no contact success!

[captain55]

Well guys my ex dumped me about 5 weeks ago and last night she finally caved in.

For those who remember my threads my ex was sending me signals ... Ive handled the situation perfectly...instead of acting butthurt and ignoring her, Im living my life...dating...and keeping my replies short with her and being as polite as possible. NEVER initiating contact first...and always making sure she has the last text. Last night she finally caves in.

"one thing I ****ing hate about being single is not getting any" she says.

So I respond "single women still have needs. sometimes they need something with no strings attached...im always here if you need anything"

her "anything like what haha"

me "For a guy with a big **** to pound the **** out of you now and then. ...the idea of being friends with benefits is turning me on at the moment"

her "There goes your ego again haha. Even if that was to happen we both wouldn't be sleeping with other people because I wouldn't do it if you couldn't agree to that."



I didn't respond to that text, basically this stuck up entitled **** wants to be friends with benefits while i remain exclusive to her while she goes around and dates other guys I feel like if I agree to this offer she's going to reject me. For my don juan friends.... Should I go no contact AGAIN at this point and just wait for her to hit me up or should I agree to her offer?

the initial goal is to remain friends with benefits. She's still hot...but I feel like Im mature enough to walk away this time once the good starts outweighing the bad.

 

[jimmy18]

The title of this thread should be changed to either:

-"contact SUCCESS", or
-"no contact FAILURE"

Never ever say "im always here if you need anything" to a female other than your mother or sister, and certainly not to a girl who dumped you

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1762680&postcount=8

 

[LondonTowers]

Same position with an ex plate. Was in no contact for similar time to you, last week she started going crazy texting, calling asking to please talk to her, she misses me etc.

So I finally just text: I'll come over your place.

She text back: OMG, so happy to hear from you, I'm just moving my stuff in, should I call when it's ready?

I was like: K

That was it.. now when she contacts me probably in the next week or so.. I will be in the same position as you. I'm thinking keep it simple, go over see if you get a bang, if she rejects, just walk away and go no contact again.

Did she do any bad sh1t to you when together.. lies, manipulation, disrespect?

 

[captain55]

Same position with an ex plate. Was in no contact for similar time to you, last week she started going crazy texting, calling asking to please talk to her, she misses me etc.

So I finally just text: I'll come over your place.

She text back: OMG, so happy to hear from you, I'm just moving my stuff in, should I call when it's ready?

I was like: K

That was it.. now when she contacts me probably in the next week or so.. I will be in the same position as you. I'm thinking keep it simple, go over see if you get a bang, if she rejects, just walk away and go no contact again.

Did she do any bad sh1t to you when together.. lies, manipulation, disrespect?

yes lies and manipulation. But I also know her well enough to know when she wants something. I she wants to be friends with benefits, but getting her to go through with it will be the hard part. All her girlfriends hate me and I know she's gonna talk to them about it.

 

[djthiago1]

Don't do it, you're gonna develop feelings again. Just don't. Please.

 

[LondonTowers]

I can only see bad things then. If it was mutual break up where the girl showed respect and no manipulation/lies, then there is a window post break up where you can do the FWB thing. But in this case, she will start to fuk with you and it won't be worth it. She may also play with you to go through hoops to convince her to do the FWB thing and then pull away in the end and that will make you feel like a dog on a leash and she can walk away with a giant ego.

 

[VladPatton]

Way too much yakkity yak. How is this no contact? No contact is fo-evah.

 

[Trump]

"one thing I ****ing hate about being single is not getting any" she says.

Bro I wouldn't haven't even responded to this. She didn't say "I love you, I miss you, I want you." It's like she is talking to one of her girlfriends because the hockey player guy she wanted to have sex with that night told her to go to hell.

So I respond "single women still have needs. sometimes they need something with no strings attached...im always here if you need anything"

her "anything like what haha"

me "For a guy with a big **** to pound the **** out of you now and then. ...the idea of being friends with benefits is turning me on at the moment"

her "There goes your ego again haha. Even if that was to happen we both wouldn't be sleeping with other people because I wouldn't do it if you couldn't agree to that."

Bro I don't know, it seems like she is making fun of you. She got you to bite after telling you to go to hell and then wants to see if you are getting any. Good you didn't respond to last text.

 

[LMFAO]

She's missing the sex, but she's not missing you.

Some girls can really be addicted to the sex with the guy to the point they may even stay with him for a while even though they are not sure about him as a person (his game that is).

Bottomline: she wants to date/get fvcked by other guys.

Instead of sounding completely aloof you're being all needy with her. You need to let things flow more naturally.

Can you get her back at this stage or in the future: possible but not so likely. It depends why she broke up in the first place.

 

[pyros]

yes, she suggested to have sex with you, that is obvious.

I would not bang her, and I would not keep any contact AFTER SHE DUMPED ME, but hey, if you wanna fu-ck her and you're not emotionally attached, just keep doing what you're doing and you two will fu-ck again, trust me.

Anyway, since Ive been there before, I can assure you that while you hang out and have sex etc, eventhough she told you that she would like to be exclusive...dont buy that. She will be open to meet new di-cks, and eventually she will have sex with other men at the same time she has sex with you, so keep that in mind and do the same thing.

She will even ask you if you're seing other girls etc, and she will look jelaous and upset, but trust me again, she'll be doing the same, but if you ask her she will deny it not to look like a wh-ore.

This will go on until she finds a proper di-ck to have a relationship with or you two get too angry at each other for 'cheating'.

Sex with an ex is good if you're not emotionally invested but it will end up badly eventually.

been there.

 

[El Payaso]

The real question is why are you still talking to a woman that dumped you and telling her you will always be there for her? It doesn't matter the capacity.

 

[djthiago1]

The real question is why are you still talking to a woman that dumped you and telling her you will always be there for her? It doesn't matter the capacity.

This.

 

[captain55]

She's missing the sex, but she's not missing you.

Some girls can really be addicted to the sex with the guy to the point they may even stay with him for a while even though they are not sure about him as a person (his game that is).

Bottomline: she wants to date/get fvcked by other guys.

Instead of sounding completely aloof you're being all needy with her. You need to let things flow more naturally.

Can you get her back at this stage or in the future: possible but not so likely. It depends why she broke up in the first place.

Honestly brother I know it sounds like that but I've been as aloof as I could possibly be. I haven't texted her first ONE time since the breakup, she's always made first contact and I always keep my responses as short as possible. I also didn't take the first hint with her. She gave me three or four hints and I just blew her off. How many hints was she going to give me before she figures "damn this guy doesn't want me anymore"

I felt like if I wanted to have a shot at ****ing her again I needed to flirt back with that last text. Im going to go ghost, if she hits me up then she does.

 

[captain55]

yes, she suggested to have sex with you, that is obvious.

I would not bang her, and I would not keep any contact AFTER SHE DUMPED ME, but hey, if you wanna fu-ck her and you're not emotionally attached, just keep doing what you're doing and you two will fu-ck again, trust me.

Anyway, since Ive been there before, I can assure you that while you hang out and have sex etc, eventhough she told you that she would like to be exclusive...dont buy that. She will be open to meet new di-cks, and eventually she will have sex with other men at the same time she has sex with you, so keep that in mind and do the same thing.

She will even ask you if you're seing other girls etc, and she will look jelaous and upset, but trust me again, she'll be doing the same, but if you ask her she will deny it not to look like a wh-ore.

This will go on until she finds a proper di-ck to have a relationship with or you two get too angry at each other for 'cheating'.

Sex with an ex is good if you're not emotionally invested but it will end up badly eventually.

been there.

Well even though she did dump me, I deserved it. I treated her like **** throughout the relationship and by the time I realized it was too late she was gone. I cursed her out and kicked her out of my car, she left me technically....but the relationship ended with a huge fight. it was never "look we need to talk".

and The other day she still sounded quite bitter about the breakup. she used words like
"you let me get away"
"you chose those things over me, thats the most hurtful thing a guy has ever done to me"

 

[captain55]

Bro I wouldn't haven't even responded to this. She didn't say "I love you, I miss you, I want you." It's like she is talking to one of her girlfriends because the hockey player guy she wanted to have sex with that night told her to go to hell.



Bro I don't know, it seems like she is making fun of you. She got you to bite after telling you to go to hell and then wants to see if you are getting any. Good you didn't respond to last text.

Well she was contemplating being **** buddies. I've only been dating about 2-3 weeks since the breakup, she told me she's not dating at all. I haven't slept with anyone so I was straight up with her. I could of lied and told her "yeah Ive slept with someone" to get back at her, make her feel like she's replaceable, but she definitely would not want to remain friends with benefits if she thought I had slept with someone new already.

 

[captain55]

The real question is why are you still talking to a woman that dumped you and telling her you will always be there for her? It doesn't matter the capacity.

I should of been more specific. I said "let me know if you need anything" with a sarcastic face, and it was only after she implied on having sex with me.

 

[Fugitive]

Hate it when guys are like "yeah she dumped me but I deserved it"...

No you didn't. She's a b*tch.

She wants you to be hanging on to her every demand so she's trying to control you by making you commit just to her. Tell her you're not interested in being exclusive. And then go silent.

 

[sylvester the cat]

her There goes your ego again haha.



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http://33.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lzaz6claIq1qhh6sgo1_500.gif

uugh. and out of all the billions of divas in this world you want to get back with this one, why exactly?