Need some advice

[Yuurei]

Basically, I'm having some trouble figuring out what to do here.

I'm at uni and one of my flatmates is long term relationship material, I think it's obvious we like each other but nothing is ever certain.

Reading your advice and the articles on this site always gives me a boost in confidence and helps me grow a pair and punch the nice guy in me in the face.

Considering we live together I'm worried about being too bold and ruining a good living arrangement. I feel like that's a ***** attitude and I don't want to always wonder if I should have manned the **** up.

What are your thoughts on this? Know any first moves I can try? Any words to snap me out of this annoying situation?

Please don't hesitate to be brutal haha, I probably need it hah.

 

[Credos]

Getting GFs who live in your flat has pretty much the same disadvantages of dating a girl from the same social circle.

They know what you do cause they got a close eye on you, so if you're a boring guy she'll know/see. If you got alot of hobbies then she'll know that too (so if you're an active guy that shouldn't cause you worries.).

Second problem:
You'll probebly see her everyday, meaning that one of you could get bored of the other fast, cause you see each other too much. When I date new people I prefer to see each other once or twice a week. That way things stay refreshing and it's much harder to get bored of each other. Also it gives both of you the gift of missing each other, something friends/flatmates mostly don't have...

Third problem:
Should you guys break up, you're stuck with each other. Removing all contact with a person and spinning new plates has for me alwayse been the best cure. Something very hard to do with flatmates/friends.



So my advice, if you've thought about what I said and you're still really into this girl, just ask her out, go drink something togheter in a local pub or do something fun. If it works out good for you, you'll have a GF, if it doesn't, try not to get into fights... I tend to avoid these situations but sometimes things happen, to most important thing is to keep getting along even if things don't work out. Considering you'll have to look at each others face for a while...

 

[thevilittletroll]

alcohol......here's the picture you want to paint. after one long week of school or work you feel like just staying home and having a few ****tails to unwind and that she should join you. break out the liquor and pour a bunch of shots down her throat. blast some good music that you both like, dance around with her. all in all just have a good time partying with the 2 of you. get her s.hit faced drunk and play the part of you being really drunk too. have a very sexual conversation and escalate kino too. start with playful kino, and move it to a sexual level later. kiss her, then close the deal. if things are weird for her the next day you can just act like you dont remember or cause you were really drunk. either way you get to hit it but will also find out if she is truly LTR material.