Never F***ing Cvm!

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I'm sure some people will laugh at the thought of this being a problem but in all honesty its really doing my head in now.

I take ages to cvm through all sexual acts and sometimes i just wont cvm at all! No sex session has been under 30 minutes and yeah, at first it was pretty cool but its a curse in disguse :down:

My gf gave me mindblowing head tonight...absolutely fvck all, after 15 minutes my hands started to go all tingly my legs started contracting and i couldn't think straight...nothing

I can achieve it through masterbation so this is definatly not a physical thing but i think an over exposure to porn may have something to do with it?

Since i got in the relationship i hardly masterbate but one of the only things i can come up with is that as i materbated all most always while watching porn my **** develoed some warped view of pleasure :S

What sucks more (excuse the pun) is that she wanted to swallow for the first time...ive never achieved orgasm through oral pleasure so technically tonight would have been perfect :cuss:

Come on i'm 16...i should be cvmming in seconds. :D
 

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Are you having trouble getting an erection or actually coming?

If you're having no problem getting it up then you've got a blessing in disguise; pornstar abilities.

A little trick I've come across is NOT to come with your girl during sex all the time. Why?

It makes her want to make you come more. I went a few weeks having sex everyday with my girl not coming at all. Every time she came back more fierce than the last.

I don't think you have a problem bro, I think you're just blessed.
 

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First of all... Are you on any kind of antidepressants? If so, that is your problem. Lets assume, you're not.

I'm the same way. It isnt really a blessing in disguise. Actually, it kind of sucks ass. Mine is a little different that, I usually need to fvck a girl 2 or 3 times to start to get off. The problem is, it is a HUGE turnoff to chicks, when the guy doesnt cvm the first time together. It often leads to nexts, and flakes. Its not like that with a steady partner though, thankfully.

One of my problems is, Im usually kind of drunk the first time I fvck a chick. If Im sober, I usually do OK. If I have a good girlfriend, and we are used to each other, I can cvm fast, even if Im drunk. Some girls cant get me off all the time, then they dont even help me. I get rid of those selfish girls nowadays.

Sometimes I have to jerk myself off in the girls mouth to get off. Its kind of fun, cuz you know the top of your fist is slamming her lips! Anyway, that works. You just kind of 'help' her give you head.

A good girl will understand this, and help you out. After all, it means she gets to cvm a shytload of times. She can at least help you out.

There are creams that enhance the feelings in your dyck. Try that. Or try some Horny Goat Weed. I dont know if its any easier to cvm with these, but it makes it feel better anyway.

The only other thing I can recommend, is starting the sex in ways where she has more control, so she can get off all she needs to. Then switch to a position where it is easier for you to ***. For me, its either missionary, or her laying on her belly with her legs closed. Or any position where I can just focus on ME, and she isnt interrupting. When you're getting head, give her the top of your schlong, and you work the bottom, tandem style, when you get close, act like your masturbating, except have her mouth on the top. She might even like it. If not, you're fvcked.

When you're with a girl for the first time, (if this problem persists for you, which it might not) and you cant get off; you might want to fake it. I never have, myself, but I know chicks get really weird when the guy doesnt cvm, especially the first time. I've missed out on a lot of repeats cuz she was pissed that I didnt blow my load. It fvcks up their self esteem, and they wonder what the matter is with them, if they cant get a guy off, cuz most guys blow too fast. Often, they will not risk it a second time.
 

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Had this problem a few times and it was always with a new girl (first date, first night). I made her cvm quite a few times, banged her all night and again the next morning, but I myself couldn't. I don't watch much porn so it's not that. I could tell that the girl felt like a feminine failure and there was no repeat.

Thanks horaholic for the tips.
 

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i can go for hours and not ***. my ladies love it because they like to fukk for hours but their former men only lasted 10-15 mins.
 

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I dont buy that. Usually after 45 min, the chick either cant handle cvmming anymore, or is too sore. Like I said earlier, a good girl will take care of you anyway. Its much better to do multiple sessions of shorter time periods, unless you're into tantric shyt.

To all you guys that cvm too quick: You can learn to control it. I used to try to keep my orgasm right on the edge for as long as humanly possible. Find a position that isnt as good for you, and whenever you're about to cvm, slow down or stop for a sec. Do this a bunch of times, then cvm with the girl, and your mind will be blown. Even if you do blow early, wait a few minutes and do it again. You'll last longer, and she'll be happier. Trust me, I used to be young and had to fight to hold back, and you guys have it better. Just learn to control it. I cant make myself cvm easier. My last GF, though, I could cvm in three minutes if I wanted to, or could go 45 min till she couldnt handle it.
 

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horaholic said:
I dont buy that. Usually after 45 min, the chick either cant handle cvmming anymore, or is too sore. Like I said earlier, a good girl will take care of you anyway. Its much better to do multiple sessions of shorter time periods, unless you're into tantric shyt.
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we take short breaks. hour or so session then take like a 5 min pee/snack/cuddle break then go back at it...
 

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So why wouldnt you just cvm, take a break, and then start over?

Thats the way I do it, if the girl is good enough. Me, and my ex were always in sex marathons. We would have three of four LONG sessions a night.

Damn, I miss that!! ...But not her.
 

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horaholic said:
So why wouldnt you just cvm, take a break, and then start over?

Thats the way I do it, if the girl is good enough. Me, and my ex were always in sex marathons. We would have three of four LONG sessions a night.

Damn, I miss that!! ...But not her.

because I love to have long sex sessions. anything under 2 hours is wack to me. the women love it and keep coming back for more.
 

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Hey man been there....

Even jacked to the point of cumming then put it in and it didnt work..

It's all up there in your mind mate.. You need to relax, for the first month or 2 of my first real girlfriend I had trouble getting it up, nerves with fvck with you so much, you can feel your head go cold as you start sweating and your heart beating in your ears... man I feel for you, but you'll definately be ok and be shooting your load in no time, you just have to find your sweet spot.. Hell I spent so much effort finding it, I find it straight away and only last about 10 mins haha...

About the sucky suck I've never cvm with one, I either feel sub-conscious about doin it in someones mouth or Ive never had a good one...think its the latter!!

Seriously mate, cherish the long fvckin as soon as you find your sweet spot it will be gone!!!!
 

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Are you using a condom? If so, what brand? Certain brands of condoms are horrible for sensitivity. Perhaps you need a thinner condom.
 

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As i obvioulsy dont see my girlfriend everyday i do have a tendancy to masterbate if i've gone a few days without. I dont reach orgasm i always stop before, thinking back im sure i've heard that this IMPROVES stamina could be a contributing factor?

I've decided on an experiment to see if it has any effect on helping me cvm through oral pleasure. My girlfriend is away on holiday next week and is on her period the week after...so that would mean two weeks of no sex, during this time im also gonna stop all masterbation with or without porn completely, hopefully ill be bursting by the time she gets back haha :)

Its a double edged sword..i'm sure if i suffered from premature ejaculation i would be dying at a chance to keep going.
 

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For the head thing, there is the possibility that either you are nervous about c*mming in her mouth, or she is really bad at head.

For the first, it's not as awkward as you might think it would be. If the girl agrees to swallow, jump on that opportunity. And for the second, not all girls are good at it. Work with what you've got.

Otherwise, I have no solution for you. Sorry can't be more help, the only time I've had trouble c*mming was the first time a girl swallowed.
 

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I have to agree with the above post regarding head. I have the same problem. When I first started cumming from head, there was definitely a mental block near the end. Not sure why - worried she would react badly, just not used to shooting without worrying where it goes, whatever. I still get it once in a while if it's been a while since I got head (over a month).

What worked for me was just patience and persistence. If its not working, help her out with your hand, eventually you should be able to get close enough that the slightest contact from her mouth will set you off. I found that once you get past it the first time, that gets much easier.

As for sex.. Are you using a condom? What brand?

Edit: Ha ha I should really read threads more carefully before replying, realized my post doesn't really add much. OH well.
 

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I suck -- even if I try everything to hold off, I still usually struggle to make it 15 minutes without blowing the wad.

I'd really give anything to be able to go 1 hour+ on a session.
 

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The answer to this problem is..... CHANGE YOUR GIRL! I remember I had sex with a lot of girls but wasn't really 100x turned on by her. I remember cumming after I made love with this girl that I really liked and she was like really a challenge. It was like yes!!! finally now the prize and it felt so gratifying.... like I earned it or something and the sex has to be really good and passionate ofcourse and for god sakes stop fukking watching PORN!!!
 

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I also had this "problem". And still a bit. To cvm you (obviously) need to stimulate the the tip as much as possible. When you have vaginal intercourse the tip often doesn't get stimulated so much as you are inside most of the time. The most stimulance I get from sex is going in and out of the vagina with the tip as much as possible. It's the tightest on the way in and out and not inside. For your girl it's probably the best if you're in her as much as possible, so only use this technique when you want to cvm.

Besides that, I never ever came from a girl giving me a handjob or *******. I think a lot of guys have this. I used to feel horrible about it. Now I kinda accepted it.
 

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SmoothTalker said:
When I first started cumming from head, there was definitely a mental block near the end. Not sure why - worried she would react badly, just not used to shooting without worrying where it goes, whatever.
This might just be it. My girl has told me in the past that she hates *** touching her, and disliked giving head. She will willingly do it and so she should as i give her oral but perhaps in the back of my mind i feel some guilty pleasure?

Masterbation is gone for good now, and i stick to my goals so hopefully now i've addressed this issue it might help :)
 

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I'm really not able to cvm from a blow either. I only came in a girl's mouth once and even then I had to close my eyes and think of pvssy.
 
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