I don't think there is much difference between men and women. I've had plenty of less-than-ideal male "friends" that weren't really friends or people I could count on.
- One guy I talked to for years, knew how much I wanted a girlfriend. So I met one 3 years ago, very attractive (7/8 range to the guys on this site probably) and a nice person. So my friend meets her and is flirting with her blatantly right in front of me, and adds her on myspace, only reason I found out is because she was creeped out by it and told me (he knows I didn't have myspace and on facebook would have seen that he added her.) So I confront him about it, he's like "I don't want her don't worry hehe"...baits me to the point of saying these horrible things about him and then laughs when I say things (things that if I said to most people, they would be devastated.) Keep in mind, this guy wasn't "cool" or good looking by any stretch of the imagination...just some jewish nerdy guy that dates UGs.
- Another guy that thought he was better than me because of my social anxiety...invited me to a cookout I didn't even want to go to, went out of respect for him, then the next day he tells me about how he and his grandparents were talking about me (and I have nothing severely wrong like autism or anything.) He always seemed to think he was better than me too because he owned a small house in a bad neighborhood...like that "made him"...the funny thing is, he was living with an UG0...chunky, crooked big nose, hyper beyond belief. I simply said to him (this was two years ago) "There are plenty of things I could say about you, but I won't" and haven't spoken to him since.
- High school acquaintence calls me at late hours of the night asking if I'm ok, that he's there for me etc., says things like a needy woman "If you don't want to talk I understand." Then when I get back in contact with him, he doesn't respond. (AWing.)
- High school acquaintence, I went on a date with a girl we both knew, she tells me that she doesn't find him attractive whatsoever and thinks he's lying about how many women he got...she turns out to be psycho...so I tell him about what she said about him, just thinking I'm telling him as a friend in confidence. He makes this long winded status update on facebook saying something like "Apparently someone thinks I'm not good looking enough to attract woman. Blah blah blah..." not going out and saying who it was but making it obvious it was her. (AWing...wanting "you look good" messages from his online friends.) Didn't see the big deal about doing it or that he betrayed my confidence. And obviously he was doing it because what she said got to him and he wanted ton of his facebook friends to tell him how good he looked.
I could go on and on.
My point is, men are no better, the difference is, I don't want to see men with their clothes off or touch them or care to associate with them at all other than select male family members.
- One guy I talked to for years, knew how much I wanted a girlfriend. So I met one 3 years ago, very attractive (7/8 range to the guys on this site probably) and a nice person. So my friend meets her and is flirting with her blatantly right in front of me, and adds her on myspace, only reason I found out is because she was creeped out by it and told me (he knows I didn't have myspace and on facebook would have seen that he added her.) So I confront him about it, he's like "I don't want her don't worry hehe"...baits me to the point of saying these horrible things about him and then laughs when I say things (things that if I said to most people, they would be devastated.) Keep in mind, this guy wasn't "cool" or good looking by any stretch of the imagination...just some jewish nerdy guy that dates UGs.
- Another guy that thought he was better than me because of my social anxiety...invited me to a cookout I didn't even want to go to, went out of respect for him, then the next day he tells me about how he and his grandparents were talking about me (and I have nothing severely wrong like autism or anything.) He always seemed to think he was better than me too because he owned a small house in a bad neighborhood...like that "made him"...the funny thing is, he was living with an UG0...chunky, crooked big nose, hyper beyond belief. I simply said to him (this was two years ago) "There are plenty of things I could say about you, but I won't" and haven't spoken to him since.
- High school acquaintence calls me at late hours of the night asking if I'm ok, that he's there for me etc., says things like a needy woman "If you don't want to talk I understand." Then when I get back in contact with him, he doesn't respond. (AWing.)
- High school acquaintence, I went on a date with a girl we both knew, she tells me that she doesn't find him attractive whatsoever and thinks he's lying about how many women he got...she turns out to be psycho...so I tell him about what she said about him, just thinking I'm telling him as a friend in confidence. He makes this long winded status update on facebook saying something like "Apparently someone thinks I'm not good looking enough to attract woman. Blah blah blah..." not going out and saying who it was but making it obvious it was her. (AWing...wanting "you look good" messages from his online friends.) Didn't see the big deal about doing it or that he betrayed my confidence. And obviously he was doing it because what she said got to him and he wanted ton of his facebook friends to tell him how good he looked.
I could go on and on.
My point is, men are no better, the difference is, I don't want to see men with their clothes off or touch them or care to associate with them at all other than select male family members.