new member here, I need you opinion regarding a situation

[Yzo]

I just found out about this forum and you guys seem to be quite knowledgeable.
I went out once with a girl I met on tinder. She was very into me before we met and even during the meeting. She complemented me a lot, she laughed at all my jokes, she told me I resemble a very hot actor, all that good jazz. She even told me we have to meet again.
I proposed the next day, but she couldn't because she had to go to this event with her friends.
After this, I had to go abroad for a week and I couldn't meet her. She asked me to write her on facebook and we talked a bit during this week. I also send her a selfie and she said I look handsome.
After I got back, I sent her a message, asking her out, but she wasn't in town. She didn't reschedule.
Next week I asked her out again and tried to schedule a date for the weekend, she told me she was feeling sick, but she will come if she feels better.
During the weekend I didn't contact her at all, I was hoping she will hit me up if she was still interested (considering she already declined two of my proposals). She didn't say anything all weekend. not a single sign.
On Monday, I decided to open her again on facebook and I asked her is something happened and if she is feeling alright?
She told me she has several health issues and problems at work and doesn't have the time to do anything fun for the moment. she also started to compliment me again (telling me I am smart, attractive, etc). I feel I got rejected and she doesn't want to see me again. she said all those nice things about me just to make me feel better about it and not feel super rejected.

My question is: what are your thoughts? Did this ever happen to you? why the hell are some women this confusing and giving opposite sings?

Help a brother out. All my friends are major chumps and I can't talk with them about those matters.

 

[ohrein]

When I started reading this material, I was obsessed with figuring women out too. You need to get out of the habit of trying to figure out women and just be the man they want. Not only will you drive yourself crazy but you will emerge at the other end of the tunnel with the realization that you can never think like they do. Unless you go on HRT. Haha.

So, here's what you need to know with this girl. She's showing signs of disinterest in you. Whether that's because of her life being crazy or her not being attracted to you is irrelevant. The more you chase a girl who is running, the faster she will run. You've now contacted her three times. If she's interested in you, she'll make the effort to hang out with you from here. It's kind of an easy situation for you now because the solution is to do nothing.

So, chances are she's not attracted to you. Go meet some other women. Maybe after time you can go back to her with some more game from reading the bible here (http://www.donjuanbible.com/). GO READ THE BIBLE.

 

[fastlife]

@ohrein nailed it. Trying to figure a girl out is almost always a waste of mental energy. Either she behaves in a way that benefits your life or she doesn't.

To me, it sounds like she's trying to turn you into an orbiter. So just disappear for a couple months, meet other girls, and then just invite her over for a glass of wine. But withdraw your attention ASAP and redirect it toward things that benefit your life.

 

[Yzo]

When I started reading this material, I was obsessed with figuring women out too. You need to get out of the habit of trying to figure out women and just be the man they want. Not only will you drive yourself crazy but you will emerge at the other end of the tunnel with the realization that you can never think like they do. Unless you go on HRT. Haha.

So, here's what you need to know with this girl. She's showing signs of disinterest in you. Whether that's because of her life being crazy or her not being attracted to you is irrelevant. The more you chase a girl who is running, the faster she will run. You've now contacted her three times. If she's interested in you, she'll make the effort to hang out with you from here. It's kind of an easy situation for you now because the solution is to do nothing.

So, chances are she's not attracted to you. Go meet some other women. Maybe after time you can go back to her with some more game from reading the bible here (http://www.donjuanbible.com/). GO READ THE BIBLE.

thank you for the reply. those are exactly my thoughts. I am 99% sure she isn't attracted. no matter how crazy her life was, she could find time if she indeed liked me. but this is how it goes sometimes. I really liked this girl, but I guess I have to stop thinking about her.