newbie saying hi and a question (long)

[Mr. Delicious]

Hello, I have been reading the articles on this site for about 6 months. I have learned so much already and realized many of the mistakes I have made in past relationships. It is an excellent site. Now on to the question

Ok 2 years ago when I was a freshman in college I was at this girl's dorm who is my friend. Well her roomate and this other girl showed up lets call her girl A. We talked briefly and girl A was pretty attractive (8-8.5). Later on I told my friend that I thought girl A was hot. So she tells girl A this and the girl wants to go out do something with me and seemed very interested. Well unfortunately that was the last week of school so I really didnt want to get involved in a relationship because I would be moving back home in the summer. I figured when I got back in the fall I would ask her out. So i go through the summer and end up dating a different girl which obviously postponed me asking out girl A. Well i broke up with my girlfriend but i had somewhat lost contact with my friend that knew girl A so i didnt try. Well a year and a half goes by and i randomly run into girl A with a girl that I am somewhat friends with at a basketball game. I talked to them briefly and girl A was very enthusiastic. Well, I didnt ask her out that night because I only talked to her for like a minute. I became sick for a long while soon after that so I didnt feel like a relationship and put off trying to hook up with her again. Well now its the summer again and I plan when I go back to school to talk to the girl i know that knows Girl A. I was thinking of asking her if girl A has a boyfriend and if she thinks she would be interested in me. Then I was going to get girl A's phone number and call her up and ask her out. Basically I am very confident I can get a date with her if she doesnt have a boyfriend. The problem is I dont know her well and I want an idea of what I should say on the phone before asking her out. Like i know the typical hey how are you doing. Do you think I should talk to her some more before asking her out. What type of things should I talk about on the phone. Its going to be pretty awkward on the phone at first so any ideas and suggestions are welcomed. Even if you think I should ask her out a different way, let me hear your thoughts.

ps sorry for the long post.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Here is the best advice that I think I can give at this point...

Anytime that you are ever with a women and something happens, and you get this sudden feeling of tension in the pit of your stomach... Has that ever happened to you? I will wager that yes it has happened, even if you didn't recognize the feeling.

Anyway, that feeling is designed to step up the 'relationship' a notch. For example : You're on a date with a woman, and there is a pause in the conversation.... just go in and kiss her.

Or better yet, you haven't even met the woman... sitting on a bench or something, you see her walk by and you get that feeling of 'wow'... that feeling is your body saying 'GAME ON!!!' and carry out the gameplan (go talk to her)

Just remember this "fear is best conquered by doing something to attack it, and conquers best by doing something to defend against it." - So Pimp its scary

That post wasn't very long... some people make posts that outdo that message length limit, that was nowhere near that limit... you could split it into paragraphes to do the people that actually read this have an easier time.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

Talk about bad timing. First, tell the mutual friend you are interested in A. Tell her you had interest before but the timing was off. Don't use meeting the other girl over the summer as one of the excuses. Lie and say relationship happened at another time. Get the Friend to ask A for permission for you to call her.

When you call: Just be relaxed. You haven't seen this girl in years, just ask how she's been since the last time you've seen her. Make sure you sound lively, interested and personable on the phone. Most guys suggest not talking for more than 10 minutes, but I think it's necessary in this situation. I say talk for about 30 minutes. You need to build some chemistry between you two so she will be looking forward to the date and not thinking you're strange.

Oh, if she's interested she will fish for compliments (it's women's part time job), down play them as much as possible.

 

[Mr. Delicious]

nice name Mr. Perfect Ya I was wondering how long I should talk on the phone since this site seems to suggest 5-10 minutes. I was thinking that would be strange since I havent seen her in a while. Also, the last time I saw her was in February so it hasnt been years just months. Anyway, thanks for the advice. Anyone have any other input?