Not a romantic girl

[godofshampoo]

I am a senior in highschool and have been going out with my girlfriend for just over two months now. The first two months we were only able to hang out once together since she had to go to canada and other places to prepare for next year (she is going on an exchange program to Japan). Finally last weekend we were able to hang out after about 2 months of only seeing each other in school. I picked her up for lunch with some friends and then we went back to our friend's house and played games till around 10:00 at night.

I was mainly looking for advice since it is both of our first relationship. she isn't a romantic person and is shy and isn't very touchy feely. When we are in school together she stays with me when she can and in the classes we have together, we walk together in the halls and stuff and eat lunch together when we have the same lunch period. She has texting but doesn't really use it. If I text her typically she will reply and we will text for a while (unless she isn't near her phone, which she is kinda' infamous for, but she generally makes sure to get back to me) She goes on facebook also, but most of the time it is signed in as "offline". Im not sure if it is just because she doesn't want to be bother or what, but when ever she does go "online" she chats with me for a while.

When we talk in private she seems to be a lot more open and willing to joke and stuff, but when we talk in things more public (like a wall post) she will just answer with a bland remark. So I was just wondering how I should act around her and stuff. She says she likes "spontaneous things over romantic things". She has a very traditional and conservative view on things like dating so how do you think I should act around her? I'm not really afraid or feel insecure about anything, I know she really likes me. Her friends tell me about her a lot and every night when we talk before we got to bed she tells me that she loves me.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

I got the impression of a best friend here. Are you even doing anything sexual? Cause that's the difference between bf/gf and friendship.
This is like anxious co-dependence.

You need to take the lead and get sexual. You need to go first.

 

[godofshampoo]

yeah I do do "sexual" things with her... we don't actually have sex... not every girl is like that. Mine is more humble and "traditional and conservative" in her ways like I said. I was just wondering what how you all thought I should go with keeping things up with her. Keep in mind that she is shy and timid about things, she told me she wants to take things slow and I am alright with that.

And the only reason we haven't been going on dates too often was because up until last weekend, every weekend one of us were out of town, and there was a short time where her parents kept her locked up until she convinced them that it is okay

 

[I'm in the Mood]

I don't think she's your girlfriend, dude. I mean if you've only hung out once that's not really much of a relationship.

Well she already gave you some good advice: be spontaneous. Spontaneity isn't that hard, you just have to be used to it. Be unpredictable. Next time you two are sharing a moment alone, give her a kiss.

She sounds like a really shy and withdrawn girl from how you've described her.
What do you want out of this relationship anyway?

 

[Joshski]

I'm gonna jump on the same boat as DJ and Mood. You haven't described anything sexual you have done with this girl. You use the terms "hang-out," but you never say kiss, cuddle, make out, dance, grind, etc. All the terms you use make you seem like you are friends with her.