No Contact, what next?

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So there was this HB9 that I felt like I was slipping into the friend zone with and I don't really need any more female friends, especially ones that are hard to work out like her (flaking etc), so I went no contact about 2-3 weeks ago so I could move on.

During that time I've been gaming other girls, got a few numbers and have a couple of dates lined up for next week with 2 HB9's. However, a couple of days ago the girl I went no contact with texted me. Someone we both know had gotten into an argument over Facebook with his ex girlfriend and she texted me saying, "Omg X is arguing with Y again on facebook!!! I can't stop laughing, it's so funny!!!" I didn't reply to the text because to be honest I wasn't really bothered.

So the next day we ran into each other and she asked me if I got her text last night. I said yes and she started talking about the argument, after about a minute I said I'm really busy and I've got to go, see you around.

After that, she's just been completely ignoring me. She doesn't make eye contact with me any more, except for on one occasion today when this other guy came over and they were talking/flirting and she looked over once to see if I was looking. The guy looked over at me a couple of time so I get the idea she may have said something about me. If she sees me walking she'll just pretend she never saw me, doesn't smile at me any more etc.

Do you think I should end no contact and send her a quick text/make a quick phone call etc? I wouldn't mind F-Closing this HB.
 

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You do nothing. You gave her your very own shıt test and she failed. She wants a little gossiping girly-friend to talk shıt with. She's trying to friend-zone you and you didn't allow it, you did exactly what everyone should do. Hath she any interest, she'd be blowing up your phone so you two would hang out, not talk shıt about Facebook fights. Come on, man. Her now ignoring you is clear she isn't interested.

It is unfortunate that it is this way, but this is how you should be if you want to keep your dignity and actual be this DJ we all talk about here.

You should be proud of your actions and her reaction! Trust me, she knows you aren't gonna be her little gossiping bıtch. Any other course of action would of put you into the Friend Zone immediately.
 

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No Contact isn't a game. No Contact is a way to rid yourself of a bad, toxic or pointless relationship that isn't going in the direction you want and never will. No contact is a way to leave with dignity. Its not a game.

If you are slipping into the friend zone with this HB9 its most likely because you never made a move. I always get very bold right before I drop a girl for good.

Have you actually made real concrete attempts to f*ck her? Have you flirted? Have you grabbed her ass?

Its best to use your hands more than your mouth. Too many men try to talk (or friend) there way into a woman's pants. Its not the most efficient approach.
 

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Not to mention the texting. You cant text your way into her pants either. Use it to set up meetups. Not to "talk". Texting sucks. Case closed. If you want to gauge her interest call her and speak to her. Then suggest you get together. Anything other than a "yes" drop her and don't call/text her again.
 

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PlayHer Man said:
No Contact isn't a game. No Contact is a way to rid yourself of a bad, toxic or pointless relationship that isn't going in the direction you want and never will. No contact is a way to leave with dignity. Its not a game.

If you are slipping into the friend zone with this HB9 its most likely because you never made a move. I always get very bold right before I drop a girl for good.

Have you actually made real concrete attempts to f*ck her? Have you flirted? Have you grabbed her ass?

Its best to use your hands more than your mouth. Too many men try to talk (or friend) there way into a woman's pants. Its not the most efficient approach.
I didn't use no contact as a game. She was causing me more stress than she was worth so I decided it would be best to just completely drop her and game all the other hot girls there are at my college. The only reason I'm asking about her is because she got back in contact with me and I wondered if I could turn this situation into an F-Close if I played it right.

Hmm, that could be the reason. I had the chance to kiss close but I made a bad beginners mistake. The other girl I was gaming was with her (we were in a big group of people) and I didn't know that they both moved in the same social circles. I liked the other girl too so I thought it was best to leave the kiss close so I didn't mess things up with her/both of them.

I've slapped her ass, arm around the waist and all of that stuff. I've never been able to isolate her so I can actually f*ck her though because as I said she's a flake. So no, we haven't been extremely intimate yet.
 

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SoulMan13 said:
So there was this HB9 that I felt like I was slipping into the friend zone with and I don't really need any more female friends...
I'm sorry I have to stop you right there, I just spit water all over my screen. What? Are you implying you already have one or more female friends?
 

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Yewki said:
I'm sorry I have to stop you right there, I just spit water all over my screen. What? Are you implying you already have one or more female friends?
Of course. There are females that I think are real cool and I can chill with but I am not attracted to in anyway. However, these are girls that I friend zoned and NOT the other way around. They would rather have me in their life as a friend than not at all. Also, they're DTF AND they're good for social proof. They are quite attractive girls so when I'm seen walking around/hitting the clubs with them it immediately attracts female attention. From then it's just easy pickings.
 

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SoulMan13 said:
she started talking about the argument, after about a minute I said I'm really busy and I've got to go, see you around.
Phase 1: good job


SoulMan13 said:
After that, she's just been completely ignoring me. She doesn't make eye contact with me any more, except for on one occasion today when this other guy came over and they were talking/flirting and she looked over once to see if I was looking. The guy looked over at me a couple of time so I get the idea she may have said something about me. If she sees me walking she'll just pretend she never saw me, doesn't smile at me any more etc.
Phase 2: she wants to see if you ignoring her is just a game or whether you have real balls.


SoulMan13 said:
Do you think I should end no contact and send her a quick text/make a quick phone call etc?
Absolutely not, don't revert to AFCdom, you're doing good for now. Let her come closer then go straight for the kill this time. Meanwhile, spin, spin, spin my friend...
 

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SoulMan13 said:
I didn't use no contact as a game. She was causing me more stress than she was worth so I decided it would be best to just completely drop her and game all the other hot girls there are at my college. The only reason I'm asking about her is because she got back in contact with me and I wondered if I could turn this situation into an F-Close if I played it right.

Hmm, that could be the reason. I had the chance to kiss close but I made a bad beginners mistake. The other girl I was gaming was with her (we were in a big group of people) and I didn't know that they both moved in the same social circles. I liked the other girl too so I thought it was best to leave the kiss close so I didn't mess things up with her/both of them.

I've slapped her ass, arm around the waist and all of that stuff. I've never been able to isolate her so I can actually f*ck her though because as I said she's a flake. So no, we haven't been extremely intimate yet.
NEXT her then.

If you can't isolate a woman its because she doesn't WANT to be isolated. Why would a woman who wants to jump on your c0ck be hesitant to be alone with you? --> Low interest / no attraction.

Remember --> High interest and leverage go hand in hand. If you have no leverage its because she isn't interested. If the relationship is not at least 60% or more on YOUR terms (preferably 80%) then you should next her.
 

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No contact only fires up women who are interested in you. If they have no interest, NC simply gives them the space to move on.
You've handled this perfectly so far. Don't cave now otherwise she'll be laughing all the way on to some other guy's rod and you'll look like a fool.
 

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PlayHer Man said:
No Contact isn't a game. No Contact is a way to rid yourself of a bad, toxic or pointless relationship that isn't going in the direction you want and never will. No contact is a way to leave with dignity. Its not a game.

+1 PHM, That's a powerful ass statement. Dudes are going NC to get a chick to conform as opposed to ridding to the silly b*tch from their lives. Dudes need to get a grasp what NC is for and understand and appreciate it's intended purpose.
 

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Greasy Pig said:
No contact only fires up women who are interested in you. If they have no interest, NC simply gives them the space to move on.
You've handled this perfectly so far. Don't cave now otherwise she'll be laughing all the way on to some other guy's rod and you'll look like a fool.
I cosign this powerful ass statement right here!

It's just like indifference. It only works on women who are interested in you. Then again, most of your game will too.
 

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Greasy Pig said:
No contact only fires up women who are interested in you. If they have no interest, NC simply gives them the space to move on.
You've handled this perfectly so far. Don't cave now otherwise she'll be laughing all the way on to some other guy's rod and you'll look like a fool.
So do you think she has no interest in me then? I definitely won't cave, I have no problem with not having this girl in my life it's just that because she got back into contact with me I thought if I took up a more sexual frame I might be able to f*** this one.

Maximus Rex said:
+1 PHM, That's a powerful ass statement. Dudes are going NC to get a chick to conform as opposed to ridding to the silly b*tch from their lives. Dudes need to get a grasp what NC is for and understand and appreciate it's intended purpose.
Like I said before I didn't do this to make her conform at all. I did it because I was getting bored of her games and there was other girls interested in me that don't play around so I decided to drop her. The only reason I asked this question is because she contacted me so I was wondering if there was enough interest for me to possibly get something out of this. If not, I really don't care. As I said I already have 2 dates lined up so I am good at the moment!:cool:
 

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Yewki said:
I'm sorry I have to stop you right there, I just spit water all over my screen. What? Are you implying you already have one or more female friends?
lol bud its okay to have female friends, just because SS says "no females as friends" doesnt mean you cant. i haVe a few female friends, who cares?
 
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