It's pretty common knowledge here now, so this is more of a lamentation because I see many instances of this with couples in LTRs almost all of the time.
A man worth his salt should always be making the final decisions on things big or important. His woman can suggest things, but at the end of the day, she should always look up to and respect any of the decisions he makes. This is especially important in marriages and the longest lasting marriages have always had this traditional dynamic.
I've seen too often dudes "negotiating" things with their wives as a way of appeasement. When something makes total sense (e.g.: a house purchase at a good location), the wife will sometimes throw in her contrary opinion as a sh!t-test, and the dude will fail it.
This doesn't mean to not take anything she suggests into consideration. He definitely should take her words into consideration and use logic to assess whether it's a good idea or not. But at the end of the day, she should always understand that he's the Executive decision maker and she's the Assistant Secretary who has the freedom to voice an opinion or suggestion and it's at his discretion whether to put that advice to use or not.
The other side of this is that, the man can definitely delegate certain things to her control, but that's only because the issue he's given her control over has become miniscule compared to the things he currently has to put focus on. A lot of guys just take it too far and seem insincere and out-of-control when they get all bent up on what the wife wants the family to have for dinner.
This is kind of moot, however, for the dudes who have decided to get into LTRs with feminists. But for the regular LTRs it's good to be aware of whether the discord is based on normal womanly sh!t-testing, based on the need to push for gender-equality ideals, or if she really does have your interest in mind and knows something you don't know.
A man worth his salt should always be making the final decisions on things big or important. His woman can suggest things, but at the end of the day, she should always look up to and respect any of the decisions he makes. This is especially important in marriages and the longest lasting marriages have always had this traditional dynamic.
I've seen too often dudes "negotiating" things with their wives as a way of appeasement. When something makes total sense (e.g.: a house purchase at a good location), the wife will sometimes throw in her contrary opinion as a sh!t-test, and the dude will fail it.
This doesn't mean to not take anything she suggests into consideration. He definitely should take her words into consideration and use logic to assess whether it's a good idea or not. But at the end of the day, she should always understand that he's the Executive decision maker and she's the Assistant Secretary who has the freedom to voice an opinion or suggestion and it's at his discretion whether to put that advice to use or not.
The other side of this is that, the man can definitely delegate certain things to her control, but that's only because the issue he's given her control over has become miniscule compared to the things he currently has to put focus on. A lot of guys just take it too far and seem insincere and out-of-control when they get all bent up on what the wife wants the family to have for dinner.
This is kind of moot, however, for the dudes who have decided to get into LTRs with feminists. But for the regular LTRs it's good to be aware of whether the discord is based on normal womanly sh!t-testing, based on the need to push for gender-equality ideals, or if she really does have your interest in mind and knows something you don't know.
