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Master Don Juan
I've been currently dating a girl for about 2-3 months (I'm 18; she's 20), and one problem that is recurring is that I often feel like I'm not getting what I should be in terms of sex/intimacy.
I'll go into more detail. At certain times, my gf is very sexual and willing to be very intimate (for instance, when she's fertile, but not limited to this time). Then at other times, she's totally not.
For example, last night, she was all over me to have sex, and was very intimate/close. Then, tonight, when she spends the night again, she says "we're not going to have sex" and just goes to bed, without much intimacy or closeness at all.
There are two things wrong here, that are apparent to me. First, it really pisses me off when she just comes straight out and says something along the lines of "ya know, we're not going to have sex." I do not like the feeling of sex being determined by her ephemeral, brief occuring, feelings, and how she thinks she can just call all the shots. This really pisses me off. Second, even though she doesn't want to have sex, she could at least act intimate, and maybe go down on me, or give me a handjob, or something to at least please me. She KNOWS that I would really appreciate to be pleasured, but what the f*ck does she do? Rolls over and sleeps, without doing ANYTHING.
Now, like I said, this pisses me off, and I have showed that it does to her. When I suggest her give me a bj or handjob, she says, "I just don't feel like." What pisses me off is that it doesn't occur to her that maybe I FEEL LIKE! And when I tell her this, she acts nonchalant, tries to ignore it, and starts acting like a b*tch. Another saying she might chant when I make a suggestion as to her doing something like a bj or handjob is "I don't know...I just like to do them on a whim, make it a surprise." The problem is that it's been over TWO WEEKS since she's given me a *******, and she's really never even given me a handjob. This kind of bull**** pisses me off.
Let me give you an example. Last night, after about having to have some more sex, she starts kinda riding me (not actually having sex), and after a few minutes of this, and after I have become very hard and ready, she says that she just kinda got off. Then, instead of at least trying to pleasure me (she KNOWS I'm hard), she rolls over and wants to just sleep. When I'm like "what the ****," she just ignores it.
Now, she does seem to like me and being around me, and I don't mind being around her. The problems are those that I have just described, and they really do irritate me. I feel like I she needs to be more receptive to my needs and actually act like she gives a damn by maybe just doing something once and a while, without me mainly always being the one initiating sex/intimacy. I also feels like she could be playing some stupid little game with me.
Anyway, this is becoming a big problem and I feel VERY STRONGLY about it. It's been occuring for a while now, and though I've tried explaining it to her, she still acts the same.
Because it is so damn irritating, it often comes in my mind that I should simply break it off with her. But at the same time, I do like her, and I can't seem to grow the balls to just detach myself from her. For instance, I'll say to myself that I am going to ignore her for a while, but I always end up calling her up and we always end up getting together. It's that I have this feeling where I don't want to let go, and my logical reasoning is always beaten by my emotion. Also, let's face it: it's stable. I can pretty much be guaranteed in getting sex a couple times a week, and it's nice having someone with you, and in a relationship. But at the same time, I feel like I'm often NOT being satisfied how I want to be...but am I being unreasonable?
I hope that by posting on here, I can get some feedback and response regarding what I should do here.
I really do appreciate it, and thanks in advanced.
I'll go into more detail. At certain times, my gf is very sexual and willing to be very intimate (for instance, when she's fertile, but not limited to this time). Then at other times, she's totally not.
For example, last night, she was all over me to have sex, and was very intimate/close. Then, tonight, when she spends the night again, she says "we're not going to have sex" and just goes to bed, without much intimacy or closeness at all.
There are two things wrong here, that are apparent to me. First, it really pisses me off when she just comes straight out and says something along the lines of "ya know, we're not going to have sex." I do not like the feeling of sex being determined by her ephemeral, brief occuring, feelings, and how she thinks she can just call all the shots. This really pisses me off. Second, even though she doesn't want to have sex, she could at least act intimate, and maybe go down on me, or give me a handjob, or something to at least please me. She KNOWS that I would really appreciate to be pleasured, but what the f*ck does she do? Rolls over and sleeps, without doing ANYTHING.
Now, like I said, this pisses me off, and I have showed that it does to her. When I suggest her give me a bj or handjob, she says, "I just don't feel like." What pisses me off is that it doesn't occur to her that maybe I FEEL LIKE! And when I tell her this, she acts nonchalant, tries to ignore it, and starts acting like a b*tch. Another saying she might chant when I make a suggestion as to her doing something like a bj or handjob is "I don't know...I just like to do them on a whim, make it a surprise." The problem is that it's been over TWO WEEKS since she's given me a *******, and she's really never even given me a handjob. This kind of bull**** pisses me off.
Let me give you an example. Last night, after about having to have some more sex, she starts kinda riding me (not actually having sex), and after a few minutes of this, and after I have become very hard and ready, she says that she just kinda got off. Then, instead of at least trying to pleasure me (she KNOWS I'm hard), she rolls over and wants to just sleep. When I'm like "what the ****," she just ignores it.
Now, she does seem to like me and being around me, and I don't mind being around her. The problems are those that I have just described, and they really do irritate me. I feel like I she needs to be more receptive to my needs and actually act like she gives a damn by maybe just doing something once and a while, without me mainly always being the one initiating sex/intimacy. I also feels like she could be playing some stupid little game with me.
Anyway, this is becoming a big problem and I feel VERY STRONGLY about it. It's been occuring for a while now, and though I've tried explaining it to her, she still acts the same.
Because it is so damn irritating, it often comes in my mind that I should simply break it off with her. But at the same time, I do like her, and I can't seem to grow the balls to just detach myself from her. For instance, I'll say to myself that I am going to ignore her for a while, but I always end up calling her up and we always end up getting together. It's that I have this feeling where I don't want to let go, and my logical reasoning is always beaten by my emotion. Also, let's face it: it's stable. I can pretty much be guaranteed in getting sex a couple times a week, and it's nice having someone with you, and in a relationship. But at the same time, I feel like I'm often NOT being satisfied how I want to be...but am I being unreasonable?
I hope that by posting on here, I can get some feedback and response regarding what I should do here.
I really do appreciate it, and thanks in advanced.
