Need help guys

[Digidako]

i'm in need of some advice.
I've been dating a girl for 7 months and I've been doing some things wrong.
What I have done wrong:

- Been a little too available
- I hardly ever say no
- I've shown insecurity
- I've folded when she gets *****y, just to keep the peace


This past week I came across the "16 commandments of poon"(heartiste .wordpress .com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon) and it made me realize how much of a beta ***** i've been.
Now that i'm following these, and taking care of my life before hers, she's been **** testing the f*** out of me. Last night she started messaging my best friend on FB with the hopes that he would tell me and i'll get pissed. He did tell me, and even he knew that she has ulterior motives.

I was super busy yesterday and didn't really give her much attention, I usually text her 24/7, but after realizing i've been shooting myself in the foot I kind of went cold. Her and I are going to the bar tonight, and yesterday she texted me "babe, I dont think you're going to approve with what i'm going to wear tomorrow night, my boobs look huge"... As soon as I saw this I knew she wanted a reaction, but rather I just responded with "I'm going to look better anyway "

I don't want to break up with her, but I also want to regain some of the ground i've lost. I've never been spineless, in the sense that I've called her out on her BS and told her when I thought she was disrespecting me. I just think she's under the impression that I need her more than she needs me, and the tables must be turned, or else I'm going have to break up with her.

 

[Maximummax]

Nice to hear that you discovered something useful for your self
I recommened reading " No More mr Nice Guy". Lets wait what other guys say

 

[Between_The_Lines]

First, understand that she has 7 months worth of evidence of one version of you, the only version of you she's familiar with. Ever seen American Beauty? Kevin Spacey's character essentially does the same thing, deciding almost overnight that he's going to kick the IDGAF attitude into fifth gear, and how does his wife respond? With hostility and contempt. Why? Because she expected him to remain exactly where he was, submissive, weak, beneath her. Given what you've told us, to some extent, this girl you've been dating likely perceives you in the same light, and for you to suddenly alpha-up out of the blue is more prone to evoke a "who the fvck does this guy think he is?!" kind of reaction than a "woah! what happened to my man? He's (now) HOT!!!" Pulling it off successfully takes either changing yourself very, very gradually or abandoning ship and starting over with a clean slate, another chick entirely.

Become more preoccupied with adopting the proper mindset than keeping the girl. If the tension becomes too great and, consequently, the resentment levels begin to rise to unmanageable proportions, break up and take the new "you" into a fresh start with a brand new girl where you don't have to worry about crawling out of a hole you unfortunately put yourself into. And speaking of the commandments, focus on the third and (especially) the last of the set.

 

[Digidako]

Great advice so far, any others want to chime in ?

 

[stevo]

I understand how you feel.

I have a plate I was with in my AFC days and when I became a DJ so she did see a 360 move.

I would cancel that bar date, make up some excuse.

Spin her hamster.

How often do you Fcuk this girl?

Next time you fcuk her, push the limit, be dominant.

Talk less. Text less. See her less. For now

You have to decide to be a DJ even if it means losing her. This is the new you she either likes it or use the door, you'd be fine regardless.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

The person who said a gradual shift is the best way to go is spot on.

When I discovered the red pill, I just disappeared. Very short responses and long wait times in between. Picture a wife and her beta male husband who is 50 pounds overweight and caters to her every demand? What will she respond more to, if obese beta "puts his foot down" one day after a dispute in the grocery store, or if he stops asking for sex altogether, drops the 50 pounds and gets a tan, all while acting like everything is normal? Now there's a hamster in high speed.

My she-devil was initially confused, but she noticed a change in attitude and I improved my look as well. It resulted in a change in her perception over time and ignited the flame for another full year before we both moved out of state.

Point of that last sentence? The relationship failed anyway.