NEXT - is this a solution ?

[IShotTheSheriff]

Since I started with PU - I nexted lots of girls.

Before I started I chased girls for months without any result while getting more and more frustrated. So just letting her go and turning my atention to another woman seemed like a great Idea and felt like some kind of freedom to me.

But when I nexted a girl a few months ago ( often flaked, then again often tried to change dates or she said "but i only have like 2 hours or so", ultimately asked me to wait for her about 1 month since she applied for the navy and did not want to start any relationship before she knew if she would go there or not) a friend told me I did the right thing. When she flaked I waited for her to ask me for the next date, when she tried to change the day or the event to something I dont like, I told her I am going to do the original idea anyway - i just ask some friends to sum it up for every time she showed a lack of respect she had to take the consequences and ultimately I decided not to wait a month for her.

But then he said " The girl now knows if she threats a man wrong, she looses him, which obviously never happend to her before. So she now knows she has to threat the next guy in her live better". I said " Yes you are right I....HEY WAIT, the next guy ?!?!" This is where it struck me. When he is right I invested a lot of time, showed her that she cant just take a guy for granted and that she has to respect, showed her that there are limits and where they are. But the one who gets a reward from it is the next guy in her life.

So now I am in a dilemma. On the one hand side when a girl keeps being disrespectfull no matter what you do you ultimately have to next her to spare yourself a lot of frustration and time. But on the other hand the big problem about this is - you dont get the girl and all your effort and investment (and lets be honest - to tell her "no I dont want to go shopping shoes for you for 2 hours. I´d rather stick to the original plan and have a picknick in the park the whole afternoon. I just ask some friends instead" is an effort because the inner- afc always tells you to go for the girl) is for nothing or for the next guy in her live.

So what is the sollution to this? Some say dont invest in any woman until she shwos some invest first - but lets be honest, most girls will never invest before you do. Any thaughts on that ?

Cheers
Sheriff

 

[Konada]

Just some food for thought: Ever thought that a girl you met that didn't disrespect you was put in her place by a previous guy who nexted her?

 

[DonGorgon]

nexting till next week is better than permanent next cause most men dont have enough options to be nexting constantly..lol

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

nexting till next week is better than permanent next cause most men dont have enough options to be nexting constantly..lol

I rly doubt that a woman will chance within one week. This time is more like a freezeout and a freezeout should continue until the girls brings some serious investment. Which some girls just never do becaus they think of you as an orbiter until you realy make a cut with her.

Just some food for thought: Ever thought that a girl you met that didn't disrespect you was put in her place by a previous guy who nexted her?

Good taught - I had this one before. I thaught how we could chance the world of dating if we could get every man in the country to not approach any woman for about one month or at least to not run after any woman fort this time. The DJ Version of the rebellion in the erman Democratic Republic "We are the man".
But I guess there are way less guys doing something for the community of men by "training" a woman this way than there are guys training them to be narcissists. So I am afraid I cant rely on a "If I next this girl well "trained" someone else will do as well and I will get a respectfull girl next time mentality.

 

[thevilittletroll]

when you learn how to properly attract a woman using cold approach techniques, the women chase you, they never flake. you make the choice wether or not you are going to flake on them. she needs to know that you have many options and that if she flakes on her opportunity she may not get another chance. it takes some time to reverse this type of thinking but once you do, your success will really skyrocket.

 

[Kal_Luke]

This month has been quite a good month for. Best I've had in years in fact. Obviously it is fine to invest first to promote interest but if your investments don't yield atleast x 1.1 investment from your prey then you should just hit and run. That's fine too. The girl in my power post who dumped me recently is the only one who didn't sleep with me when I met her but yeilded the most rewards for investment