Not always being available

[digitalrat]

I've been seeing this chick a week now. Not g/f and b/f yet because I think that maybe after a month or two of dating then its offical. Anyways, Last night was the first night we really got to go out together by ourselves. It wasnt the best date. My car almost overheated in traffic, had to turn the heater on. Then we I was at a gas station my battery died. I made light of it and didnt say sorry for what happened. She didnt complain or whin.

My only problem is that when I'm with her I feel really good and happy. When I'm not with her or with friends, I feel really down. A lot of my friends are working or on vacation. I know that's a way to forget about her and have a good time.

I think I get bored really easy and I just can't stand it. I know she's just sitting at home watching TV eating ****. I know I could call her right now and I could be over there(she lives in my neighborhood) watching a moving with her doing some intense kino. But I know seeing her one day after another is not a good idea and it will over her interest.

Were both 17.

Any suggestions or ideas on how to control this mild-depression. I hate it.

 

[Eventide]

Sometimes when I'm bored I masturbate and see how long I can keep it up for. Seriously.

Asides from that it sounds as though you need a hobby. What are you really good at, or what do you really enjoy doing? Well, if possible, take that to the next level.

Examples:

I used to be a little computer geeky kid and I loved just browsing the web. So I learned web design and made a webpage. HTML isn't all that hard, but its still funny to tell people that I mastered HTML 4.0 in the sixth grade. Even though most of them don't know wtf HTML is.

I used to be really into console games. So I learned how to crack open consoles and modify them. Modchips and stuff. I like to tinker with electronics, and then when Im done I can copy games and save myself the trouble of buying them. The downside is that now my friends want me to do their stuff, but I don't mind. I might even get some cash out of it.

Thats just me, though. Get a job if you don't have one. You may hate the idea of work, but you won't hate it so bad come payday. Plus you meet people and kill time.

 

[digitalrat]

Originally posted by Eventide
Sometimes when I'm bored I masturbate and see how long I can keep it up for. Seriously.

Asides from that it sounds as though you need a hobby. What are you really good at, or what do you really enjoy doing? Well, if possible, take that to the next level.

Examples:

I used to be a little computer geeky kid and I loved just browsing the web. So I learned web design and made a webpage. HTML isn't all that hard, but its still funny to tell people that I mastered HTML 4.0 in the sixth grade. Even though most of them don't know wtf HTML is.

I used to be really into console games. So I learned how to crack open consoles and modify them. Modchips and stuff. I like to tinker with electronics, and then when Im done I can copy games and save myself the trouble of buying them. The downside is that now my friends want me to do their stuff, but I don't mind. I might even get some cash out of it.

Thats just me, though. Get a job if you don't have one. You may hate the idea of work, but you won't hate it so bad come payday. Plus you meet people and kill time.

I've been considering a job. I like to make music and I really need to push myself to make some new stuff.

 

[Serg897]

My only problem is that when I'm with her I feel really good and happy. When I'm not with her or with friends, I feel really down

you know what, im feeling almost this same thing.

I know its stupid, since I know this girl is crazy about me, but when im at home not doing much I find myself thinking pretty much what you describe. I think part of this feeling is brought up by the fact that there is always some kind of problem getting together with her ( ussually on my end, not hers, shes problably dying to see me. )

I have a job now, and it does take my mind off it somewhat.

 

[digitalrat]

Originally posted by Serg897
you know what, im feeling almost this same thing.

I know its stupid, since I know this girl is crazy about me, but when im at home not doing much I find myself thinking pretty much what you describe. I think part of this feeling is brought up by the fact that there is always some kind of problem getting together with her ( ussually on my end, not hers, shes problably dying to see me. )

I have a job now, and it does take my mind off it somewhat.

This girl is also crazy about me. I would actually feel better if she didnt like me. I wouldnt be thinking of her and would just NEXT her. But I dont want that! lol

 

[drixsa]

digRat-

glad to hear of your success

i just want to warn you that it seems that you are trying to make happiness from her

a hobby or a job is a good way to use that valuable time of yours

though it is so tempting to call her and want to do something everyday, YOU CANNOT

you could kill a good thing by smothering it

it is not so bad jus to call her and ask her to chill every once in a while

there are some great posts on being spontaneous

so just when they think you got them figured out you can pull a card from your sleeve

say shes used to going out with you at night, change the scenery and go out for breakfast

say you usually do something within your area

take her somewhere far away, and suprize her

even jus callin her to come over to your place to watch a movie once in a while is good

another thing that i have just started doing is writing a log down

im am currently seeing 3-4 different woman right now, so i like to write down all the things we do, when we do them, whether it was spontaneous or normal, wheter it was an action or a relaxed date, whether i called them a day to a week in advance,

it is kind of interesting for the time being, it is keeping me sharp and making me come up with good ideas

may work for you as well