Need help guys, she's gone cold

[BlakeM]

So I met this girl on Tinder(I know, I know). We really hit it off, talked everyday, she gave me her number. It was going great. I asked her out and we ended up seeing the new Pirates movie, she really wanted to see it so that worked out.

Anyhow she was all cuddled up on me and rubbing my chest and arm throughout the movie, we then proceeded to kiss a few times. Once the movie was over, she drove me to my car(I was parked on the other side of the mall). She parked and we talked for half an hour or so, personal stuff. She kept mentioning sex but didn't want to do it in a car with mall security driving around. She said she found me really interesting, almost mysterious, she really liked that. We kissed a bunch and it started to get passionate. But then we decided to end the night on that, and we both agreed to meet up again the next weekend.

So we're still texting and snapchatting days after this date, she would tell me she wishes I was there to cuddle, sending kissing emojis and stuff like that. So we made plans for yesterday to go out and eat, she was excited for it. Then as the days went by, all of a sudden she started to back off a little. Texts weren't as flirty, not replying as fast. At this point I had no idea what was going on, I had yet to do anything stupid(surprisingly). Everything was good it seemed. Now she's given me the cold shoulder completely, but she'll always view my stories on SC(even during the night when I would post one) so obviously she's still curious, right?

So I haven't messaged her in about two days, have not said a word about her going cold. Should I keep ignoring her and see if she comes to me, or should I go right out and ask why shes so distant all of a sudden?


Thanks in advance

 

[johnhat57]

Another guy

Unfortunately, this. The online dating game moves fast man. After a pretty attractive female friend showed me her account I was stunned. Literally dozens of messages from guys, every single day.

Chalk this one up as a lesson learned, and thankfully you didn't invest much into it.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

She's keeping an eye on you if the new guy doesn't work out. Maintain no-contact with her unless she reaches out, which is unlikely. Good job not inquiring why she went cold, that would have driven her further away.

You're best just moving on though.

 

[Glassguy]

You should've banged her at the mall in the car.

 

[dustmuffin]

WHen you were in the car at the mall you should have escalated. No talking, just making out, fingering and possible sex. You could have least gotten a blow job.

 

[bigneil]

So I met this girl ... she would tell me she wishes I was there to cuddle, sending kissing emojis and stuff like that.

I had yet to do anything stupid(surprisingly)....
So I haven't messaged her in about two days

You had yet to do anything stupid, until you sent this sappy outpouring of male emotion after a pity peck, and revealing you go spineless after 47 hours.

If you're good enough to get her, get another girl just like her to prove it (to us and her). Imagine. An insurance plan instead of getting lucky.

 

[bigneil]

So I haven't messaged her in about two days...

Does that mean it's 12:01am and you haven't texted her since 11:59pm?

 

[BlakeM]

Does that mean it's 12:01am and you haven't texted her since 11:59pm?

It was actually 12:00

 

[Tenacity]

So I met this girl on Tinder(I know, I know). We really hit it off, talked everyday, she gave me her number. It was going great. I asked her out and we ended up seeing the new Pirates movie, she really wanted to see it so that worked out.

Anyhow she was all cuddled up on me and rubbing my chest and arm throughout the movie, we then proceeded to kiss a few times. Once the movie was over, she drove me to my car(I was parked on the other side of the mall). She parked and we talked for half an hour or so, personal stuff. She kept mentioning sex but didn't want to do it in a car with mall security driving around. She said she found me really interesting, almost mysterious, she really liked that. We kissed a bunch and it started to get passionate. But then we decided to end the night on that, and we both agreed to meet up again the next weekend.

So we're still texting and snapchatting days after this date, she would tell me she wishes I was there to cuddle, sending kissing emojis and stuff like that. So we made plans for yesterday to go out and eat, she was excited for it. Then as the days went by, all of a sudden she started to back off a little. Texts weren't as flirty, not replying as fast. At this point I had no idea what was going on, I had yet to do anything stupid(surprisingly). Everything was good it seemed. Now she's given me the cold shoulder completely, but she'll always view my stories on SC(even during the night when I would post one) so obviously she's still curious, right?

So I haven't messaged her in about two days, have not said a word about her going cold. Should I keep ignoring her and see if she comes to me, or should I go right out and ask why shes so distant all of a sudden?


Thanks in advance

Bro so I read this a couple of times and now let me give you the TRUTH....by detailing every single thing you did wrong. You ready? Here goes.....

YOU DID NOTHING WRONG

This is the nature of the market beast when you are dating women from Online Dating platforms like POF, OKC, Match, Tinder, etc. Some of the women on there will routinely do this to not just you, but many guys on there, just for the fvcking fun of it.

It's almost sociopathic in a way....but the girl will literally give you something resembling the "girlfriend experience" where you have an awesome date, you kiss, you cuddle, you fvck or you damn near fvck, and afterwards you guys text about how great the time was.

Then the bytch will DISAPPEAR or flat out FALL OFF of communication.

It is nothing that you did wrong bro, you just have some women on OLD who like doing this shyt. It's fun to them.

I've had this happen TONS of times and the only time this shyt happens is with some women from OLD. This never happens with a woman that I meet off OLD. Basically non-OLD women, if you have a great date with them where you're kissing, cuddling, fvcking or damn near about to fvck......that bytch isn't going to just fall the fvck off the planet unless you do some MAJOR "fvck" shyt to make her to do.

 

[wifehunter]

Walk...

if all men did this, ladies would behave.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

You're being proper ridiculous and paranoid.

This isn't a woman thing, it's a people thing. I've done it, and I've had it done to me.

What you are actually doing is viewing the set in a feminine way. "We cuddled, and we seemed really comfortable together... we must be serious!". Then when they don't return a call it's "what a jerk!" (or sociopath/b*tch/cvnt/whatever).

Really not worth looking that much into things. It's just needs being met. If she drops off, next girl.

Important to learn to take the losses on the chin and move on without throwing a fit.

Exactly.

It's just needs being met in the moment. Doesn't mean she wanted you to marry her. Next time 1. Don't go into or leave a date thinking everything's about relationship or a marriage endgame 2. Escalate In the moment knowing it's a better chance the date is what you've learned from #1. 3. Find another girl to have fun like that with.

 

[Tenacity]

You're being proper ridiculous and paranoid.

This isn't a woman thing, it's a people thing. I've done it, and I've had it done to me.

What you are actually doing is viewing the set in a feminine way. "We cuddled, and we seemed really comfortable together... we must be serious!". Then when they don't return a call it's "what a jerk!" (or sociopath/b*tch/cvnt/whatever).

Really not worth looking that much into things. It's just needs being met. If she drops off, next girl.

Important to learn to take the losses on the chin and move on without throwing a fit.

No.....absolutely not. I've been dating OLD women and women I didn't meet on OLD, the shyt I'm describing routinely has occurred with OLD women.

Listen, for a non-OLD woman, if she goes out with Tenacity and finds his black a.ss to be "cute", and we end up kissing/cuddling/fvcking.........very rarely does this woman drop off the face of the planet the next day or throughout the week. It happens, but very rarely.

On OLD, this shyt happens with about 5 out of 10 women. Follow me now, the bytch will sit there, kiss me, cuddle, fvck or damn near fvck.......then DROP off the face of the fvcking planet throughout the week.

That's some OLD shyt, that's not normal bro.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Unfortunately, this. The online dating game moves fast man. After a pretty attractive female friend showed me her account I was stunned. Literally dozens of messages from guys, every single day.

Chalk this one up as a lesson learned, and thankfully you didn't invest much into it.

These girls online are in the whirlwind.... they are all most probably addicted to meeting new guys just as many guys are addicted to pornography these days. They are simply psychologically incapable of a proper relationship.

 

[wifehunter]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/De-ice

 

[wifehunter]

This girls online are in the whirlwind.... hey are all most probably addicted to meeting new guys just as many guys are addicted to pornography these days. They are simply psychologically incapable of a proper relationship.

Breaks my heart.

 

[lizardking82]

But then we decided to end the night on that

She decided, you obeyed cause your leader capabilities stopped there. You didn't believe you were good enough to bang her in the mall parking on a first date and that's how the situation went. Should've banged her in the car or at least made her ***.

As someone else said, she's viewing your stories because she knows this messes with your mind and she makes you think she's still curious. It's a game, dude. CHOOSE not to be part of this game or you will be played and you will deserve it.

 

[Tenacity]

If you want a relationship, stay off the internet.

Edit: I meant OLD game.

Great to see the LEGEND back

 

[nismo-4]

I'm glad da dynamically is back here! Very underrated poster, and many would be wise to listen to him.

OP, your princess is in another castle. She went cold because you're not in first place.

Just move on and delete. You're in last place. You need to come in first. Now that she knows she can have you and sees you chasing her, you're just gonna be her new fan at most. The only other thing you can be is useless to her, which is actually better. Zero beats negative 1.

Move faster next time. Unless you want to keep coming in second or last place.

Case closed.

 

[SuckItUp]

Place higher value on your time and always be escalating. When spend lots of time on snap chat tinder etc. it suggests you don't have better things to do. Unless your e game is impeccable stop texting and snapchating unless you are setting a date. The time you wasted with "cutesy" time could have been spent setting up several other dates with other women.

If a woman wants sex make sure you seal the deal. Men take what they want (no, not encouraging rape), while boys fumble around and hope they score.

 

[cityboy989]

So I met this girl on Tinder(I know, I know). We really hit it off, talked everyday, she gave me her number. It was going great. I asked her out and we ended up seeing the new Pirates movie, she really wanted to see it so that worked out.

Anyhow she was all cuddled up on me and rubbing my chest and arm throughout the movie, we then proceeded to kiss a few times. Once the movie was over, she drove me to my car(I was parked on the other side of the mall). She parked and we talked for half an hour or so, personal stuff. She kept mentioning sex but didn't want to do it in a car with mall security driving around. She said she found me really interesting, almost mysterious, she really liked that. We kissed a bunch and it started to get passionate. But then we decided to end the night on that, and we both agreed to meet up again the next weekend.

So we're still texting and snapchatting days after this date, she would tell me she wishes I was there to cuddle, sending kissing emojis and stuff like that. So we made plans for yesterday to go out and eat, she was excited for it. Then as the days went by, all of a sudden she started to back off a little. Texts weren't as flirty, not replying as fast. At this point I had no idea what was going on, I had yet to do anything stupid(surprisingly). Everything was good it seemed. Now she's given me the cold shoulder completely, but she'll always view my stories on SC(even during the night when I would post one) so obviously she's still curious, right?

So I haven't messaged her in about two days, have not said a word about her going cold. Should I keep ignoring her and see if she comes to me, or should I go right out and ask why shes so distant all of a sudden?


Thanks in advance

DO NOT ask why she's cold. That's very unmanly and just makes you look clueless. Women like indifference in a man, not neediness. Your best bet is to go no contact. If she reaches out in the future, arrange a time to get together and PHUCK HER. could be another guy she's experimenting with. Just go NC and sharpen your skills with women. If she ever comes back, seal the deal.