New girl I just met is a recovering drug addict.. would like some advice.

[T-Mack]

I met this girl while eating lunch the other day and then I got her to go out with me for coffee a few days later. She seems really happy that I walked up to her and talked to her and is always telling me thanks for talking to her.

While we were talking she mentioned she was a coke addict at a very young age after her father died. We were talking for a good bit and then I said I had to go and she gave me a hug, which lasted longer than a normal hug. She more like latched on to me.

She wants to see me again, but I'm not sure if I want too. I haven't dealt with these kinds of girls before. I'm looking to lay this girl down, but I don't want her to go psycho on me if things turn sour. I’m also currently laying another girl so I’m not at all attached to this girl. I know there is a possibility she could still be broken goods, but do chicks like this really turn there life around? Does anyone have any idea on how to handle this one?

 

[DJDamage]

While we were talking she mentioned she was a coke addict at a very young age after her father died.

You got a little taste of what else is coming. She barley knows you and yet she is willing to share the sh1t she had gone through with you. Imagine what other sh1t she doesn't want you to know yet or share.

I would split, this girl sounds like trouble since day 1.

 

[Blackmm]

How long has she been clean and sober. If it has been 9-10 years ago, you're ok. If its been only a few months, watch out. Cocaine is an expensive addiction and she may end up stealing more than your heart.

 

[Sandow]

I think your fine. Cocaine is such an addictive drug, it can turn anyone into an adddict, even the best of us.

 

[DavenJuan]

I think your fine. Cocaine is such an addictive drug, it can turn anyone into an adddict, even the best of us.

true, but she shared this information with such disregard to what he thinks. what else does she have "to share" that she isnt so inclined to hurry up and do so?

im thinking if this type of info is not that much of a big deal, there are some uglier things to come. IMO

 

[ducaro]

Chorus:
Run away, run away, run away and save your life.
Run away, run away, run away if you want to survive.
Run away, run away, run away and save your life.
Run away, run away, run away if you want to survive.

Money, sex, in full control, a generation without soul,
Perfect people in a perfect world, behind closed doors all in control,
Life, in a world of luxury, cold cash money mentality,
You gotta keep the faith, you gotta keep the faith,
You better keep the faith and run away.

Chorus

Its time to break free, oh oh oh oh, run away, oh oh oh oh,
You better break free, oh oh oh oh, run away, oh oh oh oh.
Money, sex, in full control, look, big brother is watching you,
Unlock your brain and save your soul, no more limits, no more curfew,
Life in the perfect system, take a stand and fight for freedom,
Keep the faith, you gotta keep the faith,
You better keep the faith and run away.

Chorus several times

Its time to break free, oh oh oh oh, run away,
Oh oh oh oh, you better break free, oh oh oh oh,
Run away, oh oh oh oh
Keep the faith, you gotta keep the faith,
You better keep the faith and run away.
Keep the faith, you gotta keep the faith,
You better keep the faith and run away.

ah, Real McCoy those were the days...

Oops got a lil carried away there..

so where was i?

 

[Sandow]

true, but she shared this information with such disregard to what he thinks. what else does she have "to share" that she isnt so inclined to hurry up and do so?

im thinking if this type of info is not that much of a big deal, there are some uglier things to come. IMO

Well, at this point, just continue to casually date her so you can find out more about her. But it's up to you how you feel about this one. She may or may not have other ugly things to reveal. You just have to continue dating and find out.

If it were me, I would keep her around, you got nothing to lose. If you don't like her then u just next her. Thats all. Like I said, she can be perfectly normal, you shouldn't assume she's psycho or something because she had an addiction.

 

[Bible_Belt]

she was a coke addict at a very young age after her father died.


The coke is nothing, but daddy dying is important. I'm going to guess there is a good chance that she has borderline personality disorder. If I'm right, then your girl is a little crazy, but the sex will be amazing. Consensus wisdom on bpd girls is 'run!' However, fwiw, my current gf has bpd. If you are strong enough to handle the craziness and can keep your emotions in control, then these girls can be a lot of fun.

 

[j0n024]

Hmm I agree do what you want...if it bites you in the butt later on it's your fault lol. I had lots of friends in HS that got addicted to coke and it was kinda sad to see them that way but what can you do. I actually tasted coke (not snort but tasted) and it numbed my mouth and I just got picked up and I needed a drink so I took my sis's drink and I was afraid that she was going to get sick if she tasted it so I just gulped it down lol.

 

[Sandow]

Ahhh, comfortably numb...

 

[KontrollerX]

DJDamage is right.

Any girl that drops her life story in your lap right away is simply preying on your emotions trying to manipulate your caring nature to draw you closer to her and put you under her control bringing out the capn save a ho mentality in full force.

That combined with the drug abuse history is a recipe for disaster.

Either next immediately or give this one the old fvck and chuck treatment.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Remember that she did things while all coked up which she may or may not "remember". The Linemen for the Seahawks filling her holes while she was fvcked up is not something she'd be so readily available to tell you.

I'm on the DJDamage and KontrollerX train, just be cordial to her but nothing more.

 

[reset]

Any girl that drops her life story in your lap right away is simply preying on your emotions trying to manipulate your caring nature to draw you closer to her and put you under her control bringing out the capn save a ho mentality in full force.

Oh NOW YOU tell me. Can I have that year of my life back now?


:crackup:

 

[The Deacon]

Any girl that drops her life story in your lap right away is simply preying on your emotions trying to manipulate your caring nature to draw you closer to her and put you under her control bringing out the capn save a ho mentality in full force.

Ahhhhh! If you don't run away from this chick I am 100% positive it's gonna RUIN YOUR LIFE. My brother dated a chick whose daddy died, and she even told him on their first date... She ended up being the most needy mother f*cking b*tch in existence. I hate hate hate her. She would call my brother three times a day and talk to him for five hours, and whenever he had to end a conversation she would say "WHY ARE YOU CHEATING ON ME?" I'm not joking! Run! Run!!! My brother put up with this sh*t FOR THREE YEARS! Don't be like him, PLEASE!

 

[aliasguy]

Dead daddies aren't as bad as GONE daddies, or abusive daddies.

Really.

 

[strong like bull]

for what its worth... in my experience all girls ive been with who had fvcked up childhood/dead or gone daddy/abuse/ or even heavy drug use... usually its all interconnected somehow and she is BROKEN. cannot fix. almost all werent stable in the head and a lot were pretty much sluts or girls you just plain shouldnt settle down with.

-SLB

 

[zack77766]

You got a little taste of what else is coming. She barley knows you and yet she is willing to share the sh1t she had gone through with you. Imagine what other sh1t she doesn't want you to know yet or share.

I would split, this girl sounds like trouble since day 1.

Sounds like broken goods. You really want to deal with a girl who probably will never be emotionally satisfied (cheating...)? If you want, be careful and protect your heart. You never know if she might reform.

 

[spider_007]

true, but she shared this information with such disregard to what he thinks. what else does she have "to share" that she isnt so inclined to hurry up and do so?

im thinking if this type of info is not that much of a big deal, there are some uglier things to come. IMO

Honesty.....is't that what we usually want from girls we are with.

On the other hand;
I only know one girl who is a recovering addict. At her bottom she used to stand on the corner fvcking guys for $20 just to support her habbit.
At the least, she was blowing her dealer. Now all that aside, you really have to judge people case by case basis. If you want this girl around, Qualify her...find out how her life is now. Get to know her.

it all depends on what your intentions are with her.

 

[Kidfabulous]

Drop it like it's hot.
and run.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Run away...as fast as you can.