Hello sosuave, im a long time reader for the past couple years. I Just never registered. Ive had major success with all the tips while I was single here. Now that im in a LTR i have come across a situation that I do not know what to do, im shattered.
This past fall I reunited with my ex. I had broke it off at the beginning, and when i we got back together i set everything in my terms. Well everything went great, for the next few months. Later to come across an accidental pregnancy. Well, its been a roller coaster after that, and before anyone goes on the its" her hormones" tangent, i dont think so.
While most arguments we have come across she always uses the im leaving line, and of course, i think about my future son, and tell her to "lets just talk it through," sometimes its the "im spending the night at my dads" line, which is truly unfair because i do not leave and spend the night else where during a fight. After a fight or two like this where she uses this line, we vowed never to do it, or wed end the relationship.
Before the rocky uphill, i found myself requesting affection, and getting upset over it, I mentioned it here and there, and she would be sweet/nice/sexual for up to two days, thats it. I dont want to come off as a white knight and thats how i feel about requesting affection. Let just say I like to bo treated fairly, I usually give out affection when she does something good for me, and in plentitude to establish what i like, and it works.
This past fight was not even about me or her cheating or talking to someone else. It was something stupid, she stormed out the door to work. In which i said, if you leave im done. She looked backed and hesitated, and left to work. After that i put some distance no contact for the whole day. Night time comes around 1045pm shes off by 7, and no call or text. Remind you she is pregnant. Well, im a little worried, i call her coworkers and they dont know anything, i call hospital. Well i had to call the sister thats two states over to contact her, and thats when she said "Im at my dads, dont tell him where i am at."
So i get ahold of dads number, and called twice, and he ignored both my calls. Found quite disrespectful as we are two grown men that respect each other.
So here i am Sosuave, i have not heard from her. She ignored all my calls, and messages. i know she has to come home soon because her things are here.
But what do I do or say or plan it out from here? I really want to work it out for the baby, but i dont want it at the expense of my manhood. I said itd be the last time, wed walk out on each other.
I would appreciate all your help, and a long term reader. I would also like to donate to the website if possible. Thank you.
This past fall I reunited with my ex. I had broke it off at the beginning, and when i we got back together i set everything in my terms. Well everything went great, for the next few months. Later to come across an accidental pregnancy. Well, its been a roller coaster after that, and before anyone goes on the its" her hormones" tangent, i dont think so.
While most arguments we have come across she always uses the im leaving line, and of course, i think about my future son, and tell her to "lets just talk it through," sometimes its the "im spending the night at my dads" line, which is truly unfair because i do not leave and spend the night else where during a fight. After a fight or two like this where she uses this line, we vowed never to do it, or wed end the relationship.
Before the rocky uphill, i found myself requesting affection, and getting upset over it, I mentioned it here and there, and she would be sweet/nice/sexual for up to two days, thats it. I dont want to come off as a white knight and thats how i feel about requesting affection. Let just say I like to bo treated fairly, I usually give out affection when she does something good for me, and in plentitude to establish what i like, and it works.
This past fight was not even about me or her cheating or talking to someone else. It was something stupid, she stormed out the door to work. In which i said, if you leave im done. She looked backed and hesitated, and left to work. After that i put some distance no contact for the whole day. Night time comes around 1045pm shes off by 7, and no call or text. Remind you she is pregnant. Well, im a little worried, i call her coworkers and they dont know anything, i call hospital. Well i had to call the sister thats two states over to contact her, and thats when she said "Im at my dads, dont tell him where i am at."
So i get ahold of dads number, and called twice, and he ignored both my calls. Found quite disrespectful as we are two grown men that respect each other.
So here i am Sosuave, i have not heard from her. She ignored all my calls, and messages. i know she has to come home soon because her things are here.
But what do I do or say or plan it out from here? I really want to work it out for the baby, but i dont want it at the expense of my manhood. I said itd be the last time, wed walk out on each other.
I would appreciate all your help, and a long term reader. I would also like to donate to the website if possible. Thank you.
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