No chick ever flakes on me. ever.

[dj_china]

but they also rarely ever contact me proactively...

anybody else face similar issues?

 

[tafakna]

Yep. It's happenning to me right now.

I found recently that shaking her confidence helped that. If the same thing is happening to you it's probably because you're not pressuring her (I call her once a week, never more than that), but she feels you're pursuing her (by the way you act).

So make her less confident. Break a date, or be silent in the last few minutes of a date. It worked for me...

 

[SchoolBoy]

Yes I'm currently seeing a girl who never proactively contacts me at all.

Whenever I ask her to go out, she's always down to see me.

My guess is some women don't wanna look clingy or needy.

 

[thecurtainfalls]

Yea unfortunately it can be tough to remember that just as we are using our DJ tactics, girls have their own methodology and moves to try and throw us off. I always judge by actions, not by words.

If she's meeting you when you want her to, she's passing multiple congruency tests. Sometimes they just want the guy to take the lead big time.

 

[Nexus Polaris]

I don't really see why it's that big of a deal, to be honest. As long as she's showing up and not blowing me off, who cares if she never proactively contacts me? She's still available when I want her to be.