No one out there and most people on here do not want you to have the DJ life, you're on your own.

[Listen_to_Olly]

Not trying to divide a forum but I have come to realize something that isn't just true of this forum but human nature in general, something we call crabs in a bucket which I have seen take place in so many different ways in my life. A great deal of guys on here came on here with aspirations of being that guy. The guy with hot girls in his life, hot girls around him, and the one living playboy lifestyle of partying, socializing, making money, and dating/casually f-cking hot girls.

Well here is the blunt truth, almost all people in society and even most people on here do not want you to have that life, they want you to be "fulfilled" but they don't want you to objectively have that life. There are many ways this prevention happens, you've seen it happen countless times.

Moral lectures and guilt trips.

"Oh really? You want to sleep with hot girls? Is that all there is to life for you?"

"Well excuse me for having a hobby, reading books, wearing a fedora, and being an interesting person, at least my lifestyle isn't obsessed with chasing women"

"Dude it's just p-ssy man, there is more important things to life!"

Posters on here doing their best to be someone's parent and desperately wanting to be a parent to a poster on here. On the surface, these are rational statements but dig deeper, they are not all that rational at all. What they are saying is "I don't want you to be a playboy but I am too scared to say I don't want you to be one".

These guys are saying getting laid doesn't matter while posting a forum designed to help guys do that, think about that for a second.

It can be older users who envy the energy and time younger users have and attempt to give them lectures about "life". It can be guys your own age who are tring to take the "high road" by bragging about their education and how their life is so much better because they don't put the time into getting women.

Denial of things such as status and location.

Status matters a lot when it comes to getting girls and some cities are simply more player friendly than others, but they won't tell you which ones. They will simply deny it, say it doesn't matter, give you motivational pep talks of "being ur best!", and once again go back to guilt tripping you for "traveling so far for p-ssy".

You have a better chance of being a playboy in Miami or NYC than you do in small city Utah.

You're not going to have much luck as some Wilmer Valderrama lookalike in a state like Arizona if you want to get hot girls because of obvious reasons.

But they won't let you know of any of this, they prefer you not know of any of this.

There are many more tactics but it all leads to one thing.

They don't want you to be a playboy, they don't want you to have that life, and you're on your own.

You have to somehow piece it together and figure it out.

A lot of you will come through, get brainwashed into giving up that life, and settle. In a few years, you'll either be those lonely MGTOW types that are antisocial or you will be the guy that marries an ugly woman below his league. I say that the vast majority of you, perhaps even all of you, will not make it or live that life.

You will cope by being proud of your mediocre existence like the way a feminist copes by being overweight.

You will try your hardest to show that you're better than Dan Bilzerian at the age of 30 because you have read more blog posts rather than gone out there and lived the life.

Which is why only the truly strongest make it.

They keep their eyes on the prize and they will get it.

They keep pushing and going when 99% of people tell them no.

They keep fighting when everything stands in their way.

They keep digging when the answer isn't so easily found.

They will be the ones with a chance of having that life while most of you won't even have that chance.

 

[Serenity]

Sure dude. The guys who've been on this forum a few years are full of sh!t, you know so much more than us and you're entirely not arrogant right now.

I have been through that phase and I think most senior members before me have too. This reply or any of the following replies probably won't change your mind, but where our words will undoubtedly fail, reality and life will succeed at teaching you the lesson.

Basically it's not as fun to actually live like that as you imagine. We've been there, grew tired of it and moved on to other things that made us want to get up in the morning. So the "there's more important things to life than women" view comes sometime after you've tried living like a manslvt.
If playing the same game for decades is your thing though then your fantasy might be doable.

Good luck proving us wrong, haven't seen it happen yet.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

This was by one of the most idiotic threads I've read. You are the type that is just one step above Elliot Rodgers where you 'think' you get it, even though you don't. I've read many of your posts, and they are not insightful or useful at all above the surface level. Go read the DJ Bible or the Book of Pook before you begin spewing out garbage.
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Listen here, the real reason why people talk about self-improvement in the first place is because of Pook. This dude literally revolutionized the entire manosphere community all by himself, and he was the one who originally stated to not chase women. Why? Because with your stupidly fvcked up belief, you make it your GOAL, your PURPOSE in life to have women, as if women could ever bring you true permanent happiness. Pook said that idea is stupid. Why? Because you are focusing on women. Who/what should you be focusing on instead? Yourself. You focus on yourself, not women. Women just come along for the ride. By focusing on women, you will be changing aspects of yourself that is not true to you, and as such you will be unhappy. But by focusing on you, you upgrade aspects of yourself into becoming the best possible version you can be. THAT is what will bring happiness. You do not want something outside of your immediate control to be your purpose. People become unhappy when their expectations ≠ reality. So why would you ever focus on a variable outside of your direct control? You are destined to be unhappy. If you focus and improve yourself, you will eventually be happy. Pook changed this so that he whole point of this is so that you can find inner happiness within yourself. Why advocate something else that is detrimental to your growth as a person and as a man? It's the same thing with those idiotic fools advocating money to bring you happiness. Do you not see that the reason why many affluent people are not happy is because their whole lives revolved around money rather than themselves?

Stop taking a stance on something you know nothing about and speaking to us in a self-righteous manner. We are not going to relegate our lifestyles or our core values to your societally constructed ideology of how 'players' are. Strong men do what they want to do, they don't bend to the wills of others unless it follows the same direction as their desires. This is YOUR belief, not ours. Know your place, or get the **** out.

 

[Urbanyst]

Sounds like you are the crab.

I mostly tell guys to make MONEY and try to raise their value and status. Don't see how that is dragging anyone down.

 

[Von]

People talking always about girls means they have no other purpose in their life, they haven't found their ways... like those who videogames 100% of the time with no ''pro-Esport player'' ambitions.

It's when you have a purpose, you stop talking about girls and you start living.

Funny, it's when you don't talk about them, when you start living, when YOU have a PURPOSE, that you start attracting women.

Get a purpose, the rest will follow

Which is why only the truly strongest make it.

They keep their eyes on the prize and they will get it.

They keep pushing and going when 99% of people tell them no.

They keep fighting when everything stands in their way.

They keep digging when the answer isn't so easily found.

They will be the ones with a chance of having that life while most of you won't even have that chance.

Found this part of your thread, to be of value. You now have to apply it to your life, like we all do.

 

[AlphaNate]

Bro, you are all over the place. Sometimes I think you get it, then suddenly we're back to square one.

 

[resilient]

It's when you have a purpose, you stop talking about girls and you start living.

This.

 

[sambwoy]

'Moral lectures and guilt trips.

"Oh really? You want to sleep with hot girls? Is that all there is to life for you?"

That's the system for you. It does not care about your actual desires. From school onwards you are tortured into being a servant of the PC, and everyone else cannot relate to you because they've been made from pre-school to 16/17 to be one and the same. This is like when forum users call you a loser for seeking an HB9 when your jobless, as if work is some god, some way of taking your mind off rejection. It just serves as more psychological ****blocking. I'm more interested in surviving than 'succeeding' in life.

Life is bigger than girls though.

 

[Alvafe]

still I wonder why you care?

 

[Red Legg]

I have friends and family that are intensely jealous of my lifestyle,I get sh!t from them all the time.I retired young,I do what I want,my number one priority is to have fun,I travel the globe,although I love the "game" and always have my number one priority will never be a woman.

 

[Trump]

Well here is the blunt truth, almost all people in society and even most people on here do not want you to have that life, they want you to be "fulfilled" but they don't want you to objectively have that life. There are many ways this prevention happens, you've seen it happen countless times

There is some truth to this statement. It's human nature to get jealous or insecure when you hear someone invested wisely and is richer, better educated, has more social life, knows pretty girls, married to a hot wife.

But if you let it affect you and your plan, then you are an idiot. All motivation and inspiration should come from within. To do something because you see someone else have it is ridiculous, you'll never come to terms with yourself.

 

[Roober]

I have friends and family that are intensely jealous of my lifestyle,I get sh!t from them all the time.I retired young,I do what I want,my number one priority is to have fun,I travel the globe,although I love the "game" and always have my number one priority will never be a woman.

And this is what it is all about. I think most guys begin by chasing women because they land here from heart break. That essentially puts women on a pedestal, where you are constantly pursuing, that becomes your purpose. Then, most eventually realize that is fun and all, but not really fullfilling. It is about you and doing what you want, placing women much lower on your priorities, but also teaching guys here that being the best man makes it much easier to attract the best women.

To summarize the book of pook (which is at the end)
-You are the prize - because you are the best man she will ever get (confident, successfull, in shape, etc etc)
-Embrace sexuality - don't be a pvssy. IF you want want, she is lucky to have you
-Have fun! - many people, especially men lose sight of this...

When I am done here, I want to have the confidence to successfully approach any woman, bed them, and date them on "my" terms. I also want to be the best man and father for my two boys... and this is a great community for that...

This thread is just another great example of someone not fully grasping the underlying themes of the site...

 

[BeExcellent]

Pook was about internal validation rather than external validation in a nutshell.

"If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything" - attributed variously to Ginger Rogers, Malcolm X, Peter Marshall & Alex Hamilton of the BBC.

 

[SmooveMooves]

If you wear fedoras you're a clown.

 

[Red Legg]

If you wear fedoras you're a clown.

Disagree...the 1940's style fedoras are cool..gangsta style.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Disagree...the 1940's style fedoras are cool..gangsta style.

There's nothing cool about looking like your from the 1940's. If you wear fedoras I gurantee there are people who are quietly laughing.

 

[MrAddiction]

No DJ should worry about wether or not others are laughing quietly.

 

[MatureDJ]

If I have to "run game" day & night just to get casual sex, then there is an opportunity cost in that I could have used that time to do something else. At some point, simply paying for it makes sense so as to avoid that opportunity cost.