Nice Jerks?

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Here we have debated the theory that women are attracted to bad boys over nice guys for some time. Some are. Ive met girls that fall for nice guys before bad boys also. An observation that i have made in the field watching othe DJs and women interact, is that 90% of women like a 60-40 or 70-30 ratio. The bad boy is the dominant attracter in girls 18-24, but without a good mixed ratio.. (a little bit of dreaded nice guy in there)..you will always end up in one catagory or another, eventually being LJBF'd or called an inconsiderate *******. Im struggling with this right now. Do any DJs here know how to make the good mix of the two? I cant seem to figure it out. Thanx for reading
 

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****y funny is what you need bro

As for ****y/funny, this is a little hard to explain, or to provide a technique outline. First lets define what C/F is not.

****y does not mean arrogance, having an attitude, or trying to be a prick. The real ****y comes from confidence in yourself and your abilities. You dont need to prove it to anyone. It has been established by your experience and is easily perceived by women. It cannot be faked, therefore there is no way to script it.

Funny is not telling stupid jokes or acting like an annoying clown. The real funny is being aware of what is happening at all times, then finding a funny, different way of looking at it. Read Stand-up comedy the book by Judy Carter. This will set you straight on what's funny and what's not.

C/F is a personality trait. I use it on my friends, family, women, and the audience when I do stand-up comedy. It's a way to keep things lighthearted, but also establishing that you are in control. If you have ever seen a good comedian being heckled by the audience, you will see a great example of C/F.

If the comedian is too ****y, he will stop getting laughs and be seen as an ashole. If he gets angry and reactive, same problem - like when Kramer from Sienfeld called that guy an N. He lost control at that point and was neither ****y or funny.

The only way to handle the situation is to remain cool, unaffected, witty, and fast to throw it back in the audiences face, without insulting. Exactly the same with a woman.

Also, for me C/F is a spontaneous happening that arises out of a situation. I don't have scripted C/F routines I can rely on like David D. If you saw that video where he and his friends are trying to teach scripted C/F, it's pretty sad really. BTW, Davd D doesnt strike me as being a funny person, and the book was definitely not funny, or interesting for that matter.

Rather, I get a sense of the person, the environment we are in, etc., and then I weave the appropriate comments into the scenario, so that it is natural and flowing.

Basically, it is better to be funny than ****y, if you had to choose. So if you got the ****y part down already, you could put that on hold for awhile and work on the funny part. This is easy when you're enjoying life and having fun interacting with women. It is very non-serious.

In fact, Confident/Non-serious may be a better combination than C/F. In general, you want to be a higher percentage funny, than ****y, say 60% funny 40% ****y. I like to keep it around 80/20.

Here's one example I can think of. I don't know if I gave you my book or not. But basically I'll start talking about the book and my philosophy, which is funny. Then I'll say something like, "Guess what step I have you on." Or if it's two or more girls, I'll tell them "Your on step 2, but I have you on step 4 already." That's the ****y part. But notice that the ****y part is also funny. They are interconnected.

So, dont try to be funny one minute, then ****y another. You should be ****y and funny all at once.
 
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