Never-ever settle!

[SpyderJuan]

I was dating this girl for a few months..this was after a very long break from the dating scene (ex-gf got pregnant while working on a cruise ship..me not the daddy..that's another story). Anyway, this girl was nice, etc, not really my type physically (I like a fit gal...she was more fat than fit). We got along well, but things she said kept putting up the old red flags.

Since this was before I had found this site and my hero Doc Love's 'the System', I figured 'what the hell, I gettin' some on a regular basis, and this is easier than dating.' So I figured I'd stick with her 'cause it was easy.

Then I started piecing her story together: She has a Psychologist and a Psychiatrist; she is on about 4 different depression medictions; she habitually takes sleeping pills; she suffers from manic episodes; oh yeah, she had also hit her 30's so was on a mission to get married..target..me.

Oy! And I was going to settle! Cripes, what was I thinking, this girl needed valets to carry all her baggage! So...I pulled the ripcord and got out!

You've gotta think all the time, is she long-term material? If we had kids, would she be a good mother? Is she even a functional human being? If I stay with her is it heaven or prison?

What I'm saying lads is NEVER EVER SETTLE. You deserve the best so stick it out until you find it. If you are in a relationship right now for no other reason than it's easy, do yourself and her a favour...walk away. Remember there are lots of femmes out there and there is always porn until you find your next. Getting laid should not be a ticket to a life sentence is relationship hell.

Cheers and beers.

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"You'll have to speak up...I'm not wearing any pants."

[This message has been edited by SpyderJuan (edited 03-28-2002).]

[This message has been edited by SpyderJuan (edited 03-28-2002).]

 

[Sexual Chocolate]

Hey Spyder..I don't know why nobody has not responded to your post becuase I think what you said 100% on the money.

I have been in similar situations in the past and bailed on a couple of potential relationships. Do I feel sorry for doing that now that I am single? sometimes, especially during the lonely times. But you have to keep on asking yourself what would have been the consequences had you not thought of the future..You are wasting your time and hers.

Is getting laid that important that you want to be stuck in a relationship with somebody that you are not really enjoying and that you could possibly end up long term with by default? FVCK THAT! Wait till you meet somebody who totally knocks your socks off and don't settle for any less. This philosophy helps me get through the quiet times. When I see friends who are with chicks who they don't even particularly like for the sake of it I think to myself how much better off I am in my position. I am free, and a new "female opportunity" could arise at any moment. How much better off am I than he who has settled for a substandard G/F?

 

[GREAT BIG MAN]

COOL

I taught I was the only one that think this way. Sometimes is better to be alone than with a problematic lunatic depressed b8tch.

FREE YOUR MIND

T-H-E-R-E A-R-E L-O-T-S O-F G-I-R-L-S

The good question is "what if she gets pregnant and we have to marry!? Will it be good or bad?" and then analyse what you feel and what you see.

 

[expensive]

never settle???? are you crazy??

how about "only settle for the best"

this is how we dj's get things done!