New girl, already got her, how to keep her?

[JCKey618]

Just hooked up with this chick that had a crush on me and I was too dumb to realize it because I was chasing that other girl and totally ignored this one. Well, anyway, we hooked up and stuff is going well.

I just need advice on how to keep her interested. We've made out a few times already and I think I did pretty damn good.

So, I have a few questions, and remember the circumstances (we are on a campus for a summer program and we see each other daily and could call each other nightly).

* Do I go over and talk to her EVERY time I see her?

* Should I try to be with her all the time?

* I'm kinda insecure about my body. I work out and that is kind of why I'm insecure. I'm afraid if she's feeling on me and finds out I lack a 6-pack, she will be turned off. She told me (in a playful way) "You should be glad I picked you because I'm VERY picky."

* How do I know how far I can go with her. She let me feel on her ass and titties (actually, she guided me to them). I thought she was about to reach for Jimmy, but she stopped.

* I have a problem on pre-ejaculation. If I stay hard for too long, stuff comes out. If I ever DO get far enough with her, I'm afraid I would bust within the first few seconds.

* When should I stand up for her? People are already talking about us making out in the library and she got mad at this dude and they started insulting each other. How do I know when to start a fight over what someone says or to just take it as a joke?

*Should I call her every night, just to say a few words or should I not call her at all?

 

[Escalade]

Let's analyze why you got her in the first place...you were a CHALLENGE. You ignored her and so her interest peaked, you don't wanna all of the sudden give her the world because she'll lose interested quickly, and you'll be sitting there scratching your head saying "WTF?"

This is a problem many have had, including myself, it is the question "Do I revert to AFC qualities once you get the girl, or do you continue being a DJ"

DO NOT call her every night, call her every other night if you need to, heck don't even call at all...she'll call you. And even then don't be on for an hours, 20 minutes max.

Same with going to talk to her, say hey or whatever, but don't stick around for long and go back to your own buddies and hang out with them. If she needs to talk to you she'll come over.

As far as your insecurities go, not many have 6 packs, as long as your fit your fit. The 6 pack is always a plus and something you should work on getting, but nothing to worry about.

The only way you know how far you can go is try, my guess if she's moving your hands to her titties and ass then you can go far...just start slow and work it up to where you want it.

I think what your talking about is precum, it's common among all men, unless your actually have an orgasm then it's not pre-ejaculation...oh ya, you probably will bust within a few minutes your first time, just like every other man does.

Your problem is confidence, your scared she won't like you when you should be thinking about if you like her. Those are AFC qualities, and people usually only see them after the fact, not during it..so fix it now or you'll be regretting it.

 

[JCKey618]

So, if I see her down the street or something and I'm walking with my friends, I shouldn't stop walking with them to walk with her, I should just wave at her, maybe some hug or physical stuff and then continue walking with friends?

Also, what about when she asks you to do stuff like "Could you get me a drink from over there?" or like if we are going to the movies and I wanna see one movie and she wants to see the other.

 

[Escalade]

Exactly, just keep walking with your friends, don't let her think that she's so special as to deserve all of your time. The more time you spend with her the less valuable it is...it's like the stock market. Your stock would be like Enron if you were with her all the time. Some small talk and hug/kiss is great, but don't go out of your way to be with her.

As far as getting her asking you to get her a drink, I know a lot of guys would say hell no because you may seem like your her *****, but the key is not doing it too often where it's routine and not something that your doing nice for her.

And for choosing movies, if you really wanna see your movie, tell her that and she'll go...but does it really matter what movie? I for one don't watch the movie, I'm up to other things.

 

[JCKey618]

About the movie. We went to see Finding Nemo and, even though I really enjoyed the movie, there were a lot of little kids in there and it seemed completely inapprpriate to kiss

 

[Escalade]

use some common sense...or course your not gettin any in a Disney movie, I was thinking like she wanted to go see Alex and Emma or the worst case scenario...Justin to Kelly.

 

[kevbo]

Originally posted by JCKey618
* Do I go over and talk to her EVERY time I see her?

no

* Should I try to be with her all the time?

NO!

* I'm kinda insecure about my body. I work out and that is kind of why I'm insecure. I'm afraid if she's feeling on me and finds out I lack a 6-pack, she will be turned off. She told me (in a playful way) "You should be glad I picked you because I'm VERY picky."

don't worry so much. just keep working on it, and she'll probably notice.

* How do I know how far I can go with her. She let me feel on her ass and titties (actually, she guided me to them). I thought she was about to reach for Jimmy, but she stopped.

just go for whatever you need to go for next. if you haven't kissed, just move in and kiss, and do the same as you get further.

* I have a problem on pre-ejaculation. If I stay hard for too long, stuff comes out. If I ever DO get far enough with her, I'm afraid I would bust within the first few seconds.

can't help ya there.

* When should I stand up for her? People are already talking about us making out in the library and she got mad at this dude and they started insulting each other. How do I know when to start a fight over what someone says or to just take it as a joke?

if you can handle it without starting and actual fight, you'd probably gain more respect in her eyes (it works that way with some girls). in any case, don't start getting in fights over rumors of you making out. take it as a joke. if she sees you can get that mad over what people say to you, you could wind up in trouble. i'd say not to start a fight unless the guy is hurting her.

*Should I call her every night, just to say a few words or should I not call her at all?

that just went from one extreme to the other. don't call her every night, especially if you run into her throughout the day. how about you call her when you have something to say that can't wait until the next time you see her. if that never really happens, it might be good to call her once in a while to let her know you haven't forgotten her, with some longer breaks in there to make her wonder.

well, hope i helped at least a little.

 

[hardwork]

Don't worry, man.

Originally posted by JCKey618
* I have a problem on pre-ejaculation. If I stay hard for too long, stuff comes out. If I ever DO get far enough with her, I'm afraid I would bust within the first few seconds.

Don't worry about that at all, man: that "stuff" is actually a part of all guys' seminal fluids (id est, semen). It comes from two glands found under your prostate called Cowper's Glands, named after 17th Century surgeon William Cowper.

It's nothing to worry about at all: when you urinate, some of the ammonia and what-have-you in your urine gets held up in your urethra. Ammonia--and, indeed, urine in general--is EXTREMELY toxic for your little flouderous sperm, and sperm that get exposed to urine in any way, shape, form, or fashion are almost always killed. Mother Nature can't have that, so she fashioned the Cowper's Gland and their fluid to wind their way down your urethra, neutralizing and shedding any excess urine that might kill off a few hundred thousand sperm.

In short, IT IS COMEPLETELY NATURAL.

Good to know, huh? (Didn't you pay any attention in Sex Ed? ) Just know that all guys do this in some form or another, and I'm sure some guys out there can go all night, though I'll have to make sure to keep them well away from my girl...

EDIT: You can find the dictionary definition of "Cowper's Gland" at Dictionary.com under bulbourethral gland for more information if you're still curious.

 

[Sato21m]

She told me (in a playful way) "You should be glad I picked you because I'm VERY picky."

Omg if a girl tells me that i would make su much fun of her u can use there c+f..

 

[Wont Stop Mackin]

Precum is a regular, dont worry about that, and as far as knowing how long you can go, what always works for me is think about pleasuring her rather than her pleasuring you and how good it feels, just dont think about is as much and it'll last a lot longer. And as far as insecurities i felt like i was the guy who had the most out of anyone, i dont have a 6pack and not many do but i work out too, its getting better, just keep at it, get a tan, if your not, im european so im naturally olive skinned and lately i've been going to the beach a lot and it helps my confidence a lot not that i ever lacked that no matter if i had a six pack or not.

And im not trying to be an *******.

But i totally disagree with Escalade and his first post, I admit some of those things work when you first get a girl, but after awhile they get annoyed by things like never calling, now dont get obsessive but you shoudlnt ignore her at all times, trust me girls like that at first but afterwards its nto going to keep her, she'll just find someone who doesnt ignore her.

Me and my girlfriend have been together a little over 3 months and that might not seem like much, but the way shes talking about it is as if she wants to stay together for awhile, if not a lot longer, and something bigger come out of it, i call her on a regular and we talk for more than 20 mins, sometimes a lot less, but the main thing is that you keep up the challenge but dont make the challenge impossible, balance yourself out.