need some help here

how to win the scared girl?

  • Best friend that likes me but is scared

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  • we have tried dating and its been great

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  • she needs space after 1 week

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  • now she says she doesnt like me but iknow thats alie

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chugmust72

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Well first off hey all u ppl. Basically my situation is this. Ive known this girl for seven years and have been in love with her ever since. we have grown up together through school and now we are both college students.

She went away for 5 months and talked to me everyday...getting me quite a cell# bill....anyway she says she wants a relationship and to see how we do, right?(which we have always liked each other alot) Which therefor she tells me im a great guy, supposedly the perfect guy.

Back to the subject. She gets here right. I get her at the airport and everything is so cool, we hug and kiss hello. The week goes on and we go hiking, camping, and movies, and also talking. She says that things are going better than she expected.

Now she stayed the night 3 nights ago and everything is cool. we've kinda moved fast,but i prbly think thats cuz of knowing each other for so long,right? We havnt gone anywhere sexual. just making out, cuddling and the typical pretty much.

Anyway up to the present date,i havent seen her face in 3 days. I hear that she is scared, she brings up crap that has nothing todo with what "we" are. Now she doesnt think things will work out and that she doesnt know if she likes me anymore,or in which way.

Shes done this to me before,but i just cant help loving her and she hurts me all the time. I leave for the army in 3 months, but i told her iwouldnt go as long as we can be official and be together. I cant describe the pain but im sure some of u know. I dont know what to do and she tells me not to worry and yet it seems to get worse and worse fromwhen she said that.

Im thinking about the sayn nice guys finish last, but i cant be to mean to her, u know? Tommorrow we are gonna go hang out and have a talk and im so scared icould crap lol. Also shes even mentioned one day we'll get married and yet this happens. I can respect space...but somuch? and she leaves on tuesday? It is so much frustration and i can barely bear it.

She knows i love her, but shes scared and icant see why at all. maybe shes afraid that she'll hurt me, a little late. or that she wont like me which she kinda stated, but i think it has something to do with her friends, or other guys that im not to aware of, iknow she went totalk to a guy she was dating to tell him that we are together the other day, but now idont think that happened...

How should i approach this you guys? and what should i do?

Thanks and i hope toget some feedback,it would mean alot

Josh
 

chugmust72

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same

Also when im around other girls she gets jealous, dont know if i mentioned that. And pretty much i am in the hardest situation in dealing with that she is moving back to her state in 3 days. but will be back in mid july to drive her car from (alaska) where we are now.

I dont know if im gna go or what that will do to my feelings or hers. Any one have any suggestions on how to approach this, i am totally stumped and it would mean alot.

Josh
 

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yikes man..#1 you have to get realistic about this..you guys arent near each other..and you are going away..maybe she fears she will fall for you..KNOWING that she wont be able to see you in the future.

Stop telling her how much you love her and stop hinting at relationships..I notice this makes women feel trapped..and they pull away...if things are going good..let nature take its course..and you guys can be a couple.

But lay off her about the "getting together" stuff..you are moving way too fast for her..and she isnt as sure/eager as you are.

Stop over-analyzing the situation and forcing it to work.

good luck.
 

chugmust72

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heres what happened

basically we had a 2 day talk. and well she sees me as her brother and wants to be friends, the friend thing...sigh. it really breaks my heart and i dont really know what to do. now she likes this guy she claimed they had a thing and now she hurt him andme but wants him. I just dont get the your such a great guy and i like you, then but....

does anyone have any advice on this matter,im pretty sad and dont know.


Josh
 
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