need some advice with ex-boyfriend-updated

[churchwin77]

I need some advice on what to do with a girlfriend who wants to see an ex-boyfriend.

Heres the whole story its very long so bare with me and ill admit im still learning about relationships and what not so say what i need to hear good or bad.

I've been dating this girl for about two months that I have known from work for about an year now. Last thursday I was at her house and before I left she said she wasnt going to work on friday so i was like you better go. Well 1130 rolled around she wasnt there so i called her up and left a voicemail joking around saying I see how it is dont answer your own boyfriends call. Well leaving work friday it was pouring down rain I say call me tomorrow and we will hang out well she never called so 430pm rolls around I call her she doesnt pick up she calls back at 6 or so saying she was talking long distance to a friend and then said she had plans with one of her friends so I say ok thats cool I'll call you tomorrow. Well some **** went down and I didnt have a chance to call her. So monday comes around we are at work and I was hey whats wrong she said shes irriated and i ask at who and she goes you and I was like what for she mentioned my voicemail saying i was being mean or whatever and then said i was being a d*ck saturday on the phone too then i tried to reassure her that I wasnt being a d*ck i was just joking around. Well she still seemed upset about it but she tells me its not that well long story short i find out she talked to her ex boyfriend that she had went out with her senior year for about six months well he left for the army and it pretty much ended there well he calls her 2 or 3 weeks ago and is like lets get together and from what i take he never made an attempt to call her in those two years. So I'm like well you know you need to choose what ur gonna do im not gonna stick around for u to just leave me when he comes back in june so we go about that and she starts crying and hugging me and everything saying its unfair to me so i just pretty much said u know im not gonna put up with this sh*t i need to know what ur gonna do. shes like i dont know i like you both very much thats why i didnt wanna tell u earlier cuz i didnt want u to get hurt or anything cuz i really do care about you then i was like well what were u gonna do wait around till then see him and dump shes like no id never do that. so we pretty much small talked and i let her cry it out without tryin to say too much...but heres where i need to know if i screwed up i caller her last night sayin u know ive thought this over i still wanna hang out with you i wanna be there for you let u know that i do care but on the other hand i have to lookout for myself also but when this time comes in june if ur gonna see this guy u need to let me know dont go behind my back and shes like id never do that. then shes says I honestly do care about you. I've liked you ever since i started working and you may not know it but I'm very pick when it comes to choosing boyfriends. so tonight we are supposed to hang out as planned before but i dont know how to go about it.

so any advice good or bad or tips anything would be truly appreciated cuz i do like this girl and wanna work things out.

 

[MindOverMatter]

sorry, i didn't catch it...how do you know she wants to see her ex?

 

[frivolousz21]

since im leaving after today..ill be brutally honest with you!


you need to say bye...and wish her good luck....and I CAN PROMISE YOU 1000 PERCENT..IF SOME MIRACLE OF GOD DOENST TRAKE PLACE WITH HER AND THAT GUY..

SHE WILL COME BACK TO YOU.

AT THIS POINT, uve already meet new women..and dont care!

good luck

 

[churchwin77]

bump

 

[Pimp-sicle]

First of all your getting all bent out of shape for nothing...yet!! Yes I wouldn't be very happy if my girl was talking to her ex behind my back, especially knowing that he's coming into town in a few weeks. But if you trust her, which you should if your two are dating then you really shouldn't have anything to worry about. If she says she's going to hang out with him, then I'd break up with her. Because even though you don't know if she'll cheat on you with him, she'll already admitted to liking "both" of you. If a girl is completely happy in her relationship, nothing should be able to stray her attention else where. You 2 have only been together for 2 months. That's not that long and I'm sure she likes you but no one can develop true deep emotional feelings for someone in that short of a time frame.

In your life you'll meet hundreds and hundreds of girls. You'll have tons of gf's, and only ONE girl will be with you for the rest of your life. Enjoy your youth and don't stress over this bullshyt. Now I know you like her "a lot", so relax and see what happens.



PIMP

 

[churchwin77]

Yes this is the stuff i exactly need to hear. I decided to stay with her for now but not to make it out to be anything serious as of yet. I'll just wait and see what happens when this time comes June. And from what my friend is saying theres a chick up at the baseball diamonds that likes me so im gonna have to check that out too. But once again thanks...and if anyone might have some good lines or something like that, for me to explain to her how i think its disrespectful and that she should wanna be with me feel free to respond.