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MrVain

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Hey all

I haven't been on this website for about 2 years, in fact last time i logged in was 11-10-07!

Let me say firstly, its never a bad thing to be back here, good to see this site is still creating DJ's :)

I was never a big poster in my time here but a very big reader and after a couple years I may have lost some game due to having a LTR.

So I'm out, after being spoonfed, I'm out on my arse and need to fend for myself. What would a DJ do i asked? Started gaming ofcourse. Well kind of.

Anyway here is my story and I need some opinions cause at the moment it's driving me insane.

So i cold approach this girl, get her number. Sweet all good.

I call she doesn't pickup, msgs back yadda yadda yadda, i msg back and set up a date.

First Date
Just getting to know her, i took her out to a cafe/bistro at night, now I'll admit i was intimidated by her so i screwed up hard and didn't have the balls to go in for the kiss at the end of the night or at anytime throughout the date.

Right now I'm thinking oh well, just getting back into it, you'll do better with the next one. Problem: I enjoyed spending time with her, HEAPS.
Solution: **** IT! Called her and set up another date, worst case scenario she LJBF me and I know i gave it everything

Second Date
Was good, she's two younger than me and has never driven a car so i took her out somewhere nice and spacious, just us two and convinced her to try drive, was a great night, Kino the whole time, went in for the kiss, bang rejected. Thinking to myself yeah...thats what happens when you hesitate on the first date she probably going to give me the friends line.

Next thing she says is she only kisses boys shes in relationships with. I tell her i respect that it's cool.

Third Date
So I've come this far, I set up another date. Can't remember what we did might have watched a movie I think but anyway we ended up finally hooking up. Might I add, she initated the kiss first, I asked her what happened to the whole relationship thing. She tells me shes gotten to know me.

After this date I'm thinking great, things started off slowly but surely now it's clear sailing.

**** ME was i wrong.

So we went out a couple more times after that, kissing in public, holding hands, no sex though..no damn sex.

After the last time we went out, which went well like always but now I get no replies to msgs. Like two weeks, she hasn't text or called. I bit the bullet and called her and she answered- always good. Said "hey Abby, how've you been" the usual, she asks who's calling :| at that point i was a little ahh wtf? Abby: Ohhh is this MrVain?? Sorry I've switched phones and no numbers have been saved. I obviously said yeah..so we get into a lil convo how you been this that, I cut to the chase, want to see her, organize to meet her, shes all for it and says she'll msg me to confirm.

So..No msg to confirm, I'm just confused at this point.

Anyway wait a couple of days and just msg to see what happened. No reply to that either.

Shes the sweetest girl I've ever met and we clicked, had fun, enjoyed ourselves on all our dates so I have no idea what to make of it.

I don't think I was needy at all, I mean 3 Week time span, 2 msgs 1 phone call. I like to keep my options open, if i don't get a reply to a msg i wont msg for a while, should I have called more? Didn't tell her i miss her or anything after the first date, or any date but I clearly made it clear that I enjoyed spending time with her, being intimate. Just got me confused.

I seriously don't want to call again as my ego can only take so much, what do you guys think?

If you're still reading thankyou.

Cheers

Good to be back! Missed this place!

MrVain-
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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Not being there would make it difficult to say what went wrong, but some things are out of your hands. Sometimes things just don't work no matter what kind of game you have (though that should be rare).

You called her and left a voicemail or just left it at a missed call? I don't usually like when I call someone and they return my call with a text (unless they're at work or in class or something).

When someone blows me off like that, I'll usually just stop contacting them. I'm not always in the mood to put out that much effort and fight an uphill battle just to see if she's playing hard to get or is not interested.
 

MrVain

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
You called her and left a voicemail or just left it at a missed call? I don't usually like when I call someone and they return my call with a text (unless they're at work or in class or something).

When someone blows me off like that, I'll usually just stop contacting them. I'm not always in the mood to put out that much effort and fight an uphill battle just to see if she's playing hard to get or is not interested.
Just called, didn't leave a voicemail.

She's a very family orientated girl and rarely goes out and has told me she doesn't like going out to parties/clubs cause she doesn't like the sleaziness of the guys and randoms just coming to dance with her.

I'm thinking about calling her one last time but thats what i said last time- i said last chance for her but she keeps playing on my mind.

I know i can get involved with other girls easily but I am stuck with this one atm- it's not one-itis. It's just I usually get the girl i go for and now i haven't gotten her so it's something different for me :cuss:
 
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