Went to the club with a couple of friends.
I was clean, wearing cologne, smiling, dancing, approached a woman in a red dress and asked how her night was going, she said good and asked about mine. She didn't seem overly interested and I danced off to the middle of the floor. She calls me back and says "dance over here" (with her group) but it was clear that it was not with her.
So she disappears and later I find her outside in the smoking area with another guy, walk up to them, and say hi. She is friendly but tells the other guy "I don't know him, I just called him over because he looked like he was on his own and I felt sorry for him" I said "well my friends have left now" She gave me some more pity. Then the club wierdo walked by, I didn't see, but she said, "this guy scares me" I asked "Who, me?" And she said, "no, I felt sorry for you, you don't scare me".
In that moment I realised that when I was dancing around the other girls and her friends, and I gave them some good eye contact, I would see the twinge of disgust on their faces. Not one of them was sexually attracted to me at any point during the night.
Meanwhile my tall Jewish friend who does not dance, just stands around, a girl in an open relationship propositions him for sex near the end of the evening after eyeing him up at the start. He told me all he has to do is wait for the girls to come to him and I saw that happen tonight. She was a skanky ***** making out with a guy and a girl both of whom looked like sex fiends. So she is not my bag anyway, but that is what you would call sexual attraction. I didn't get any.
I wonder if all of the girls who approach me feel the same way. That I am some kind of sad case. I don't know why. I was genuinely upbeat. I was happy. And when that girl thought I was alone, my friends were actually nearby but they weren't dancing. They left at the point when I went out to the smoking area to find her.
I'm thin but I don't look like a stick, I have broad shoulders. I've been learning Salsa so dancing in the club is easy by comparison. I think they find my face objectionable. What can I do if I want to go out and feel some sexual attraction next time?
I was clean, wearing cologne, smiling, dancing, approached a woman in a red dress and asked how her night was going, she said good and asked about mine. She didn't seem overly interested and I danced off to the middle of the floor. She calls me back and says "dance over here" (with her group) but it was clear that it was not with her.
So she disappears and later I find her outside in the smoking area with another guy, walk up to them, and say hi. She is friendly but tells the other guy "I don't know him, I just called him over because he looked like he was on his own and I felt sorry for him" I said "well my friends have left now" She gave me some more pity. Then the club wierdo walked by, I didn't see, but she said, "this guy scares me" I asked "Who, me?" And she said, "no, I felt sorry for you, you don't scare me".
In that moment I realised that when I was dancing around the other girls and her friends, and I gave them some good eye contact, I would see the twinge of disgust on their faces. Not one of them was sexually attracted to me at any point during the night.
Meanwhile my tall Jewish friend who does not dance, just stands around, a girl in an open relationship propositions him for sex near the end of the evening after eyeing him up at the start. He told me all he has to do is wait for the girls to come to him and I saw that happen tonight. She was a skanky ***** making out with a guy and a girl both of whom looked like sex fiends. So she is not my bag anyway, but that is what you would call sexual attraction. I didn't get any.
I wonder if all of the girls who approach me feel the same way. That I am some kind of sad case. I don't know why. I was genuinely upbeat. I was happy. And when that girl thought I was alone, my friends were actually nearby but they weren't dancing. They left at the point when I went out to the smoking area to find her.
I'm thin but I don't look like a stick, I have broad shoulders. I've been learning Salsa so dancing in the club is easy by comparison. I think they find my face objectionable. What can I do if I want to go out and feel some sexual attraction next time?
Last edited:
