not getting enough sex from this plate!!

[soulforge]

Ok so I, ve been seeing this chick for about 6 months now... she has a nice body, good looks, but not relationship material...

She is out every weekend drinking in bars and clubs.. she is 42 years old, so I dont think she makes a worthy girlfriend or partner..

Plus she likes attention from guys, and has quite sluty dress sense.. she has big breasts, and she knows guys are always looking...

Anyhow.. I, m only having sex with her once a month.. sometimes its been left even longer than that.. nearly 6 weeks...

I wana bang this chick more regular, but she hardly asks me to meet her...

She tries to talk to me on whatsapp every day, but will not ask me directly to meet her... it seems like I have to be the one, to suggest meeting up...


So I, m getting sex off her once a month, thats pretty lame... recently I decided to pull away from her a little.. less chat on whatsapp... she lost her cool, and started panicking, asking me what is up.. etc...


Now she is playing the same game, hardly talking to me on whatsapp, so do I pull away even further?

Do I next this chick, or keep her around.. like I said, only get sex off her once a month.. also defo not relationship material

 

[soulforge]

Also I get the feeling, she is seeing me, but is looking out for someone else... just a gut instinct..

She is out drinking every weekend, so high probability she could be checking other guys

 

[El Payaso]

You care more than she does. She has no interest in you other than keeping you around as an orbiter. She only f*cks you in between the other times when she's having other guys' c0cks stuffed down her throat and up her a$$.

If that's the kind of woman you want, chug on. If not delete and move on.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I wana bang this chick more regular, but she hardly asks me to meet her... She tries to talk to me on whatsapp every day, but will not ask me directly to meet her... it seems like I have to be the one, to suggest meeting up...

....Soooooo, what's the problem? You're the GUY, remember? The guy is supposed to suggest the meet up place/time/activity. And many women are taught to let the guy do all the asking out. You're focusing on the WRONG thing here, pal - rather than question why she's not asking you places, you need to look back and see how often she says "yes" to your invites vs. "no." If she's meeting up with you 90% of the time when you suggest it, guess what? YOU DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM.

This also applies to sex. Yes, it would be nice if she suggested it, but I have found - especially in the beginning - that YOU have to be the one to initiate it more often than not. I once dated a girl who lost her virginity in her late 20s, and was not used to initiating sexual encounters (or making suggestions of different things to do in the bedroom, or comfortable with wanting to have sex frequently)... fast-forward a year later, and she became quite the freak, AND was more than willing to set up dates and activities specifically designed around us having sex. But had I started wining and telling her "Why don't YOU ever ask ME for sex?!?" it wouldn't have happened.

Lastly - she's a plate. Which means you should have other plates you're hooking up with regularly, and the frequency at which this one does it shouldn't be an issue... unless you're actually starting to LIKE her (which is fine), but you need to be honest with yourself about what you want her actual role to be in your life. If it's just a plate, know she's one of the plates that you only sex once a month; if you're trying to make it more, you need to stop lying to yourself, recognize that it's okay to WANT a girl as your girlfriend, and figure out what you need to do so she'll know you want to take you and her more seriously.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Yeah dude you are her lower status plate. Comon man once a month for 6mo? Jesus man she's just throwing you a bone, dangling a carrot. You have other plates right? Replace her before she replaces you. Why would you wanna bang her more if she's not gf material?

She's treating you like a fbuddy, treat her the same BUT spin plates find a chick that has a sex drive that matches yours. I don't know that I would waste my time, keep it wrapped up!

 

[Between_The_Lines]

You ever seen the movie They Live? Once you "put on the glasses", this is how your post ought to read:

Ok so I, ve been seeing this piece of trash for about 6 months now... piece of trash has a nice body, good looks, but not relationship material...

This piece of trash is out every weekend drinking in bars and clubs.. this piece of trash is 42 years old, so I dont think piece of trashmakes a worthy girlfriend or partner..

Plus piece of trash likes attention from guys, and has quite sluty dress sense.. piece of trash has big breasts, and piece of trash knows guys are always looking...

Anyhow.. I, m only having sex with piece of trash once a month.. sometimes its been left even longer than that.. nearly 6 weeks...

I wana bang this piece of trash more regular, but piece of trash hardly asks me to meet her...

Piece of trash tries to talk to me on whatsapp every day, but will not ask me directly to meet her... it seems like I have to be the one, to suggest meeting up...


So I, m getting sex off piece of trash once a month, thats pretty lame... recently I decided to pull away from piece of trash a little.. less chat on whatsapp... piece of trash lost her cool, and started panicking, asking me what is up.. etc...


Now piece of trash is playing the same game, hardly talking to me on whatsapp, so do I pull away even further?

Do I next piece of trash, or keep piece of trash around.. like I said, only get sex off piece of trash once a month.. also defo not relationship material

 

[LMFAO]

Simple if you are not getting what you want from the girl you have to put your foot down one way or another. You want to fvck her more regularly, well propose meeting up with her. Then try to see her a couple of times a month.

Just ask her to meet you.

You really should be seeing other girls than this. She is after all a piece of trash.

Don't be fooled otherwise.

Sounds like you aren't.

 

[soulforge]

Simple if you are not getting what you want from the girl you have to put your foot down one way or another. You want to fvck her more regularly, well propose meeting up with her. Then try to see her a couple of times a month.

Just ask her to meet you.

You really should be seeing other girls than this. She is after all a piece of trash.

Don't be fooled otherwise.

Sounds like you aren't.

i seriously have no intention of a relationship with this chick... she is 100% not worthy of commitment...

i see her only as a plate, and a fuk buddy... but even so, sex is only coming once a month?

that is just fuking lame... also she is always messaging me on whatsapp.. it seems to me, she does not want to lose me, and is keeping me around..

maybe till she meets another guy..


so here are my options.. i keep pulling away...

or i suggest more often that she comes over for sex??

if she agrees, then thats all good..



but if she makes up some ****ty excuses, then i NEXT her ass???

 

[Heisenberg]

Ok so I, ve been seeing this chick for about 6 months now... she has a nice body, good looks, but not relationship material...

She is out every weekend drinking in bars and clubs.. she is 42 years old, so I dont think she makes a worthy girlfriend or partner..

Plus she likes attention from guys, and has quite sluty dress sense.. she has big breasts, and she knows guys are always looking...

This is a snapshot of the problem with (most) members of SoSuave.

"Here are all the reasons this is a low quality girl... Anyhow, how can I spend more time with her?"

 

[LMFAO]

so here are my options.. i keep pulling away...

or i suggest more often that she comes over for sex??

if she agrees, then thats all good..



but if she makes up some ****ty excuses, then i NEXT her ass???

Sex once a month is a bit of a joke but not that uncommon for some sex buddies.

Message her to hangout every couple of weeks. Have sex with her at your or her place don't take her out anywhere of course. The relationship stops and ends at sex.

If it's clear she doesn't want to see you more regularly (say every couple of weeks) then give her the Let's Just Be Friends talk. Always be prepared to walk away, this applies to any girl on earth. At that point she will have to decide whether she is prepared to lose you or promote you to medium status fvck buddy.

 

[om1xr]

You got it wrong buddy. You are a plate/booty call to her.

I don't know how do you deal with FBs but with FBs:
-You don't take her out.
-You don't text/whatsapp her all day.
-You don't connect with her emotionally
...etc

Without living a life of abundance when it comes to women you are always going to waste your time on low quality women.

 

[soulforge]

Also this chick is out drinking pretty much every single weekend.. its only a matter of time, till she meets another dude... and then she will replace my ass

Kind of thinking, maybe I shoud Next her... before its me who gets fuked over lol

 

[Heisenberg]

Kind of thinking, maybe I shoud Next her... before its me who gets fuked over lol

Ya think?

 

[soulforge]

You got it wrong buddy. You are a plate/booty call to her.

I don't know how do you deal with FBs but with FBs:
-You don't take her out.
-You don't text/whatsapp her all day.
-You don't connect with her emotionally
...etc

Without living a life of abundance when it comes to women you are always going to waste your time on low quality women.

I hear what you are saying fella.. but on a few occasions this chick has said that she loves me...

I dont buy that shiit tho... her actions speak otherwise...

I just want to bang her more often.. but you are right.. I need to cut down the whatsapp chatting... and treat her strictly as a fuk buddy..

And if she does decide to branch swing to some other guy, then fuk it.. she was trash anyhow!!

 

[Between_The_Lines]

I hear what you are saying fella.. but on a few occasions this chick has said that she loves me...

I dont buy that shiit tho... her actions speak otherwise...

I just want to bang her more often.. but you are right.. I need to cut down the whatsapp chatting... and treat her strictly as a fuk buddy..

And if she does decide to branch swing to some other guy, then fuk it.. she was trash anyhow!!

Ok, so you're admitting she's trash, but you want to try to squeeze out something of caloric value from this situation anyway?

And that's a hell of a way for her to express her "love" for you.

If I were you, I'd be trying to figure out why I can't let this one go, not how to get more sex out of an obvious attention wh0re taking you for a joy ride.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I've regularly had plates I'd only fvck once a month or even longer.
It was perfect. Very little chitchat, just shoot a text, head over there, bang the bejesus out of her, wipe my dyck and leave.
The thing is though that I had other plates to fvck in between. That's what you need to do. Then you won't really care what she does, as long as she's relieving you of a load when you're bored.

 

[soulforge]

I get the feeling she might be checking some other dude. Because recently she is acting distant.. she used to send me a good morning message on whatsapp every day...

Now she is not... either way, this chick is not the type u settle down with... low quality with lots of red flags... last two boyfriend's of hers, beat her up...

So if she is acting cold an distanct.. should I do the same?

Or message her, and suggest meeting up for sex this coming weekend?


See how she responds... if she makes some excuse, about not being able to meet... then I just next her?

 

[Fireballs]

If you really want to keep her around for sex, here's what I would do.

Ask her to come over/meet for sex. See how she responds and if it's not to your liking go NC until she initiates with you again.

When she initiates again, immediately ask her to come over/meet up for sex and if she declines, go NC once again. Repeat until your'e fed up with her depending on how it goes.

Don't be her texting buddy.

 

[pyros]

I get the feeling she might be checking some other dude. Because recently she is acting distant.. she used to send me a good morning message on whatsapp every day...

Now she is not... either way, this chick is not the type u settle down with... low quality with lots of red flags... last two boyfriend's of hers, beat her up...

So if she is acting cold an distanct.. should I do the same?

Or message her, and suggest meeting up for sex this coming weekend?


See how she responds... if she makes some excuse, about not being able to meet... then I just next her?

yes man, she is probably seing another dude/s, no question about it,s top wondering.

Now, she has little interest in you, well, enough interest to have sex with you once a month. Either:
a) accept it.
b) ask her to meet more often.
c) dump her.

I would go with b), and if it doesnt work, go with a)

No need to overthink it this much. Just accept the truth: she's not that into you which annoys you cause you consider her trash so you think she should be the one chasing you, but reality says different LMAO.

It happens.

 

[Fireballs]

Double post.