Need Opinion - No Contact/Blackout with a twist

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So my target is a coworker. Long story short, we would constantly flirt during work and by text/phone after work. Never went out or anything because I didnt know if I should get involved with coworker, etc.... Anyway, We had a falling out because against my judgement, I would constantly buy her small little gifts, or if we ordered lunch in I would pay for hers, etc.... Very very slowly she lost interest and I startef to act like a dumbass. Finally, I ended up apologizing for nothing (stupid. I know). She said nothing was wrong and how she had noticed me being a little bit overwhelmed with work so she was giving me room and said you have done nothing wrong, etc..... and we started to have our normal conversations, etc.... for the rest of the day.

Next day was a coworkers birthday and she kept trying to embarrass me in front of other coworkers and I just let it roll off of me and I laughed about it.

The following day she was acting extremely indifferent. I called her after work and she didn't pickup. Then she texted me "I'm on a call. Ill let you know if I will call you". Saw her the next day and said to her jokingly "that's a long phone call" because I figured she mistyped the text. She repeated I told you I would let you know if I will call you back. This seemed extremely disrespectful so I had to immediately implement no contact. This was 20 days ago today. The only contact we've had was two email exchanges strictly work related, and one day last week as we were walking past eachother she tured and said Good Morning to which I just kept walking and pretended like I thought she was talking with someone behind me. Meanwhile, she kept up with all of my instagram stories, etc... however since NC I stopped viewing hers fully.

I was going to make first contact today by asking her for a favor, etc.... since today its going to be a rare day of just the two of us in the office, however two nights ago (Saturday), out of nowhere, she stopped following me and blocked me from instagram.

Should I still move forward with my plan of first contact considering she unfollowed me and blocked me or should I give it more time?

Do you think her breaking the silence and saying good mmorning last week and blocking/unfollowing is a test to see a reaction and if I'll break or is she done?

I will appreciate your input and opinion.
 

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So my target is a coworker. Long story short, we would constantly flirt during work and by text/phone after work. Never went out or anything because I didnt know if I should get involved with coworker, etc.... Anyway, We had a falling out because against my judgement, I would constantly buy her small little gifts, or if we ordered lunch in I would pay for hers, etc.... Very very slowly she lost interest and I startef to act like a dumbass. Finally, I ended up apologizing for nothing (stupid. I know). She said nothing was wrong and how she had noticed me being a little bit overwhelmed with work so she was giving me room and said you have done nothing wrong, etc..... and we started to have our normal conversations, etc.... for the rest of the day.

Next day was a coworkers birthday and she kept trying to embarrass me in front of other coworkers and I just let it roll off of me and I laughed about it.

The following day she was acting extremely indifferent. I called her after work and she didn't pickup. Then she texted me "I'm on a call. Ill let you know if I will call you". Saw her the next day and said to her jokingly "that's a long phone call" because I figured she mistyped the text. She repeated I told you I would let you know if I will call you back. This seemed extremely disrespectful so I had to immediately implement no contact. This was 20 days ago today. The only contact we've had was two email exchanges strictly work related, and one day last week as we were walking past eachother she tured and said Good Morning to which I just kept walking and pretended like I thought she was talking with someone behind me. Meanwhile, she kept up with all of my instagram stories, etc... however since NC I stopped viewing hers fully.

I was going to make first contact today by asking her for a favor, etc.... since today its going to be a rare day of just the two of us in the office, however two nights ago (Saturday), out of nowhere, she stopped following me and blocked me from instagram.

Should I still move forward with my plan of first contact considering she unfollowed me and blocked me or should I give it more time?

Do you think her breaking the silence and saying good mmorning last week and blocking/unfollowing is a test to see a reaction and if I'll break or is she done?

I will appreciate your input and opinion.
Not sure if you are joking or you are trolling with this post. I'm truly trying to understand your self-awareness and at what level you are.

Anyway, i will assume that you have no common sense built inside your brain.

Here is your line: "I would constantly buy her small little gifts" gifts? for what? who is she to you to buy her constantly gifts?

Nice beta move. Never do that again ever. Even with your girlfriends, you buy gifts measured and on special occasions. You have not even gone out with her, she is nothing to you and you buy her gifts. Good luck scaling your game with that kind of mindset.

Another one: "Saw her the next day and said to her jokingly "that's a long phone call"

So she never called you back and you mentioned that to show more weakness that you are butthurt that she never called? Again never do that again. If a woman never calls you back you never contact her again period. One chance is all she gets.

Lastly, She blocked you on Instagram and you want to contact her? Again. I understand you have no idea what you are doing.

Here is a simple solution for you:

Never contact her again in your life as long as you live on this planet.

If she initiates contact don't buy her more gifts, don't mention anything about her blocking you on Instagram. Ignore her at work. She does not exist for you. She is dead in a sense.

Move on, if she reaches out and her period runs over of her blocking you, you can ask her to your place directly just for banging nothing else.

Tell her to brink a bottle of wine.

Time to man up and stop acting like a woman.
 

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Sounds like a whole lotta nothing blown up into something

a good example of why I did a thread on mixed signals from women

She's chewed you up and spat you out , you're just a playtoy to her

Suck up what little dignity you have left and move on to the next
 
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