Need your opinion on this

[Macki]

It means it's natural for a girl to try to control the frame. Post here if you have moved from the message realm to the physical one

I asked you something totally different.. If I play hot-cold, when I go hot, wouldn't that make her go cold? Looking forward to an answer..

PVF, I cannot go to her town (or she come to mine) just like that. At least I don't think we can. In two months we will meet, got a better idea?

 

[pvf94]

I asked you something totally different.. If I play hot-cold, when I go hot, wouldn't that make her go cold? Looking forward to an answer..

PVF, I cannot go to her town (or she come to mine) just like that. At least I don't think we can. In two months we will meet, got a better idea?

And why not, is it that far apart?

 

[Kailex]

So you guys just can't meet... and you only talk through the internet... remind me again how this is not "internet love"?

TWO MONTHS?

I'm betting SHE imposed that timeline. There's NO way in hell that YOU said: Alright, let's wait TWO months.

Seriously?

I really hope you are going out with other girls as well, because if not, that could very well be two months of WASTED time.

 

[Macki]

Am I speaking to myself? You (PVF) tell me to not start a conversation with her and make me go to another town just for her? What kind of an impression would that leave, nothing connected to being controlled, right?

Kailex, it was not, as I said 5 times, imposed by any of us.

 

[Kailex]

If it's not imposed, then why is there a deadline?

That's what I don't understand.
SOMEONE said two months.

 

[Macki]

It's a school excursion. The only way to *normally* meet people from the same school - another town. Although she's asked me to come to her town a million times, I can't go just like that, so we've been looking forward to that excursion for to meet. Understood now?

 

[Kailex]

I'm beginning to understand.
Now if she's asked you a million times... WHY can't you go again?

I'm asking, because I'm sure myself and others here are curious about what is holding you back.

 

[Macki]

I'm beginning to understand.
Now if she's asked you a million times... WHY can't you go again?

I'm asking, because I'm sure myself and others here are curious about what is holding you back.

Well.. going like that to another city where you have nobody except for that girl seems to be a little obvious.. it makes no sense to act cold and in the same time travel 200 km for her.. Other way I wouldn't mind to go..

 

[pvf94]

I gave you sound advice, I didn't realize it was THAT far of a distance. I thought maybe 50 miles tops lol.

I've never done long distance relationships, so I will not give any input on that one. As it will just be my opinion/thoughts rather then experience.

Good luck though with whatever you end up doing. (some of my advice is still applicable when you hang)

 

[Macki]

I gave you sound advice, I didn't realize it was THAT far of a distance. I thought maybe 50 miles tops lol.

I've never done long distance relationships, so I will not give any input on that one. As it will just be my opinion/thoughts rather then experience.

Good luck though with whatever you end up doing. (some of my advice is still applicable when you hang)

It is, getting to the hanging thing is harder

Thank you

 

[tafakna]

It's a school excursion. The only way to *normally* meet people from the same school - another town. Although she's asked me to come to her town a million times, I can't go just like that, so we've been looking forward to that excursion for to meet. Understood now?

You're doing fine so far and there's enough noise on this thread to make you confused (pvf94 post was right on).

Hot and cold doesn't mean treating her poorly, it just means to be aloof once in a while. Talk to her a few times and then let a few days go by without contacting. I'm not saying anything about NC, just be unpredictable and leave her wondering where you stand, what your intentions are.

The opposite happens, when you go cold a bit, she will pursue you more. It's just to get her off the shell that sometimes people use in the beginning of relationships.

Eventually when her confidence is shaken and this goes for a while, she'll break down and want to talk about taking to the next step. If you sense this then it's time to move to confront her resistant behavior...

 

[AMDG]

If I play hot-cold, when I go hot, wouldn't that make her go cold?

Not at all, if she's interested. In fact you may start a very hot chain reaction in that case