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Not as much time for women.

Rainman4707

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I dont care that much about women anymore. I dont have much time for women. I dont care if they like me or not. Who gives a ****!!

I like this forum, but id rather read a book and learn something.

When im on this forum or on an online dating website, i cannot help but think im spending to much of my valuable time on women.

I have a super life without women and am fine on my own.

Women are good as friends. If they offer more i might take it....on my terms.

Im not sure if my attitude has changed because ive got older or whether its because ive changed my lifestyle...but i feel releived.

I used to want a family...so would maybe compromise....but now the chance of me compromising has fallen.
 

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No one will ever make me believe women make good friends. I’ve been down that road several times and I’ll nope the fvck out whenever it’s offered now. Friendship to them means they get to use you and you get to like it. That’s all it is.
 

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Only the ugly ones.
Correct. I have a female friend. I'm not attracted to her and she doesn't live in the city as I do.

I have some other female acquaintances like spouses/girlfriends of my male friends and former female co-workers.

One of the best things I've done in the mating environment over time is not fall into the friend zone with women I find attractive.

I dont have much time for women.
Women take up a lot of time. Both seducing them and maintaining existing relationships with them. More of the time is spent in the initial seducing. Online dating is the biggest time suck, followed by cold approaching. Social circles are tough to build but likely offer the best return on time spent. Ideally, you don't relocate from where you grew up as a child and can reap the benefits in adulthood of the social circle things you did before puberty.
 

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....yeah....i wouldnt be investing anything more than i received.
Post was more about how i use my time more now on myself rather than chasing women
 

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No one will ever make me believe women make good friends. I’ve been down that road several times and I’ll nope the fvck out whenever it’s offered now. Friendship to them means they get to use you and you get to like it. That’s all it is.
The way I see it is that part of the game is being able to figure out whether there is genuine interest as quickly as possible without wasting time. Being "friends" with a woman is just wasting time. If you like a woman you should make a move and if the interest is not mutual you should totally remove her from your life.
 

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The way I see it is that part of the game is being able to figure out whether there is genuine interest as quickly as possible without wasting time. Being "friends" with a woman is just wasting time. If you like a woman you should make a move and if the interest is not mutual you should totally remove her from your life.
I’ve never been friendzoned like that before. Ever. I’ve always made my move from the beginning. The times I’ve been Friendzone it’s been a short term dating and then “let’s just be friends”, except they’ve actually meant it. I used to be able to tell genuine interest from no interest but I can’t anymore. Women can fake interest perfectly now, which explains them moving so fast in the beginning only to lose that interest just as fast within a matter of days.
 
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I’ve never been friendzoned like that before. Ever. I’ve always made my move from the beginning. The times I’ve web Friendzone it’s been a short term dating and then “let’s just be friends”, except they’ve actually meant it. I used to be able to tell genuine interest from no interest but I can’t anymore. Women can fake interest perfectly now, which explains them moving so fast in the beginning only to lose that interest just as fast within a matter of days.
They aren’t faking; they have too many options. Hypergamy + social media won’t let them focus on one man like biology wired them to. Two clicks on their phone leads to hundreds of messages and “likes” from men.
 

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I’ve never been friendzoned like that before. Ever. I’ve always made my move from the beginning. The times I’ve web Friendzone it’s been a short term dating and then “let’s just be friends”, except they’ve actually meant it. I used to be able to tell genuine interest from no interest but I can’t anymore. Women can fake interest perfectly now, which explains them moving so fast in the beginning only to lose that interest just as fast within a matter of days.
Women can't fake getting fingered.
 

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Why force something if it’s not there for you? If you legitimately have no interest in dating and are happier without it I say do without.

If, however, you’re giving up because you haven’t had success then I think that’s a bit different. Maybe then there’s something that needs to be addressed before you throw in the towel.
 

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Why force something if it’s not there for you?

If, however, you’re giving up because you haven’t had success then I think that’s a bit different.
Right, if you are not having success then obviously its not there for you and you are forcing it.
 

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Im not sure if my attitude has changed because ive got older or whether its because ive changed my lifestyle...but i feel releived.

I used to want a family...so would maybe compromise....but now the chance of me compromising has fallen.
Probably its because you got older. You don't have as much energy to waste and time goes by faster as you get older.
 

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Women can fake interest perfectly now, which explains them moving so fast in the beginning only to lose that interest just as fast within a matter of days.
theyre also excellent at looking precious online. there used to be a time when a woman with 150 friends was wife material.......

a chic down the road doesnt even swear online, and takes pics in floral dresses, my two mates ran a threeway on her the other day.

the mere fact she has a mobile phone, means shes spinning that eco system
 

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Are you sure about that? I have a female friend, who buys me gifts and helps me with studies even though I don't ask for it or gave her something big in return
I’m sure about that. At least in my experience. It’s always been a really bad deal.
 

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Well then I hope it will change one Day and you find a good female friend. Personally I have as much fun with them as I have with male friends maybe you just had the wrong ones in your life
What I’ve learned that’s even more fun is hanging around women that wants to date me and fvck me over spending my precious time around those who don’t. I’ve learned to value my time way more.
 

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I dont care that much about women anymore. I dont have much time for women. I dont care if they like me or not. Who gives a ****!!

I like this forum, but id rather read a book and learn something.

When im on this forum or on an online dating website, i cannot help but think im spending to much of my valuable time on women.

I have a super life without women and am fine on my own.

Women are good as friends. If they offer more i might take it....on my terms.

Im not sure if my attitude has changed because ive got older or whether its because ive changed my lifestyle...but i feel releived.

I used to want a family...so would maybe compromise....but now the chance of me compromising has fallen.
The most unsuccessful, aimless men I know are the ones who throughout their life have placed chasing women and pursuing relationships as their #1 objective.

Most all are stuck in s&*t jobs, have little or no $, and have no passion or purpose to pursue.

Many are friends of mine because they are good friends and nice guys. Just messed up on their life priorities.
 

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Well then I hope it will change one Day and you find a good female friend. Personally I have as much fun with them as I have with male friends maybe you just had the wrong ones in your life
being friends with a woman suits her in 1000 ways, and you in 0
 

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Why force something if it’s not there for you? If you legitimately have no interest in dating and are happier without it I say do without.

If, however, you’re giving up because you haven’t had success then I think that’s a bit different. Maybe then there’s something that needs to be addressed before you throw in the towel.
I have interest in dating. I spend most of my time working on being more masculine.
 
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