no chemistry - how to create?

[MacAvoy]

I've noticed this on several different occassions that there seems to be a lack of chemistry on some dates. Now usually when this happens, I don't get follow up dates. Now when I say lack of chemistry, that translates into I failed to get a rapport and start some Kino on the first date.

Now I'm attracted to this women and she's actually chasin me abit. I cancelled our first date because I had a better option come up, I made up a bogus excuse about a buddy's apartment getting flooded as we had abnormally hard rain the night before.

I got busy with work, she called me back first, we went out to play pool. It went decent, had lots of convo but couldn't get kino goin but I could tell she was definately interested. I got busy and didn't call her for a few days, she rang again.

Now I've got a second date set up but I'm worried about not gettin any chemistry goin between us. What can I do, I know she's interested?

ps we are goin to dinner then to a clay pottery painting place

 

[kingwilliam]

If she's calling you, the the interest level is already there......go have a couple of drinks to ease the edge, and go for it.....be yourself....... there is a reason she is calling you

 

[joekerr31]

sometimes women get nervous on dates.

women seem so often to be portrayed on here as these sexy vixens who are in total control - like some james bond chic or something.

in real life a lot of women get nervous, anxious, clumsy etc on their first date.

 

[armadon]

sometimes women get nervous on dates.

women seem so often to be portrayed on here as these sexy vixens who are in total control - like some james bond chic or something.

in real life a lot of women get nervous, anxious, clumsy etc on their first date.

I think you would have to say the majority of women just like the majority of men do those things on a first date. Shoot I still get nervous on first dates but I'm able to control it and come out ahead but that took practice.

I always give a women 3 dates unless she's a total *****.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Mac,


You ALREADY know the drill. Just LEAD her. Reach out and touch her, take her hand, move and steer her into the physical closeness that YOU are looking for. Chances are, with her interest level SEEMINGLY as high as it is, she will follow you gladly, she's probably just waiting for you to give her the slightest excuse.

Joekerr is right (as is his custom...lol.)

I too, have found that some women can be quite nervous on dates----hell, "skittish" even. Many are so empathic that they will take on WHATEVER emotion or feeling that YOU are giving off.

So if you want HER to be comfortable----YOU be comfortable. And don't act like any physical overture that you make is any kind of a big deal. Just do what you do and make it seem like the easiest, most natural thing in the world to do.

You are in a unique position around here these days:

You have a woman who is in effect, pursuing YOU. She's YOURS to lose. But rather than let that stress you out, recognize that this puts YOU in the most comfortable position. You already have MONEY in the bank as far as this woman's "interest" investment is concerned. So be a little more daring around her...and since she seems to like YOU, you can even get away with "just being yourself" to a certain extent.

Just be the fun, MAGNETIC guy that she found herself interested in in the first place. And don't worry so much about impressing her, instead reframe your interactions with her to such an extent where you see her as impressing you. And then you reward her accordingly with your CONTINUED presence.

THIS woman obviously feels "something" towards you already. So I'm thinking that maybe if you just ACT like she's feeling chemistry towards YOU, you will begin to feel more chemistry towards her. Because it's quite possible that this "lack of connection" that you may be detecting is coming from your lack of ENGAGEMENT during your interactions with her.

So stop OVERTHINKING a chick whose obviously "into you" enough to keep pursuing YOU. Because if she wasn't interested at all, I'm sure there are a dozen lesser men that she could be saying "yes" to that are actually pursuing HER.

And during the pottery class, it might not be a bad idea to REENACT every woman's favorite scene from that old romantic movie "GHOST".:rockon:

So relax dude, too much pressure makes the pipes burst...:nono:


Peace...one day.

 

[MacAvoy]

And during the pottery class, it might not be a bad idea to REENACT every woman's favorite scene from that old romantic movie "GHOST".:rockon:

What is the famous scene in Ghost again? Its been a long time since I watched it.

ps thanks for the pep talk guys, I'll be sure to be a little more daring and make her validate herself.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

The scene in GHOST that I'm talking about is when Demi Moore is molding clay pottery on the wheel, and Patrick Swayze is sitting behind her with his shirt off-------he has his arms around her waste and is "helping" her mold the clay-----with his hands OVER her hands...

I remember that a lot of women LOVED that particular scene back in the day.

But I suggest you "play-act" that scene at your place and NOT during the clay pottery class. Otherwise, they may have to change the name of your class to "MUD WRESTLING" or something...lol.

 

[DjVelvet]

Brother MacAvoy,

First thing, congrats for getting those dates ongoing. First step to rid off the Oneitis.

Secondly, do review the bible for some more kino tips.

Thirdly, Relax~ You seems tense =)

I am now seeing a high quality girl (Rare in my country too) (Really helps me to deal with my ex.. and I see how quality women are so different from BPD chicks).
Having my 2nd date (But know her for some time to understand her character), kino'ing via cameras.

So I hope you monitor her well. Let's not make the mistakes we made in our past history.

Good LUCK!