Never met a girl like this.

[utformula]

This is kinda strange...and has finally led me here in search of helpful advice. I've met this girl who is an 18 year old virgin who has been in maybe one serious relationship. This girl seems to be great and everything has been going wonderful. We get along really well, hold hands...etc...ive kissed her once...really really shortly. Recently we had a chat and I come to find shes accustomed to dating multiple guys. So she actually tells me about how they are and stuff. Well ive been in a situation similar to this and the other guy and I almost got into a fight but he backed out. Basically.....Im just wondering if Im wasting my time in your opinions...Honestly I pretty sure I have more to offer than the other guys...she seems to hang out with me a lot more and stuff. I really just do not like the competition...im so used to just dating mutually single people and this almost sort of came as a shock to me when she said that she has a few other guys that she regularly dates. Im not too sure if this is considered normal or not but i guess ill find out. She tells me that I should date other girls too, but doing that just seems like its a recipe for a lot of drama when things go serious with one and i have to tell the rest to **** off. Perhaps im just confused, but i would hate to waste all this time dating a girl that could all of the sudden decide to be exclusive with some other guy that shes been dating other than me.

btw she says shes just a virgin still because she has not met the right guy yet...shes not waitin to get married or anything.

Thanks much!

 

[utformula]

ttt, anyone??

 

[Escalade]

OMG, Dump her NOW! Save yourself from getting hurt and save your dignity and forget her quick, which will be hard but you have to do it.

Going out with multiple partners? If she wont commit to you then she's not worth YOUR time.

You said somewhere "I have more to offer to her"...but what does she have to offer you? Not much obviously is she's playin you, you should not be looking to please her, you should be asking "what does she have to offer me?" and then decide.

The girls a hoe, you need to next her.

Read the Bible, I don't have the link on me but there's one on the mainpage somewhere.

 

[Charisma]

She's a Virgin, ok .. but then she's dating multiple guys .. which kinda fvcks up the 'innocent' imago I was getting lol .. I'd say get the hell out of there

 

[Demon]

she says shes just a virgin still because she has not met the right guy yet...shes not waitin to get married or anything.

...which means she's looking to be de-virginized by the biggest dyck she can find. Wouldn't she love to be able to say to her friends, "I had a Ron Jeremy!" I don't know. I felt like putting a whole different twist on the "she's unique" thing.

 

[Sir Jeffrey]

Date other girls.

 

[am4591]

I agree with Sir Jeffrey, date other girls. I don't have a problem with somebody dating other guys since I see other girls too. I'll try to hang onto her, of course, try to outdo my competition, but if she finds somebody she likes better, that's no big deal. There are enough other fish in the sea.

But if it's a girlfriend you're looking for, a one-on-one kind of thing, then, sure, dump this girl.

 

[drZaius09]

She says: "You should date other girls, too."

Translation: "I really don't like you that much, and I'll probably never have sex with you, so you'd better hedge your bets... like I'm doing"

Follow her advice. This is about as honest and upfront as any woman will ever be. Take advantage of it.

 

[Bonhomme]

Date others

Another vote for dating others.

Back off from her a bit, too. See if she follows.

 

[utformula]

wow guys thanks for your replys....i KNEW something about this sounded completely ****ed up and unusual, and you all have reassured me. I don't think shes telling me this because she doesnt think she will like me that much compared to her others. This girl acts extremely close to me (puts her arm around me, holds my hand, but um..what trips me out is yesterday we kissed for the first time after i helped her fix her car and then tonite we went on a date and all i got was a kiss on cheek...this was after our conversation that i mentioned above however.) I really hate to just next her because this girl is between a 8 and 9 on a scale of 1 - 10. It isnt everyday that a girl this hot shows so much interest in me with so little effort on my part. I guess i could just date other girls but this **** is starting to play out to just be one big game where a bunch of people are gonna get hurt. OH yeah also, shes been going out with me doing stuff pretty consistantly almost everday for the past week and a half...and a lot of the time she calls me. So i dont think shes had that much time with her other guys lately which makes me wonder how serious they are. LOL and on top of it all my stupid ass is a minor (19) and where i live if you have any scent of beer on your breath and your a minor you get a DUI...so even tho i wasnt drunk and allowed to drive home i dont have a driver's license for a month still...this can make pickin up girls a little difficult without the T/A (another reason i think she likes me). So obviously if shes coming to pick me up and **** to go out then she must like me quite a bit.

Also, when she told me all of this about the other guys I told her "I dont know, ive been in stuff like this and it turned out really bad (then she says "well its not like im having sex with them or anything") so i said "well even the thought lingering in the back of my head of HEY other guys were probably kissing this girl today or the day before is a lot for me to have to deal with and if things got more serious and she stayed with these other guys id have to break it off"

She just reacted kind of confused to this, not really negatively but i kinda felt like i was coming off and some possessive psycho in her eyes or something.

Honestly, i guess i should stop making excuses for why i should stay and start putting that energy into finding my own others to date. *OR* should i just go ahead now and organize my thoughts about why this is so ****ed up and tell her what i think and based on her reaction end it or maybe shell be willing to try something different with her dating habits.

*sorry if this is rambling tried to organize it best i could*

Thanks again.

 

[utformula]

anyone else??

 

[davelmn2003]

Man I was in a similar situation. A very hot girl got interested in me and in retrospect I think I gave too much power to her, in the sense that I don't want to lose her (you can even say there was a fear of losing such a beautiful woman who seems interested in you).

I'd say, pull back a little bit, let her ask for me. Deny or delay her requests for dates once or twice, let her know that you're not THAT available (since you said you guys have been going out for the last couple of days non-stop).

After some denying or delaying, hang out with her and make your move at your place or hers. Make your sexual interests known (doesn't mean that you've got to get her though), but I would say: ESCALATE things now that you've kissed her already.

 

[Demon]

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It's not unusual. It's extremely common.

 

[rbd]

Re: Date others

Originally posted by Bonhomme
Another vote for dating others.

Back off from her a bit, too. See if she follows.

Agreed. If you date this girl, she HAS to be a back-burner girl. If you devote all of your attention and thought to her, she will back away. Start dating some others. Be yourself around this girl, and if she doesn't like that, she isn't worth the time, no matter how good of a catch she might seem to be.

The thing that will drive this girl away is if you start getting possessive. She's looking for a man with a big dyck, be cool, calm, sexual yet standoffish/busy and things might just work out. If you tap it and you're looking for a gf and she wants to keep her male "friends" and keeps doing **** with them, I'd loose her, too much hurt.

Robby

 

[Vronski]

This girl acts extremely close to me (puts her arm around me, holds my hand, but um..what trips me out is yesterday we kissed for the first time after i helped her fix her car and then tonite we went on a date and all i got was a kiss on cheek...this was after our conversation that i mentioned above however.) I really hate to just next her because this girl is between a 8 and 9 on a scale of 1 - 10.

LOL Let me guess, you paid for the date?

Forget about the fact that she's a 9. She's not. It only seems that way cause you can't have her.

Forget about the fact that she's a virgin. Did you check her hymen? No. It's a lie, a facade most probably. The more whorish a girl is, the more she plays the virgin.

If you commit your life to her, you'll probably get to see her boob if you are really lucky.

It isnt everyday that a girl this hot shows so much interest in me with so little effort on my part.

And how many how girls you approached in the last 3 months? And for how many of those girls did you fix their car? Not a lot. So dump her sorry ass.

 

[Chemistry]

I love the title of the thread, lol...

My suggestion is spend a day out in town with one or two friends and just look at all the women...

I had a long stage of one-itis in a way, even tho' I was seein' a number of others girl for ONS and other short term things... there was this one girl who I was for and really wanted it to work out

I hit stage 1 when I met up with her to go to a concert, after not seein' her for a month or so... I just wasn't impressed when I saw her, lol... stage 2 was the followin' week where I was just drivin' through the student area of town being rather observant of those walkin', and I was like "Damn, why on earth was I eager for that to work out... look at the hundreds of girls here that are much more impressive", and honestly I have much more fun now, it just felt like a load off my mind in a way...

But yeah, back to your question... true realisation may take some time as the blinkers can be a ***** to remove, but just get out and about, and I can guarantee you'll meet or just see other girls who leave you the same way that I was, wonderin' why you at all fussed with her... just try to open your eyes, be open minded and look at the world as it goes by for what it is, without a fascination for any girl...

Soon you will be meetin many girls like her, and many girls better

 

[es_mer8]

Have you guys ever watched How High? Its a comedy starring Redman and Method Man. Anyway, they were at a college when these two girls said they were virgins but were easy as hell to lay. They said the same thing to other men and come to find out, they were literally w****s and had a pimp and the whole deal. I think she's feeding you some Grade A BS when she says that she's a virgin. She's a virgin in the case that she probably hasn't had sex with you. My advice is to date other girls and slowly lose the other chick. Don't leave her abruptly, she may get jealous and you can get some from her.

 

[utformula]

i know it seems like BS that shes a virgin but i pretty much believe her based on the way she acts...it seems like she likes to take things slllooowww. So after talking to some close friends ive decided to just pretend that she never told me any of this and be myself and stop worrying about ****. Anyways im going outa town for 3 days or so to get away from things and visit some friends.

Thanks again for everyones advice!

 

[icehot]

Dude,

Stop making excuses for her! Maybe she's a virgin, maybe not. In this case, the cardinal rule is to never listen to what women SAY but what they DO.
And right now, she probably doing so other guy..he,he,he. I say do the 'ol pull back...and see what happens.

a DJ never lets the mark dictate the terms of the relationship. Figure out what YOU want out of the relationship and lay down the law.

-iceH

 

[utformula]

ahhaha

well its been awhile since i updated on this and ive figured it all out to some extent. We no longer talk....what happened is i brought her out to a pretty decent sized party with my friends (30-40 people whom all i knew) she knew none of them and spent the whole time flirting with every guy and girl and appearing to ignore me as much she could except when she wanted a drink (girls tend to like my drinks heh)....Sooooo Im thinkin "alrite you goofy biatch ill play your game" so next thing you know i got one of her best friends hanging all over me...Time comes for her to head home and i decided id jett too (with someone else) and i just told her to be careful driving drunk home (i no longer drive after drinking)) so she goes out to her car with some terrorist lookin arbian guy (wtf?) and im like see ya later hoe (i was kinda drunk but i dont think she heard me heh). So after this ****ing bull**** im no longer in the mood to hang out with this *****, i figure shes basically trying to use me so she could actually find some friends or some **** and i was a bonus (another person to date on the side). Well the next day like ****ing clockwork she calls me up around 1 all bein snoopy askin me what im doing and stuff and i was being real short with her tellin her i was busy and stuff and that id call her back later lol. Anyways she calls back again around 5 and starts the same ol **** she did at 1 and I end up askin her what shes doin tonite and shes like blah blah blah im goin to this club with the terrorist lookin guy she met at the party last night....Soo im like well thats cool I gotta go. I havent talked to her since and its been a few days now and I already feel a lot better. Well lol after talkin to her friends more I come to find out they all dont really like her that much because they think shes Bi sexual or a lesbian or something!!!! lol Evidently she kept bringing girls into my friends room alone with her and trying to dance with them!!!!!!!!!! NOW ISNT THAT SOME **** LOL! Anyways I think it was all a good expirence...she was really hot and gave my confidence a nice boost and now all her friends like me.