Not creative. How to fix?

[Abbott]

OK, it's like this, I've been at this site off-and-on for the past year and a half. I've only went out with a chick once ever, and that was boring for her and myself (please reserve the laughs until after the end of this post).

I think the problem is that when I see a hottie that I might want to meet I can't think of anything to say quickly enough so I can say it before I go away or they go away. I don't mean like a word-for-word script, because that's silly, inflexible, and not likely to work.

I'm an undergraduate college guy whose into say, age 19-23. So perhaps that might change the game a little, since they might not have had that much experience themselves.

Here's an example of what I mean by "what to say" when I see a target:

If I see a chick who's obviously a sorority girl then I'd ask them about if they go to my school. And if so then I'd ask them if I can join the sorority. Then after that I could joke around about being the first guy, and in conclusion I'd mention how they might be interesting and get their number right before I leave.

This particular example, however, took me about an hour to compose, and what caused me to do so what when I saw a couple of obviously sorority girls who happened to go to the video rental store the about same time I did.

What I'm thinking is if I can make up ideas like this in 2-3 minutes, instead of an HOUR, I'd still have enough time to talk to them, instead of wishing I could invent these ideas sooner.

So, who else here has or had the creativity problem and if you solved it, how did you do it?

Abbott out,

Ben

 

[PiNkMaGGiT]

erm i don't really think it's something you can 'fix'. I dunno, watch more comedy. Just try to develop a quick wit. Try and make jokes about everything to yourself.

 

[2N Turbo]

I have the exact opposite of your problem. Women always tell me I'm funny, I think I got it from my dad. I just never know it because I think my parents ploted against me to not teach me spanish. Because my old brother knows it. Anyway I started to pick up on it and I realize that my dad was pretty funny, like crap your pants or seeing a women get chased by pigeons funny.

When you think about it, there is a lot of hope for you. Look, Micheal Jordan didnt even make varsity. Somethings just come to us natrually. I was pissed off becaues when I 1st bought my supra TT, I ran high 13s in the quarter. Here I am in a 450 hp modded supra running 13s, but practicing got me better where I didnt have to think to shift, it just happens. Cuz thinking slowed me down. Now i run 12 second quarters with the same car.

Next time your out, you have plent of times to say witty comments to people. Some people say stuff and they are asking to get maked fun of. First, you have to think about it. Then when you get better, you will have ideas just flying through your head. Finally, you will spit it out without having to think.

Like learning a language, you will use your little book to look up stuff. Then when you get better, you dont need the book. Then you will be able to speak it slowly, then faster. Next thing you know, the voice in you own head is speaking this foreign language when your thinking, then you know your badass.

Like the other day, I was with my friend and his little brother, who just got arrested couple days before. He asked his little brother what did he say when people asked him what was he in for. I say without thinkin, "did you tell them you stabbed a blind man for looking at you ****eyed, and that he didnt even see it coming."

 

[Santos]

You aren't alone. I find I am quite good at conversation, and I am quick witted. But when it comes to ideas on APPROACHING I suck extremely. I think, as with anything else - it takes practice. I used to suck at convo, now I'm good (practice).

I think the best opening lines are funny ones, it shows confidence and a sense of humor. Watch more comedy, I always recommend Jerry Seinfield (sp?). I find a lot of sitcoms aren't good for one-liners. But the Drew Carrey show is basically stand-up comedy with a bunch of ppl standing around an office all day.

My friend from school used to suck at ideas for approaching, but through practice and experience he's gotten quite good. Even if you can't think of a FUNNY approach, anything that gets you talking to her will do, right?

Practice, it's what I'm doing. I'm learning to talk to total strangers (male or female), it teachs you to strike up a convo.

Santos

 

[Duke]

Originally posted by 2N Turbo

Like the other day, I was with my friend and his little brother, who just got arrested couple days before. He asked his little brother what did he say when people asked him what was he in for. I say without thinkin, "did you tell them you stabbed a blind man for looking at you ****eyed, and that he didnt even see it coming."

Lmao! Wish I had that kind of skill man. I'm the type of guy that makes corny jokes that are funny because they are so bad.
A couple of weeks ago, I was at a party. One of the guys there wants to become a marine-- really into the military, etc.

I was over at a table playing blackjack with some friends. Well the marine guy was looking for his hat. He says, "Come on, where's my hat?"
I glance in his direction and say , "Ahhh, never leave a hat behind, eh?"
Nobody laughed. I look around and go "Get it?" Marine guy goes, "Yeah I get it."
Then everyone started cracking up and I got a few pity laughs.

Some stuff has "funny" written all over it. Like today we were talking about this party where everyone got all wasted. This one really drunk chick was wallowing in her own urine and then lifted her head in a stupidied haze and asked for a dougnut! Priceless.

 

[aguynamedwill]

keep a journal

I don't mean like a word-for-word script, because that's silly, inflexible, and not likely to work.

sounds like you haven't even tried that. so how do you know until you've tried it?

I recommend keeping a journal. I do this, because I often think of a classic line 5 minutes too late. So I write it down, and I look them all over every so often, to keep them fresh. I read/heard that's what professional comedians do, and what seems like quick wit is just a resevoir of funny stuff they've kept in memory and applied at the perfect time.

as far as approaching, why do you need to say something funny? are you trying to IMPRESS her? why? you don't need to impress people. people can tell if you're trying. then they think you're beneath them. and if you're not trying to impress a beautiful woman, that actually WILL impress her. I always go with a 'hi' if she's looking at me, or in my general direction. If not, 'excuse me' works well. Its not AFC, its to show you have some manners. Then comment on the situation/place. Say whatever you're thinking as long as its positive. Don't give compliments unless its a 'You seem friendly and I'd like to talk to you' type, or an unusual feature (cool hair, unique jewelry). Get her talking (about herself), show her you're not a psycho, but in fact a friendly, fun guy, let her warm up, then get the number.

Think of some things to say that SEEM totally casual, then write them down and memorise them. PRACTICE them so that when you use them they come off as casual.

Thats my input anyways