Hi guys... I need some quick dating advice on a certain situation...
So, I met this chick last Wednesday.. Internet first date... She was unusual in that she was much better lokoing than her picture, and I figured at the time that she was out of my league and just have fun with it. Well, we ended up making out in the parking lot, so it didn't turn out that bad... She wanted to see me again this weekend. Sunday night was the only night good for me, so I said I'd call her and we'd work out the details. Cool! She was so *skinny* and hot.. very cool! The big problem is that I like her.. which, I know can pull an donjuan back into niceguy mode, although I'm aware of this and have been fighting hard not to do so...
Called her Thursday, perhaps too early.... See, I've been kindof in a groove lately with chicks, and so I've been forgetting the rules and doing what I feel comfortable with... it's been working so far, and I felt comfortable calling her Thursday. Talked for awhile... had fun... made plans for Sunday, told her I'd get back to her with the details... no problem... everything cool...
Then I made a fatal flaw, I called on Friday... I knew she was out, but only realized it while the phone was ringing... it was her cell phone, so it would be obvious that I called... not cool... she didn't answer, and I didn't leave a message... Once I hung up the phone, I realized that I called 2 days in a row! not good!
Well, I still needed to get the details to her about Sunday... I was hopng she'd call back on Saturday, so then I wouldn't look like a nice guy calling her again... but she didn't, and I had to go out, and I didn't know what to do... so, I reluctantly called again. She didn't answer. I left a message telling her the details and to call me back when she got a chance to confirm. My gut feeling wasn't too good at this point....
So, she called back today, but I wasn't home, left a message, saying that she had to cancel, and that I should call her back so she could explain. Game over. So, since I figured I had nothing to lose at this point, I did call back (give her that 1% chance to possibly reschedule), no answer on her cell phone of course, didn't leave a message. I think I've got the hint.
So, I know I'm 99% dead in the water now, but how to close this well as an IM... my thoughts:
Plan A: I fhse checks her cell phone fro missed calls, she should know that I called today... she can call back if she wants anything more to do with me... don't contact her again...
Plan B: Since it's probaby dead, call again to force her to confess openly, and if she refuses to answer the phone again, just leave a message stating what's in plan C.
Plan C: Send her an email saying I got her message, and she can let me know if (or should I saw when) she wants to reschedule and leave it at that.
Plan D: None of the above--fill in the blank with your expert suggestions.
This only sucks because I actually like her, and 'cos things looked so good at first... she was so into making out on Wednesday... I guess that was my fatal flaw, liking her... I'm so used to being with chicks that I only mildly interest in, this was a bit of a shock to my system....
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I just don't want to look like a chump... at the same time, this isn't high school anymore.. we're both over 30... she might deserve the benefit of the doubt... just how to do it without looking like an idiot.. how do I best close this one out!
Thanks,
Mike
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So, I met this chick last Wednesday.. Internet first date... She was unusual in that she was much better lokoing than her picture, and I figured at the time that she was out of my league and just have fun with it. Well, we ended up making out in the parking lot, so it didn't turn out that bad... She wanted to see me again this weekend. Sunday night was the only night good for me, so I said I'd call her and we'd work out the details. Cool! She was so *skinny* and hot.. very cool! The big problem is that I like her.. which, I know can pull an donjuan back into niceguy mode, although I'm aware of this and have been fighting hard not to do so...
Called her Thursday, perhaps too early.... See, I've been kindof in a groove lately with chicks, and so I've been forgetting the rules and doing what I feel comfortable with... it's been working so far, and I felt comfortable calling her Thursday. Talked for awhile... had fun... made plans for Sunday, told her I'd get back to her with the details... no problem... everything cool...
Then I made a fatal flaw, I called on Friday... I knew she was out, but only realized it while the phone was ringing... it was her cell phone, so it would be obvious that I called... not cool... she didn't answer, and I didn't leave a message... Once I hung up the phone, I realized that I called 2 days in a row! not good!
Well, I still needed to get the details to her about Sunday... I was hopng she'd call back on Saturday, so then I wouldn't look like a nice guy calling her again... but she didn't, and I had to go out, and I didn't know what to do... so, I reluctantly called again. She didn't answer. I left a message telling her the details and to call me back when she got a chance to confirm. My gut feeling wasn't too good at this point....
So, she called back today, but I wasn't home, left a message, saying that she had to cancel, and that I should call her back so she could explain. Game over. So, since I figured I had nothing to lose at this point, I did call back (give her that 1% chance to possibly reschedule), no answer on her cell phone of course, didn't leave a message. I think I've got the hint.
So, I know I'm 99% dead in the water now, but how to close this well as an IM... my thoughts:
Plan A: I fhse checks her cell phone fro missed calls, she should know that I called today... she can call back if she wants anything more to do with me... don't contact her again...
Plan B: Since it's probaby dead, call again to force her to confess openly, and if she refuses to answer the phone again, just leave a message stating what's in plan C.
Plan C: Send her an email saying I got her message, and she can let me know if (or should I saw when) she wants to reschedule and leave it at that.
Plan D: None of the above--fill in the blank with your expert suggestions.
This only sucks because I actually like her, and 'cos things looked so good at first... she was so into making out on Wednesday... I guess that was my fatal flaw, liking her... I'm so used to being with chicks that I only mildly interest in, this was a bit of a shock to my system....
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I just don't want to look like a chump... at the same time, this isn't high school anymore.. we're both over 30... she might deserve the benefit of the doubt... just how to do it without looking like an idiot.. how do I best close this one out!
Thanks,
Mike
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