NHY's Journey: A Multi - Part Adventure - Advice & Comments Welcome

[NHY]

Hey guys, I'm not exactly sure which fourm to post this in, so I'll post it here, if needs to be moved, I won't mind.
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Hello, my name is Adrian, or NHY as I'm known in various internet circles ( not just here. ) this has more than likely being done before but to hell with it, I'm going to post it anyways!

Come and join me as I journey through this world, The Datrix or ' The System ' as I perfer to call it. Once upon a time i was a hopeless AFC loser. Now, I know the truth, enough of the truth to turn things around in my favour!

Every week, I will post at least one new ' episode ' in my journey. I'm not here to get laid 7 days a week or go with 25 girls at once! I'm here for a relationship but nevertheless, getting laid would be a bonus, though but not what I'm truly after.

Firstly, I will introduce myself and give you my vital stats

Name: Adrian

Age: 19

Occupation: Graphic Design Student
( no part time job at present )

Location: Ireland

Weight: 12 Stone

Build: Average

Height: About 5ft 9'

Martial Status: Single but not really caring about it at present.

Goals in life: To get a college / masters degree, have a good job, see the world, do things that scare me, get married and settle down and have a family

Favorite Music: Likes mosts types, from Jazz to Techno but generally buys Techno, Dance, Trance & Hardcore.


I'm going to spare you my journey from AFC to DJ in intermediate training as it would take too long and jump straight to a recent incident as the basis for the start of my Journey - New Years Eve 2005.

 

[NHY]

PART ONE - THE BEGINING
New Years Eve
31 / 12 / 2005

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Having seen a major paradigm shift that finally let me see that I really actually don't NEED to get drunk in order to go out and enjoy myself in augest. I began to do it regularily. I now have my own ' favorite spot ' in town. This has slowly but surely adjusted me to the youth socail culture ( minus the drinking! ) that has set me up with a basic group of guys to hang around with. All of whom have more experince than me in the dating scene.

Fast foward to New Years Eve 2005. I was out to my spot early due the fact it would be packed and impossible to get in later if I waited! Here, I began to put a simple technique into practise to help overcome my now dimishing shyness around girls. Taking deep long breaths. Simple, but so powerful! It worked a treat.

I noticed that a few of the guys were talking to various girls. I was able to get into their little groups by being ****y and sacarcastic towards the guys. This worked a few times and I have made a few new female aquintances ( and got a few kisses on the cheek after midnight! ) but by far the most significant one came literally minutes before midnight. 2005 was a year full of surprises for me but even in its dying breath, it presented me with one last final surprise.

All evening, I had seen a guy I know, by the name of Cooney ( Yes, I'm using real names and I don't care! ) , talking to a group of 3 fine girls ( Lets just say HB7+ ) in an increasing state of drunkiness, I must add! So, I decide to go and give cooney a bit of slagging and a mocking. I can't remember exactely how it happened 100% but it went around something like this:

Me: Hey Cooney! You have 3 girls there! Isn't that a little selfish?
Girls: *laughter*
Cooney: So.... what? ( In a drunken voice )
Me: Theres are other guys here, no wonder theres so many of us are single! Spoilt brats like you ruin it for us guys!
Me ( To the girls ) : Sorry about my friend here, he can a little.... self - centered at times!
Girl closest to me ( HB7 ) : How do YOU know Cooney?

This started a 10 minute conversation between me and this girl, whose name was Jennifer, we talked about how i was on a trip with Cooney, where we lived, where did we go to school and what we are doing in college right now ( I also mentioned about I wanted to do as a major project - something about the Matrix, yes, might have being a bit AFGCish but it fitted with the flow of the conversation. )

I left her alone for a while and i went out to the dance floor to ring in the new year until about 12:20am. Later, after taking a few deep breaths, I approached Jennifer again;

Me: Sorry Jen, but do you want my number?
She then explained to me how she had only gotten a new phone for christmas and hadn't her new number memerised yet ( believeable as I hadn't seen her use a mobile all night ) Before I left, I went up to her to say goodbye and that was that.

If I did anything majorily AFCish, it was probably in the way I said goodbye to her, going up to her as she went into the girls room and tapping her on the shoulder. HOWEVER, I feel as something just literally ' clicked ' between us in that short space of time and now I REALLY want to see her again and arrange for us to meet up somewhere AS FREINDS and tense her for its all worth, play hard to get to really test her! To see if she really does like me or not!

If I see her again this weekend, I WILL arrange for us to meet up somewhere sometime next week. For now, advice and comments are appricated and I will be comsulting the DJ bible again. If this doesn't work out, SO? Then I've just gotten possibly a great protential learning experince here! And if it actually DOES work out, well, after I get over the shock, I just scored myself a GF!

This is NHY, over and out.

 

[NHY]

Part 2 - Paying The Price
15 / 1 / 2006

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One thing I have learned over the years is that in order to get good at something, you MUST pay the price! There are no free lunches in life. You have to pay the price to get good at everything, whatever's that Guitar, Art or getting laid 24 / 7. ( Though I'm only in this game more for LTR's and to better myself as oppossed to getting laid like theres no torromow! )

Admittedly, while my inner game is like..... excellent. My outter game needs a LOT of work! Unfortately, I have to pay the price to get good at this, like all other things, even if that means making a downright FOOL of myself in the process!

I don't really want to talk much about this one but lets just say, last night ( A Saturday ) , I basiclly came on too hard to a group of girls and acted all AFCish around them and ended getting literally pushed away! Its a small town I live in, so I'm a little worried that word might get out and then people will foolishly believe I'm someone I'm not. Ah well, its an uneven playing feild out there and the fact I have no one to wing up to ( I live in Ireland and according to the list on the wingman fourm, I'm the only one who does ) so its going to be a solo mission for me.

Sometimes the only way to learn is to go out and literally make a fool of myself. I know now that I definately;

1: WON'T approach a group of women like the way I did last night again!

2: I won't be going back to that bar again for a long time ( Its a dump anyway )

The only reason I did what was because of desperation, that sick, evil word. As the great Pook would say, I really do need to Kill that desperation!

The Journey Continues.....

 

[silverwex]

I live in Ireland and according to the list on the wingman fourm, I'm the only one who does

Ahem...!!! What about me? Ive been here for nearly three years man!

Where abouts in ireland are you?

South East for me!

 

[NHY]

lol

It's the South East for me as well!

Like I said, I was going only according to what the list on the wingman fourm said... so its not complete, huh!

 

[silverwex]

lol, coincidence or what!

Ive been on these boards for nearly three years now - its all good man.

Im guessing waterford for you yeah?

 

[NHY]

Nah, its in Cork.

If you've being watching the news about a certain murder trial before christmas, thats where I'm from.

Also, I first came here in late 2003, left in mid 2004 and only came back again recently, I'm taking what this site saids more seriously now than last time as well.

 

[silverwex]

Oh right, the place ya live in starts with an M right? And ends with a N?

Cool.

What are your thoughts in regard to using C+F/negs/push-pull etc with Irish women?

I hear cork is full of HBS!

I myself am in Wexford, the talent is ok but a fair amount of times girls dont fall for the majority of techniques unless theyre executed perfectly!

 

[NHY]

Yeah, it is.

As for Techniques, well to be quite honest, I haven't really tried any of them...... yet. I'm still kinda working on my inner game as of now. I say I could pull them off but this town is small and word spreads like wildfire here and I want to keep my DJ Techniques to MYSELF! That and I'm kinda afriad of my family, who have very closed minds towards pretty much everything I have a passion for!

You could say Cork is full of HBs, I've seen quite a few of them myself. The problem is now, sorting the good ones from the trash as I bet a lot of them abuse the fact they are a HB to manlipulate us guys! Theres a headwrecker or 2 in my class in college as well!

And I like I said before, my main goal as a DJ is not to get laid 24 / 7, I'm more in it for a relationship / LTR and to learn as well.