her don't worry hehe"...baits me to the point of saying these horrible things about him and then laughs when I say things (things that if I said to most people, they would be devastated.) Keep in mind, this guy wasn't "cool" or good looking by any stretch of the imagination...just some jewish nerdy guy that dates UGs.

- Another guy that thought he was better than me because of my social anxiety...invited me to a cookout I didn't even want to go to, went out of respect for him, then the next day he tells me about how he and his grandparents were talking about me (and I have nothing severely wrong like autism or anything.) He always seemed to think he was better than me too because he owned a small house in a bad neighborhood...like that "made him"...the funny thing is, he was living with an UG0...chunky, crooked big nose, hyper beyond belief. I simply said to him (this was two years ago) "There are plenty of things I could say about you, but I won't" and haven't spoken to him since.

- High school acquaintence calls me at late hours of the night asking if I'm ok, that he's there for me etc., says things like a needy woman "If you don't want to talk I understand." Then when I get back in contact with him, he doesn't respond. (AWing.)

- High school acquaintence, I went on a date with a girl we both knew, she tells me that she doesn't find him attractive whatsoever and thinks he's lying about how many women he got...she turns out to be psycho...so I tell him about what she said about him, just thinking I'm telling him as a friend in confidence. He makes this long winded status update on facebook saying something like "Apparently someone thinks I'm not good looking enough to attract woman. Blah blah blah..." not going out and saying who it was but making it obvious it was her. (AWing...wanting "you look good" messages from his online friends.) Didn't see the big deal about doing it or that he betrayed my confidence. And obviously he was doing it because what she said got to him and he wanted ton of his facebook friends to tell him how good he looked.

I could go on and on.

My point is, men are no better, the difference is, I don't want to see men with their clothes off or touch them or care to associate with them at all other than select male family members.
 

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My chick detector is going off again.

Jaylene, is that you?
 

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It's all true. You just don't realize it as much, because a guy isn't going to break your heart. You don't develop feelings for a guy, or obsess over them. But, trash is trash. That's why you involve yourself with people of quality and good character. Associating with douche bags and losers may seem like a good time, but you always end up paying for it in the end. They don't do anything for you; you don't gain anything by being around them; they don't make you feel better about yourself.

It's not all about who's exciting and out-going, but who's a good friend and decent person. People who backstab, use, belittle, steal (even your girls), etc aren't good friends. They don't care about you. If you involve yourself too heavily in them - they'll affect you in other ways. Who you associate with ALWAYS comes back to you. A miserable person is going to make you miserable. A troublemaker is going to bring trouble to you. A selfish person is going to use, and leech off you. A partyholic will only come around when there's alcohol or girls involved. You pay for all of these things.

Gotta choose people wisely, and look beyond just coolness, excitement and popularity. The same applies to women you date. Your own choices in people causes these things to happen.
 

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bigneil said:
My chick detector is going off again.

Jaylene, is that you?
troll harder kid.

Either way OP had a point.

Grow up and form a rebuttal for his post instead of going the character attack route.
 
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I agree with OP. The sexes really aren't as different as we think.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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This is a good post. After being bombarded with "social media" and having forced into our heads to accept every nitwit as a "friend", sometimes you end up questioning your own motives as to why you dont get along with thousands of people, till you realize that everyone has their own agenda.

In my life i've had many friends - some i've kept, but most have drifted off, without me wanting to really hold on to them anyway as there have been little elements that havent sat quite right with me.

My last GF, a *****, was always making me feel like some bizarre person for having "only" a handful of close friends. Its like she wanted to be queen bee and humiliate me with her social repartee.....thing is, they were rich kids, and as shiitty as fook, really not that interested TBH. Would rather trust a few, than trust too many.......
 

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I wonder how many of you are A) Dating your dream girl, B) Heterosexual, AND C) Believe men and women are exactly alike?

Be honest. In my opinion men and women are opposites and that's a great thing.
 

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Men and women are WORLDS different.

Here is the simplicity of it all:

Women are Attracted to....MEN so to learn how to attract women learn what it is to be a MAN.

Us guys are attracted to WOMEN so for women to learn how to attract us guys they must learn how to be a WOMAN.
 

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I don't disagree with the OP.

In many areas, women, especially American women, are a magnified or EXAGGERATED (sp?) version of men.

1. They want looks. Does that sound famililar? We like looks too. Multiply that by say five, and you have women.

2. They want attention. We want women to look at us, talk to us, etc., too. Multiply that by say 10, and you have women.

3. They want someone fun and confident. Do you want a depressed girl who doesn't feel good about herself? Multiply that by say five, and you have women.

4. They want someone successful. Do you want a lazy girl who does her nails all day? (Ok maybe for a quickie, but not a LTR.) Multiply that by say 15, and you have women.

5. They like drama. So men never argue or take things personally? Multiply that by say 20 lol, and you have your typical AW lol.

6. They are emotional. Men are never emotional? How about approach anxiety, oneitis, fear of rejection, or getting upset because someone "disrepected" you? Multiply our emotions by say 10 and you have women.

7. They are catty and backstabbing. How many guys tried to steal your girl? Muliply this by some factor, and you have women.


So, anyway, I won't ever say that men and women are the SAME. But there are quite a few similarities if you look at it.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Mike32ct said:
I don't disagree with the OP.

In many areas, women, especially American women, are a magnified or EXAGGERATED (sp?) version of men.

1. They want looks. Does that sound famililar? We like looks too. Multiply that by say five, and you have women.

2. They want attention. We want women to look at us, talk to us, etc., too. Multiply that by say 10, and you have women.

3. They want someone fun and confident. Do you want a depressed girl who doesn't feel good about herself? Multiply that by say five, and you have women.

4. They want someone successful. Do you want a lazy girl who does her nails all day? (Ok maybe for a quickie, but not a LTR.) Multiply that by say 15, and you have women.

5. They like drama. So men never argue or take things personally? Multiply that by say 20 lol, and you have your typical AW lol.

6. They are emotional. Men are never emotional? How about approach anxiety, oneitis, fear of rejection, or getting upset because someone "disrepected" you? Multiply our emotions by say 10 and you have women.

7. They are catty and backstabbing. How many guys tried to steal your girl? Muliply this by some factor, and you have women.


So, anyway, I won't ever say that men and women are the SAME. But there are quite a few similarities if you look at it.
woah great post brah :rockon:
 

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This wasn't meant to be a pro-women post and I think most of you know that. I'm just saying men aren't much better, and unlike with women (nice to look at, touch, bang etc. ) there aren't many benefits of being around guys especially if they are douches or not loyal.
 

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Guys are punished for sh1tty behaviours, women dont and in many cases even defended if someone complains...thats the difference.
 

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Floydb25 summed it up perfectly:

Gotta choose people wisely, and look beyond just coolness, excitement and popularity. The same applies to women you date. Your own choices in people causes these things to happen....

Without a doubt, the world is replete with unscrupulous people. In fact, they seem to greatly outnumber the good, decent, honest, and hardworking types out there. It's easy to become depressed and write most people off as untrustworthy. But at the end of the day, it's all about the type of people you associate with....
 

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