There are three very attractive and sweet girls (HB8, HB8 & HB9) who have shown very strong interest in me for a while. HB9 is definitely model material, very classy, perfect figure and eyes like Alicia Silverstone’s. But they’re all female AFCs: they offer to do anything for me, go out of their way to see me, always agree with me and they even offer to loan me money (HB9 offered to loan me £1000 a few weeks ago!)
On the other hand, there’s another girl (hb6) I dated who is a total b*tch, overconfident, attention-seeking, a user, annoying and gives very mixed signals. In fact, I really dislike her as a person and would take pleasure from putting her in her place, but for some reason I find her b*tchiness very attractive and enchanting. My friends and even her friends have told me I’m way out of her league and so many people comment on how beautiful the AFC girls are, how keen they are on me and tell me I’m crazy for not pursuing anything with them. And yet, I feel nothing for them and I guess they’re stuck in my friend zone.
It has made me see the nice guy vs. jerk situation from my own perspective and after thinking about it, I don’t think male and female attraction is all that dissimilar. I’m sure I’m not the only guy to fall for a b*tch.
The best way I can explain it is that I think of the AFC girls as too available, too supplicating, too dull and predictable, I worry about offending them and at times it’s like I have to give them permission to do anything. Dating them would feel like carrying around an accessory. The b*tch, however, has her own mind, does what she likes, I never know where I stand with her and she really stirs me up. One minute I think she’s about to pounce on me, the next minute she’ll walk off in mid conversation and leave me standing. I’m excited by her unpredictability and the conflict of negative and positive emotions she makes me feel. I can’t stand her, and yet I really want her!
Isn’t this exactly what women see in jerks? It’s not that they love to be mistreated, but they get a kick from the excitement, the mixed feelings and unpredictability. Stability is just boring and can be taken for granted. Am I the only guy who thinks this way?
But before you get on my case, in spite of this attraction I have nexted this girl. I won’t allow myself to be used or messed around by anyone.
On the other hand, there’s another girl (hb6) I dated who is a total b*tch, overconfident, attention-seeking, a user, annoying and gives very mixed signals. In fact, I really dislike her as a person and would take pleasure from putting her in her place, but for some reason I find her b*tchiness very attractive and enchanting. My friends and even her friends have told me I’m way out of her league and so many people comment on how beautiful the AFC girls are, how keen they are on me and tell me I’m crazy for not pursuing anything with them. And yet, I feel nothing for them and I guess they’re stuck in my friend zone.
It has made me see the nice guy vs. jerk situation from my own perspective and after thinking about it, I don’t think male and female attraction is all that dissimilar. I’m sure I’m not the only guy to fall for a b*tch.
The best way I can explain it is that I think of the AFC girls as too available, too supplicating, too dull and predictable, I worry about offending them and at times it’s like I have to give them permission to do anything. Dating them would feel like carrying around an accessory. The b*tch, however, has her own mind, does what she likes, I never know where I stand with her and she really stirs me up. One minute I think she’s about to pounce on me, the next minute she’ll walk off in mid conversation and leave me standing. I’m excited by her unpredictability and the conflict of negative and positive emotions she makes me feel. I can’t stand her, and yet I really want her!
Isn’t this exactly what women see in jerks? It’s not that they love to be mistreated, but they get a kick from the excitement, the mixed feelings and unpredictability. Stability is just boring and can be taken for granted. Am I the only guy who thinks this way?
But before you get on my case, in spite of this attraction I have nexted this girl. I won’t allow myself to be used or messed around by anyone.
