Not cut out to be a DJ?

[ematsuda]

I really don't know how you guys do it man... I really don't. I've been cruising this board, trying to soak up the advice and put it into play at the bars I hang out at. But this girl I've been dating/sleeping with just doesn't seem to budge. I told her the night before that I can't have a bf/gf relationship with her because it's too early (I only dated her 4 times). I told her I liked her but I needed more time. Now she's putting on the pressure, examine:

Last night she calls to meet me at a bar that my friends and I hang out at (my friend and I were already there). She comes in wearing these skimpy clothes looking super hot and all the guys drooling over her. She tells me that she has to meet her friend at a club and asks me if I wanted to come along. Well, I can't just ditch my friend so I said no. She stays for a while then leaves without giving me a kiss or a hug or nothing - she just says "bye". Fvckin' sassy. Just then my imagination got the best of me and the jealousy made me lose some much needed sleep. She knows she's hot, she comes in strutting her stuff, then leaves abruptly as if I was only her drinking buddy or something. I was pissed but didn't show it.

So this is my problem. I like good looking, sexy girls, but I can't stand when they're that way when I'm not with them. Sometimes I want to just give it up and date someone more safe but I know they can't turn me on like she does. What to do? How do I keep my cool here?

 

[ematsuda]

I can make her jealous by showing up with another hottie (there's another one I've dated in the past that always asks me to call her again to go out) if I want to but I don't want her upset at me. This other girl is actually the best looking girl I know. She has the facial features of a cross between Nicole Kidman (eyes)and Mandy Moore (smile, dimples). Only problem is that she's a bossy ***** and our last date ended up in me telling her off and her ignoring me for the rest of the night. So, this is last resort but I'm contemplating it.

 

[Ice Cold]

Why did you name the thread "Not cut out to be a DJ?"

You have a goal: To break her and make her posess you. You wanna make her be yours.

Think about that, instead of "I'm not cut out" sh1t

It's hard

 

[ematsuda]

Why did you name the thread "Not cut out to be a DJ?"

Why? Because it's difficult to keep cool and not get upset about it - I couldn't sleep. Her looks just blew me away last night. Of course no one else knows this.

 

[Ice Cold]

You have one-itis (duh) Her IL is too low right now.

You should cut her off. This will achieve 2 things - she'll wanna be with you. You'll get some other chicks while you're away and your one-itis will dissapear.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Your problem is that you don't have control over your woman and you let her do and say what she pleases. She knows that she can walk all over you and you will take it. She dresses like a slut to get attention from men, so don't be surprised if she is on someone elses jock!

Command respect and quit lusting over her, your lust is giving her the power and control in the relationship - be ready to leave her if she doesn't immediately comply with your widhes and demands!!! Be a man!!!

DJ's are always in control of their women and set the agenda!!

 

[ematsuda]

PRL, what if I just cut her off and stop calling her already? Like Ice Cold said. I like her but not attached enough that I can't walk away from this one.

Like I posted, I got another even hotter one in the oven. The other one also hangs out at the clubs and bars the girl #1 does and she sees her as a threat after I mentioned that I dated "that girl" before.

 

[NewMan]

I'm lost what's the problem?

Your jealous when your not around them - but you don't want to be around them 24/7.

It's a mind game.

She's mind fvcking you and your playing up to her tune.

Your reacting to her is exactly what SHE wants.

You've given her the power over you.

you take back the power by not reacting to her when she does these things.

You've told her you don't want a relationship - but she tells you she wants one....

Thats pretty damn DJ to me.

The bottom line to all of this is you've got to do what makes YOU happy.

At the same time she's got to respect you.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

The same day that a girl disrespects you and goes somewhere where she shouldn't be, and at that without you, that is the day you need to bounce and go your own way. You should have told her that she could go to clubs alone, heretofore!! Keep your dignity, that is a man's greatest asset!!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

x

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. By realizing there is a war going on. The prize is your nuts. Will she win? I hope not.

2. Do you think she showed up looking all hot for nothing? I hope not.

3. You did good by ignoring her shyt. Those are called symp tests. You probably pissed her off real good when you didn't go either and bow down to her beauty.

4. This is how the game is...get used to it. Over time you will laugh in her face and it will not make you jealous anymore. (which you know that was her dress purpose)

 

[Chemistry]

You didn't give in to it... as has already been said numerous times

BUT, you've got this ONE-itis over her...

Now I could appreciate it a little more if you talkin about it on just a personality basis, but this is the opposite... you're talkin on a purely looks basis... now she might look THAT good, BUT there is a whole range of women who look just as good and better than her...

You can't seriously tell me she's the only girl who gets you up to that extent...

 

[ematsuda]

Fvkin' one-itis... I wish there was a pill or something I could take that'll snap me the fvck out of it. I'm calling that other b!tch tonight.a ;l;fdaskhdfaskldhjf!!!!!!!!!