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I found this site towards the end of last school year. I spent my time over the summer getting in better shape, paying off debt, and reading through the site. I'm 22 and a senior in college. I was pumped and ready for school to start, feeling more confident than i ever have before. I lost 15 pounds, started wearing polos instead of band t-shirts, got contacts, fixed my posture, started making eye contact with people.

I'm now a week into school and feeling a little disappointed. I went to parties the last 2 nights mostly made up of the basketball team and wrestling team here at school. I go to a small college. Now most of the guys there were acting like complete jackasses and alot had their hair shaved in different shapes b/c of initation week for sports or whatever. Its frustrating watching the guys on the team get the girls so easy, in many cases the girls would come up to the new freshmen on the team and tell them how hot they were and that they should go to the back room. Almost all the guys on the wrestling team had so much skoal in their lip they couldn't even talk to the girl but the women would sit there all starry eyed.

I was pretty confident at first and would approach girls but they either just all together give me the cold shoulder or would say a few words then turn around and race off to talk to the new recruits. One even asked me "who the fukk are you!" I know its all a numbers game and i guess i didn't plan on getting laid the first week of school but i was expecting to at least get some attention from women, or something to give me a little boost.

even walking around campus i have a hard time making eye contact. Then this week i just found out that my girlfriend from last year was cheating on me when we were going out with 2 guys, which really shouldn't matter right now i know, but all the little shyt is starting to add up. I'm starting to feel like i'm in high school again. i beginning to wonder if i give out a bad vibe or something. i'm just feeling a little frustrated right now and need to vent.
 

Matt Rogers

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Hi toast. Hate to break it to you, but at college girls like status just as much as they did in high school. If you are on a first team for football or wrestling girls are all over you. At parties, unless you are very good looking or on a team then you are never going to pull the real hotties. Plus girls can be real *****es at parties.

I suggest you concentrate more on clubs and societies (co-ed sports are really good!) and give your personality a chance to shine and reel in the chicks. Get a job on college-all your co-workers will be hot chicks (well perhaps a few guys as well) Plus you are more likely to meet a better class of chick. Hottest girl I ever knew at college (Julia Roberts lookalike only slimmer and with longer legs) volunteered, played tennis, and rowed. There is no way I would have met her in the club scene-and if I hadn't had a major bout of insecurity I would have probably got together with her.

Relax. GOod thing about college is there are so many people that if you screw up with one person, chances are no-one will know or care.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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toast, what matt rogers said is correct, but you could also have a bad game plan and be doing it all wrong, i do not know what you did so i am in so position to judge, but you should reveiw your tactics, possibly even post them here then we can tell you if we think what you did was sound.

hope iv been a help
 
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