Not interested in casual sex

[reallyfreakinlost]

I feel like I'm the only guy in the world who isn't interested in casual lays. All I want is to find a girl to confide in, and I'm SURE I will meet her...someday, but sometimes I'm tired of the waiting.

Is there ANYONE else that shares this view?

Maybe there are no unslutty girls!

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

RIGHT HERE!!!

the real problem comes when you meet that 'one' unslutty girl and then you meet someone else at the same time that rocks your world and runs circles in your head all day........ sigh

i am such a pre-teen girl

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I can understand that. I don't live it but it resonates with me.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

RIGHT HERE!!!

the real problem comes when you meet that 'one' unslutty girl and then you meet someone else at the same time that rocks your world and runs circles in your head all day........ sigh

i am such a pre-teen girl

You're right, it seems I either happen to be with 2 or 3 girls at the same time or none, and success is rampant in one time period, but is then followed by a long period of "drought"

 

[trans_am03]

Same here

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It does feel surprisingly good when one steps up and stands out from the rest though. Not a "one-itis" type thing but something that makes you a little curious about the direction it may go.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

I've never been a real big "player" before, but wouldn't sleeping with a different girl every night get boring eventually? It seems like a shallow lifestyle. Don't get me wrong, I like sex, but what's the point if you're not going to see the girl after that?

 

[trans_am03]

"I've never been a real big "player" before, but wouldn't sleeping with a different girl every night get boring eventually? It seems like a shallow lifestyle. Don't get me wrong, I like sex, but what's the point if you're not going to see the girl after that? "

exactly

 

[niceguydying]

There is nothing wrong with what you posted. I feel the same way as you. The ultimate goal is to find someone you can share a life with, at least for me anyways. Really I am not sure I want to be hitting every that moves out there.

 

[Rex Man]

hhmmmm.........

Variety IS the spice of life. I honestly believe that 99.9% of guys want to find 'the one'. But that doesn't you should be rejecting the 'gimmes'. That's like Kobe Bryant turning down a lay-up like "hmm... nahh that's too easy". It may not be the greatest shot of his career but it's still good and at the very least practice.


PLI

 

[The_411]

Here's how it goes ...

you got to stay true to yourself. You don't need to sleep with all sorts of women, but you should date all sorts of women to test out the water.

I, too, was looking for the perfect one for me. I found her luckily granted I had to go through quite a bit to get it to work.

You've got to date as much as possible to see what qualities are important to you and what you can't tolerate.

There's no rule that says you've got to lay any woman who's attractiove. If that's not your bag then don't do it.

The idea is to not get attached to a woman before she needs,wants,desires you more than you do her.

 

[mattb717]

I agree fully with the people in this topic. I have zero desire to go out and lay every girl I flirt with. I joined this site because I wanted to learn to basically increase my chances of meeting the one. I hate to think I may miss a good girl because I was too cowardly to approach her.

 

[everywomanshero]

I think wanting to find one girl is fine but the problem I see is this:

A healthy LTrelationship requires you to be truly, emotionally healthy. If this isn't the case, then sosuave, asf, etc. are only going to bring you into a string of 1Mo-1yr. old relationships that always descend into darkness and leave you feeling blue and wondering what went wrong.

When the desire for bonding is too strong it can be a really strong repellant of women. I think this is what most commonly is reffered to as neediness... not being able to go a day without seeing her, calling her 6 days in a row and talking for 5 hours per session, clinginess, etc. These types of things can be a real problem. Just knowing about it isn't enough, it's like guys who know they shift weight from foot to foot but still do it during speeches anyway.

Even if you develop a good cover for STRs, in a LTR sooner or later you will let your guard down. You will get comfortable, and you will act like your core self. Is that core self ready to be revealed? Is it a stable, healthy core that's happy to meet the world? Unless these problems are addressed, it will be the demise of an otherwise functional relationship.

 

[typical]

I think someone ages back posted that to truly find someone thats your equal you have to go through alot of crap chicks to find someone worth your time. Right now I'm going through alot of crap chicks meh maybe I'll bump into her or one of the old chicks I messed up with or might turn out to be something better. Who knows only time will tell, till then this is way too much fun.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Maybe you're just gay.

/kidding

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

Maybe you're just gay.

/kidding

Don't get me wrong, I like sex. In fact, I am probably THE most perverted person I know.

And if a girl wants to have sex I'm not going to be like "well she's not THE ONE so no" of course I'll DO her!!

But in my case, I'm really impatient to find "the one", and this impatience frustrates me when I find out the girl I'm talking to is mentally retarded.

 

[typical]

Your expecting way too much from the chicks your dealing with, you wont know if she's worth the time in the long run untill like 6 months after you start to date her everybody knows that. The retarted ones well you can either not nail them and leave them alone or nail them and leave them alone, second choice sounds better to me but thats me.

 

[Ace of Flames]

In my experience, its best if you aren't out there looking for "the one". If you are, you'll be judging every girl you meet, and if they aren't perfect, you'll just dismiss them right away. So what if a girl isn't the person you want to marry? A LTR can still be a very rewarding thing to be in. Just get with a girl that you like, and have fun. Better than staying single all your life, waiting for THE girl that might not even come.

Also, how do you know what you like and don't like? Unless you mess around with a lot of girls and EXPERIENCE things, you just think you know what you want.

So, I'd say don't worry about "the one" right now, and just enjoy life. Don't go after girls looking for a relationship. Just let nature take its course. If you take a girl out a few times, and you both click, then maybe a relationship is the next step. But don't focus on that.