I haven’t been here for a while. I have been in a couple of LTRs but back in a rut again. I have this situation with a chic I met a little over a month ago at a club. We danced and had a great time. It seem like she couldn’t stop grinding up on me the whole nite.. I set up a miniature golf/lasertag date with her a few days later. We had fun and drank afterwards then she had to leave for a prior engagement with her friends. She told me about this before I set up the date.
She called me about a week later. I then set up a date with her for that following Friday. She called on the day of the date about 30 minutes before we were supposed to meet up and claimed that her babysitter for her 6-year-old son never showed up so she couldn’t leave but asked for an alternative day. I set one up for the Tuesday of the following week.
We went to check out a movie I had been wanting to see. When she saw me, she initiated a hug and we went on to enjoy the movie and poked fun at it and laughed. I walked her to her car afterwards, gave her a hug and told her I would call her. She said “yeah, call me!”
I didn’t call her but she called me about 1 week later. I set up another date. I called her early in the day of the date but She didn’t return the call until about 1 hour before we were supposed to meet up claiming that her mother couldn’t watch her son. She then asked if we could go out Sunday instead. I sat on the phone for a few seconds in silence trying to decide how to handle this one. She then asked “do you have to work or anything?” I said “no, but if I decide to meet up with you Sunday you are going to have to keep the date.” She then apologized again and said that she would. I said all of this in a calm voice.
She called me up on Saturday, one day before the scheduled date, and left a voicemail saying that she could meet up with me on this day if I was open. I told her that I wasn’t able to and couldn’t meet up with her Sunday either. I did this because after reflecting on the last cancellation, I decided to “next” her but I didn’t let her know that. She said “now, it’s you whose cancelling.”
I said “yeah.....” and just ended it like that I then told her I would call her the next day to let her know if I would be open that week. I didn’t but she called me a couple of days later. I then gave her the benefit of the doubt and set up another date. I called her today to confirm and she agreed that she would still be able to meet up because her son would be over his father’s house. Since she was driving, I told her to just call me back when she got home or something so she could write down the directions to my house. Well, it’s late and I realized that she didn’t call. I am now anticipating another cancellation for obvious reasons.
I just want to know how would you guys handle this potential cancellation? If she cancels this time, I swear, this will be the last but would you guys tell her about herself or just allow her to leave the cancellation on the voicemail and just never call or answer the phone again?
BTW, I realize all of the mistakes I made above so I don’t want you to waste your precious keyboard strokes telling me things like “you should have nexted her a long time ago.” I haven’t had sex in 6 months so I wanted to try and maneuver this one into the sack eventually. I just want some advice on how to handle this one.
She called me about a week later. I then set up a date with her for that following Friday. She called on the day of the date about 30 minutes before we were supposed to meet up and claimed that her babysitter for her 6-year-old son never showed up so she couldn’t leave but asked for an alternative day. I set one up for the Tuesday of the following week.
We went to check out a movie I had been wanting to see. When she saw me, she initiated a hug and we went on to enjoy the movie and poked fun at it and laughed. I walked her to her car afterwards, gave her a hug and told her I would call her. She said “yeah, call me!”
I didn’t call her but she called me about 1 week later. I set up another date. I called her early in the day of the date but She didn’t return the call until about 1 hour before we were supposed to meet up claiming that her mother couldn’t watch her son. She then asked if we could go out Sunday instead. I sat on the phone for a few seconds in silence trying to decide how to handle this one. She then asked “do you have to work or anything?” I said “no, but if I decide to meet up with you Sunday you are going to have to keep the date.” She then apologized again and said that she would. I said all of this in a calm voice.
She called me up on Saturday, one day before the scheduled date, and left a voicemail saying that she could meet up with me on this day if I was open. I told her that I wasn’t able to and couldn’t meet up with her Sunday either. I did this because after reflecting on the last cancellation, I decided to “next” her but I didn’t let her know that. She said “now, it’s you whose cancelling.”
I said “yeah.....” and just ended it like that I then told her I would call her the next day to let her know if I would be open that week. I didn’t but she called me a couple of days later. I then gave her the benefit of the doubt and set up another date. I called her today to confirm and she agreed that she would still be able to meet up because her son would be over his father’s house. Since she was driving, I told her to just call me back when she got home or something so she could write down the directions to my house. Well, it’s late and I realized that she didn’t call. I am now anticipating another cancellation for obvious reasons.
I just want to know how would you guys handle this potential cancellation? If she cancels this time, I swear, this will be the last but would you guys tell her about herself or just allow her to leave the cancellation on the voicemail and just never call or answer the phone again?
BTW, I realize all of the mistakes I made above so I don’t want you to waste your precious keyboard strokes telling me things like “you should have nexted her a long time ago.” I haven’t had sex in 6 months so I wanted to try and maneuver this one into the sack eventually. I just want some advice on how to handle this one.
