Neglecting a hottie, does it works or backfire?

[Who Dares Win]

Here is the problem, sometime I feel the need to see the girls only when Im well rested and done with the work and the gym, no matter how much I like them its very rare for me to break a routine.

Now it comes out a 9 with which I messed up in past is coming close to my place and wants to meet right after she finish her stuff here.
I would like to meet her but not just in this time of the day and for such short amount of time, it looks a waste to me so I told her I was away till night.

She told me that she is wearing a mini skirt and that her boobs are clearly visible due her upperbody shirt to somehow put me in a hurry but still I said no.

Now I know that saying no or being unavailable to girls in general is not a bad thing, but considering that she is a real hottie (I spoker about her in some past posts) getting attention from high status men, I wonder if she could take it as an offence and be pissed off at me thus trying to punish me for that, being her used to be treated with gloves.

What you guys think?

 

[PDubb75]

I think... she will come back another time. She is going to want to "win". If she is as hot as you claim, I'm sure guys are falling at her feet at the opportunity she presented to you. By turning her down like that, it probably confused and frustrated her, and she will most likely find a way to make it happen, so she "wins".

I couldn't do what you did. At least not for the reason. I am not so stuck on a routine that I would turn down what sounded like a sure thing with a hottie.

What worked in your favor is that you stuck to your story that you were not available. Even after she baited you with the short skirt. If that would have made you all of the sudden available for her, it could have come around to hurt you.

I predict she will come back and try again.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Lets see how it will turn out in the next future.

Not sure yet if its better for me to re-start the interaction or wait for her, usually I would let her do the first move but since I already neglected her that would be way too much for her ego to come again.

Agree?

 

[bigneil]

You have a 2 week window after you blow them off (up to 2 times in a row but not 3) and they will be dying to see you (you gain prizeability by rejecting them, especially if they are telling their friends about you). Then you must deliver her an awesome date experience (don't focus on how much it costs - focus on what she already told you she likes) and then after the date, strike when the iron is hot. Make it happen that night.

 

[randalll]

Know what you mean, OP. I get into the routine mindset a lot and find I need to do other things before I feel good to go meet people. Cooking, washing, cleaning stuff, fetching water from the spring, working, working out, etc, all needs to be done first, for me.

 

[pdx1138]

what Pdubb said.

It certainly works if you're doing it right....and you're doing it right.

please do, report back what happens.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Ok what do you suggest me to do now?

1)contact her to schedule a date

2)contact her and let her schedule a meeting

3)wait for her to contact me

 

[Purefilth]

Ok what do you suggest me to do now?

1)contact her to schedule a date

2)contact her and let her schedule a meeting

3)wait for her to contact me

Id choose option 3, but its ultimately your call, if you have a free evening ahead, you could offer that time to her, but if she cant make it, then leave it to her to make contact.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

If you want to date this woman or have anything more than a one-off bang, you are in the right direction.

But if you just want to hit it once, I'm not sure why you wouldn't take her up on her offer.

That said, though playing it casual MAY get her to chase, she might also think you are a chode who doesn't know what he's doing and go find someone who does.

You might want to dangle some bait in front of her to get the idea across that she should continue to chase you (don't frame it that "hey, I'm interested", because you are chasing then).

 

[Groovy]

What a god damn choir boy. Get your ass out of the chair and go meet her!!!! YOU IDIOT!!!!!!!! DO IT NOW! DON'T GIVE ME THAT CRAP!

 

[EastWind]

Realise that you are having these thoughts based solely on the fact that she rolled a high score at the DNA dice.

Your routine is your routine and it is important. Structure is the foundation of a solid life.

If you're busting your routine for nothing but a pretty face and tight body, there's no telling what you'll give up in the future. Think about it.

 

[Who Dares Win]

UPDATE: we didnt meet for the club at night, she chosed instead to go to a house party with her friends, probably some other lucky guys had the chance to go dirty on her.
We texted 3 or 4 times during the night till at 10pm, I told her to do whatever she felt to do but to let me know since in case I had to plan my night as well.

A red flag which emerged was that she was taking half hour to reply,she also said that maybe she would have convinced the host to let me join but I told her I was in no mood to play the hunting game on her with 10 other guys.

Not sure if that because she wanted to get even for my flaking or because she genuinely found some other guy there and followed the flow, anyway I still lost nothing since meeting her in the afternoon would have give me no chance to escalate or bang her (which is what I want) plus I wasnt fresh and in shape then.

Right now Ill be going no contact and focus on getting to know other girls.

What do you suggest me to do in case she contacts me again?
Example if she apologizes or ask if Im pissed off?

I would consider just act as no big deal but keep the interaction at the minimum if she doesnt offer any meeting, no communication for the sake of it.

 

[Packers2010]

great thead, a noobie like me can learn a lot from it.

if i was doing it. i would have asked to see pics of the short skirt. then if she sent them i would have said something like.

oh nice skirt. and still did what you was doing.

but thats just me.

 

[Purefilth]

great thead, a noobie like me can learn a lot from it.

if i was doing it. i would have asked to see pics of the short skirt. then if she sent them i would have said something like.

oh nice skirt. and still did what you was doing.

but thats just me.

heh, nice could make her feel that you dont want her though and send her off angry. 'hell hath no fury...' and all that

 

[Groovy]

Wow man your name is "Who Dares Wins" but your liefstyle is "Don't do anything at all, hot girls hit on me and I run with my tail behind my legs!". Since she was hitting on you the other day, showed a HUGE IOI, you should have gone there, no way some other guy would be able to take her. You messed up BIG TIME!! The reason? You weren't feeling "Fresh" and "rested". You're 26... Put a sock in it! I will be seriousely happy if you can fix this crap, but that's just me.

GL nexting hot girls who are into u!

 

[Who Dares Win]

Wow man your name is "Who Dares Wins" but your liefstyle is "Don't do anything at all, hot girls hit on me and I run with my tail behind my legs!". Since she was hitting on you the other day, showed a HUGE IOI, you should have gone there, no way some other guy would be able to take her. You messed up BIG TIME!! The reason? You weren't feeling "Fresh" and "rested". You're 26... Put a sock in it! I will be seriousely happy if you can fix this crap, but that's just me.

GL nexting hot girls who are into u!

Im dealing with this girl from many weeks, she has a alpha boyfriend and is used to have hot guys around her all the the time kissing her ass, many of her orbiters are also intimidated from her.

The only reason why I managed to mess up with her in past was simply because I was treating her the same way I would treat an average girl, I even made her see me with other girls making it clear I was after them for banging only and that I would have not mind do her up the ass.

If the answer to my question was so easy I wouldnt be asking here for feedbacks, what I was doing was behaving outside her scheme with other man but still I was unsure when too much was too much in neglecting.
I even toke her to club once (night time) and managed to play with her nipples while she was stroking my c0ck but couldnt go further.

If I were to meet her in early afternoon she would have had her confirmation of worth and downgraded me to average svcker, this reason had a huge weight in my decision as much as my stuff to do and relax and get fresh.